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Friday, June 12, 2015

Single? ~ Focus on This One Thing!

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When you can be alone and not be lonely… that’s when Love will find you!

NOTlonelyYour ability to focus on a single task – a better you – will dramatically improve once you make the decision to do it. Making the decision is the hardest part. Over time, your decision to work on you every single day will reap tremendous benefits in your life and drastically increase your success rate with the opposite sex.

Staying focused is the key – a total commitment to you. Getting distracted is easy. You’re out in a crowd and you meet someone, begin to think, “He could be the one,” and your commitment to yourself goes out the window. It’s never good to start another relationship until some time has passed. There is no shame in being single for a while. Single is a word that best describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending upon someone else. Don’t allow yourself to get distracted.

Always remember: All failed relationships hurt for awhile, however losing someone who doesn’t appreciate and respect you is actually a “gain” – never a loss!

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Saturday, April 26, 2014

LoveNote for Singles Only!

Filed under: For Singles Only,Relationships — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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LoveNote… For Singles Only ~ Trust your heart! It always tells the truth!

When you have a concern that life is passing you by and you wonder why you haven’t found your true love… that’s your head speaking. It gets your attention by creating a worry about not finding anyone. Quit looking. That may be part of the problem. When your head talks it reflects what you think about the situation. Anxiety and fear feel right at home in the mind. They know they have no power other than what you give them. They know you sometimes aren’t quite sure you know who does have the power. Your heart knows the truth.

LoveNote4SinglesOnlyThe beginning of the journey from the head to the heart is only ‘a decision to begin it’ away. It begins when you become curious enough to self-inquire; to dig deep enough to discover what is in your heart; to discover what you didn’t know you didn’t know! Your heart will become open, active and brave.

Your head makes up things based upon what you already know. Often those are the things that haven’t worked very well for you in the past. Often that’s what keeps you stuck. It would have you think this journey is on a worrisome and fearful path.

The heart explores new ways of being. It helps you discover the possibility that love is. When love speaks from the heart, it gets your undivided attention with words of encouragement, understanding, courage, confidence and acceptance. You take notice.

Your head speaks out of both sides of its mouth. Commitment in a relationship demands dependability. Your head wobbles from one idea to another, with no particular focus. It can come up with more reasons ‘not to’ than it can good reasons to take the leap with faith and know you will be okay. It makes up fear so it doesn’t have to risk taking the leap into the unknown. Part of the problem is it thinks it knows the unknown and it cannot know.

Words from the heart might sound like this:

“Remember to put me first! I am love. I will never let you down.”

“Listen to me! I will tell you when it’s time to take the big step. I know you are still afraid. To step over into love, you must first walk through your fear. You can do it if you take my lead.”

“You are loving you more now. That’s good. You are in process and being prepared to be somebody’s ‘favorite person to love.’ Patience. This takes time. Soon you will be ready.”

“You are beginning to discover genuine intimacy with yourself. Self-intimacy is good. Have patience. You’re getting to know you better. Take it slow and steady. Easy now. You’re doing very well.”

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“Remember, I am love. When you are ready to listen I will speak and you will know it’s me speaking and you will know it’s time.”

How can you be sure you are really ready for a new relationship?

In your heart you will know it’s time when you no longer feel the need to be in a relationship… and you are comfortable with that idea. That kind of love for yourself lights your heart-light. It makes you visible to others who have similar feelings. Your heart-light is loves’ subtle, yet silent signal. It lights the path to love. Proudly and fearlessly let it shine.

The next seemingly logical dilemma is: Where do I look? That’s your head talking again.

Do life! Live fully! Be wherever you show up! Really be who you are wherever you go. Make certain your ‘best foot forward’ is really who you are and not someone you think someone else thinks you should be. “Where do I look?” comes from fear. It makes you think that you need to be looking.

It is not necessary to look. Only pay attention. Put yourself in loves’ way. Be active where other people are. Remember: Like attracts like! Let your heart-light shine.

You won’t find him or her… you will find each other. When need disappears, choice shows up! Not needing to be in a relationship with someone creates the freedom to choose to be in a relationship with someone. In your heart you will know… it’s time.

When you learn to really love yourself, your energy is focused on love not fear, which often appears as desperation. Redirect your energy to listen to the healthy and truthful messages of the heart. Thus begins the journey from the head to the heart.

Only trust your heart! It only and always tells the truth!

LoveNote From the Authors Heart… For Singles Only ~ We get pretty much what we expect to get in our relationship. What we expect to get is what we focus on. If it turns out good, we should not be disappointed. If it turns out bad, we should not be disappointed. We got what we expected. What else did we expect to get?

Perhaps we should learn to be in a relationship with no expectations. In a spirit of unity, only and always work together, all the time, to create the best relationship we can. All the time. With intention. In a spirit of unity. All the time. If we could do that, maybe we wouldn’t have to be concerned about expectations when they surface; we would know things were always going to be as good as the people working on them.

Perhaps that is why it is important to have a great relationship with ourselves. When we can do a great relationship with ourselves, we can do a great relationship with two people. When we reach that place, we can have a great relationship with someone else because we already know how to be in a great relationship… with ourselves!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Saturday, March 1, 2014

Alone Again?

Filed under: For Singles Only,Relationships — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Being alone can help you in getting comfortable about being with yourself. When you are comfortable about being with yourself, your feelings of loneliness will gradually disappear. Spend some time learning to be good company with yourself.

Avoid the self-created fear of being alone. Accept that we do this to ourselves. It can bring no good into our lives. We allow fear to cause us to withhold ourselves from others. Fear breeds insecurities.

alone-againIt could be said, for example purposes, that even Tarzan, Lord of the Jungle, was insecure. He would swing from vine to vine, not letting go until the next vine was safely in hand. Does this sound familiar? This may make sense when you are in the jungle. When you are swinging high above the ground, your life depends on it.

Your life does not depend, however, on always being in a relationship. The need to be always swinging from one love partner to another is not in your best interest. If you are coming from a relationship, the last thing you need is another one… right away, that is. In this scenario, there is no safety in numbers.

We are so afraid of finding ourselves hanging in midair, we latch onto the first available vine that happens along. Not a good idea!

Leap into your greatest fear… be by yourself for a while. Take a good look at what “hanging in midair” feels like. You may be surprised! You will be okay. It won’t be the end of the world. Although it may feel like it, that feeling won’t last forever.

It is wise to practice intimacy with “self” during your abstinence from relationships. Try this: Pray to know God better. Thank him for the courage to get serious about the relationship you have with you. Get to know God. Get to know you. Give yourself the gift of solitude. When you are alone… journal. Get in touch with your true feelings.

Work on falling in love with yourself for a change and see how great that feels! Be your own significant other. Practice the art of loving you. Take the precious time out that is necessary to rediscover who you are without a love partner.

You must first learn to be alone and happy before you can be together and happy. Learn that it is possible for you to live alone and not be lonely. Discover how to be self-sufficient. Don’t be dependent on others for your own existence.

Know that when you eventually do connect with someone you can love, your happiness will be enhanced by just knowing that being in the relationship is your choice and not something you need or must have to survive. To have found someone you can share your life with is one of love’s ultimate adventures.

Read this slowly, let it sink in: Not having a relationship doesn’t keep you all warm and cuddly at night; however, getting yourself ready for a really great love relationship must be your highest priority. Be true to yourself first, it is well worth the wait.

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Thursday, August 29, 2013

For Lonely Singles Only

Filed under: For Singles Only — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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If you do not cherish the companionship you find with yourself, then you can never find it with someone else.

It is important to be your own best friend. Doing so gives you knowledge of yourself. You must have a clear understanding of what true friendship is before you can earn the right to share it with someone else.

HEADSupSinglesOnce that status is achieved, the warmth of the friendship you have for yourself will radiate and attract another who has shared a similar experience; someone who will appreciate you for the true friend you really are.

One more thing, never look for a relationship if you are lonely. No one else can make you happy. You have to do that for yourself and you can’t be happy if you are lonely all the time.

Remember, “like attracts like!” Lonely people seem to either choose to remain alone or to hang out with other lonely people. You will not find love there. Lonely people often show up as being very needy. My best advice: Avoid them!

If you have just come from a relationship, you would be wise to not jump back into another relationship too soon. Give yourself some time for the hurt to heal. Take as much time as you need.

The good news is… once you can be okay with being alone and not be lonely… love will find you. However, it will only find you if you make yourself available for love. Mix and mingle with single friends. Live your life. Focus on having fun with other singles. Keep working on you to make yourself ready for Love.

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Thursday, August 1, 2013

3 Lies You’re Telling Yourself That Keep You Single

Filed under: For Singles Only,Relationships,Self-Image — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Virginia Clark, Guest Author

Here’s how your negative internal monologue may be pushing love away from you.

ilie-to-yourselfI don’t want you to feel like a crazy person, but have you noticed how much you talk to yourself? Everyone does it, and you’re probably not an exception. Even now, while you read these words, your mind is chatting to you.

Indeed, our self-talk is active during every waking moment. Much of what we say to ourselves is made up of repetitive ideas that we’re not even aware we’re thinking. If the majority of these ideas are negative, our actual experience will in turn be tinged with negativity, giving us the very opposite of what we desire. After all, what we desire is love in a healthy relationship.

If we don’t get wise to the self-talk going on in the privacy of our minds, we’ll end up sabotaging our relationships, creating pain and misery for ourselves and for those around us. Often, we tell our friends and family one thing, but secretly think the opposite. For example, we may say that we’re happy being single, and excited about the search for a partner. In our minds, we’re terrified, scolding ourselves for not yet finding a good guy. In fact, there seems to be a “collective unconscious” of single women’s thoughts.

Speak-the-truthHere are the three lies I hear women telling themselves most often:

1. I will never find a man who’ll love me.
2. I’m not worthy of a great love.
3. I will die alone.

If these thoughts are all too familiar, you’re in need of some positivity. Luckily, there’s a remedy. We have to recognize that these beliefs are a product of our fear, and that they must be put to rest by acknowledging some truths.

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Instead, tell yourself:

1. There is someone out there for everyone. I see proof of this as I look at the many different kinds of couples all around me. I choose to believe that if I exist, so does he. If I am longing to find my partner; he must be longing to find me right now as well.

2. No one is perfect. That includes myself and the man who’ll love me. There are many imperfect people in wonderful relationships, and I’m no different. I know I’m worthy of a great love because if I wasn’t, then I wouldn’t have this strong desire for one.

3. This is my fear talking and it has nothing to do with my life or ability to love. I’m just being overly dramatic and scaring myself. No one knows the future or how their life will end. I refuse to hurt myself with these thoughts any longer. I choose to live in the present and enjoy my life.

clarkWe will always have negative self-talk; it’s a part of our makeup and it’s not going away. But we also have the ability to redirect our thoughts, to catch the negative ones that hold us back and to choose healthier ones that move us forward.

Copyright © 2013 – Virginia Clark. Virginia has coached hundreds of woman by helping them to uncover their blocks to love and marriage. She is the author of “It’s Never too Late to Marry.” With over 14 years of experience as a successful Certified Hypnotherapist, she is an expert on the power of the subconscious mind and it s ability to transform one s love life. You can find out more at www.ItsNeverTooLateToMarry.com

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Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Single and Ready for Love… Caution!

Caution: Don’t fall in love with a broken heart. That would be someone who has just come out of a relationship and hasn’t yet had enough time to heal.

You knew that, right? When your heart has been broken, it takes time for it to heal. You do not want to carry that pain into another relationship until you don’t hurt anymore. Even then, it is important to take some time be see what being alone for awhile feels like. Do not rush. That would be another mistake.

firstdateOkay. So… it’s been enough time. He’s been gone long enough. You’re ready to begin dating. You just want to see what’s out there.

You finally exercised your forgiveness option – both for him and yourself; read relationship and personal growth books, hired a relationship coach; went to a seminar or two and spent lots of time alone, working on you. That’s a great start in the right direction. Not everyone you meet on your dating quest has been doing what you’ve been doing for the last year or so. You know. The stuff that lets you know you are ready for another relationship – or, at least, to see what’s available.

You will probably attend a few singles groups. That will help to be around people again. Maybe even sign up on a “We Help You Get a Hot Date” website. Sometimes that works. Sometimes it doesn’t.

Most single women who come to me for relationship coaching tell me that most of the men they meet just want to get in their pants. Get a clue, guys! They tell me that guys should grow up; that they are the one’s who need coaching about how to talk to and be with a woman. Know anybody like that? They also say that men seem to want to talk about their past relationship. Not good. There may come a time when that could be relevant but certainly not on the first date or two.

You may have to kiss a lot of frogs. You also need to know that there is no perfect man (or woman either, for that matter). No knight on a horse. No “the one.” And you would be wise to show up around people until love finds you. In my opinion, looking for love is like showing up at a single event with a sign on your forehead that reads, “I’m available.” BE love. Be the kind of person that you know someone would love. Celebrate Love wherever you go and with whomever you are with.

Here are a couple of ideas. You have a right to be picky. However, not too picky. You will meet a couple of jerks once in a while. Smile. Say, “No thank you” when he asks to see you again. You need to know the quality of a man’s character, personality type, is he married to his job, “is he married!”, does he have time for a little romance, etc. Make a list. You will probably be adding to it after the first date or three. Or you may even cross off a few things that you have discovered aren’t that important.

slowdownNot everyone you meet is really ready for a relationship, much less a “committed” relationship. Come across that way and you will probably scare away a few good ones as well as the bad ones. Many of the people you will meet – both men and women – still have broken hearts and they are still feeling the pain.

Never settle for the first guy that makes you feel good. When you haven’t had a warm tender hug in a long time, it can be very tempting. Take it slow. I can say don’t do this, but I know you will. You will have an occasion to play the “comparison” game; “He’s just like my ex!” Not a good game to be playing. You only want to look back to see how far you’ve come and the lessons you learned along the way. Don’t make the same mistakes. You know the ones. Take plenty of time to get to know each other. Have great conversations. Take your time. When you have a relevant question, ask it.

Above all… don’t fall in love with a broken heart. That would definitely throw your plan to be happy in a loving relationship totally out of balance and in a downward spiral. If I’m talking to you. I hope you can see that.

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Saturday, December 26, 2009

LoveNote. . . For Singles Only

Filed under: For Singles Only,Relationships — Larry James @ 8:00 am
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Beware of dancing hormones! They often mask a multitude of stuff. You know what I mean. It’s that time when both of your antennas go up! You’re tuned in to each other. Your body tells you things you didn’t know about yourself.

Your heart is dancing! Is it your heart or your hormones? To some, that is the fun part; a time for romance; the time when you are deep in thought. . . “Is this the one?”

While it’s true that this part of a relationship feels good, perhaps you should follow your heart instead of your hormones on this one. The hormones will scream words like: ‘forget all that stuff about healthy love relationships, live fast, love hard and get this one before he or she gets away!’ or ‘carve another notch, this one’s the same as in bed!’ or whatever the hormones moan.

Your heart will whisper words like: ‘take it easy!’ – ‘one step at a time!’ – ‘get to know each other’ – ‘tell each other the relevant truth’ – ‘make sure it’s love and not just sex!’ or whatever the heart could say that would be words of love and encouragement.

Only and always listen to your heart!

two heartsCopyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” There are more than 750 pages of great relationship information on Larry’s Website. Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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Tuesday, October 6, 2009

For Singles Only

It could be said that one of the signs you may be ready for a committed relationship is when you reach a point where you’ve found someone you love and want to be with, yet you experience a feeling of hesitancy to relinquish the freedom you have also learned to love.

It is the solitude of single life; a place where you learned to love who you are and be comfortable with that. It is proof that you know about discipline.

To allow yourself a time of healing, a time to get to know you, is a wonderful gift; the same gift of love that now presents the challenge to step into the future, without holding on to the past. It is the first step you take while you are still afraid. It requires letting go of the need to be in a relationship and mastering the fear that keeps you from taking the first step to the next relationship; the singles’ rite of passage.

The reluctance to experience this ritual may come from a lack of conversations that construct the mutual commitment necessary to honor each other’s right to be alone while you are together. A new freedom waits to be discovered; the freedom to be who you really are with the one you love.

heart1Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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