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Monday, January 22, 2018

Valentine’s Day! Gifts Through the Times…

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Deborah Lansing, Guest Author

The countdown to Valentine’s Day is on–the big day for love and romance is five week’s away. And you know what that means, guys? Time to start making those romantic plans…and shopping for the perfect gift. No pressure, right? And, for the love of all that is good, do not forget to mark the day in your phone…because, yeah, we know some of you forget!

So what do you get this year? That really depends on how long you’ve known the person you’re with—whether this is a significant other, spouse, new relationship. If you just started getting to know each other, then Valentine’s Day isn’t such a big responsibility. You’re not expected to go all out with flowers and all the big stops, because, yes, that could be way over the top (and kind of pushy). A small bouquet or gift is fine for a new relationship. Maybe talk about what the two of you want to do that day…keep it casual. Unless, of course, the relationship is really heating up. Then you may want to make a lasting impression.

If you’re shopping for a longtime love or spouse, Valentine’s Day is more of an event. But how much of an event depends on the two of you. If you’ve been together for a while, then you probably have an understanding about tastes and expectations. Maybe this means flowers, jewelry, candy. Or you may be a low-key couple and order pizza and queue up a few movies. Valentine’s Day means something different to every couple.

But what if you really want to do something different this year? Make a big splash perhaps. If this is the mother of your children we’re talking about, Valentine’s Day is a great time to present her with a pendant or ring with the family’s birthstones. Or maybe she’s always wanted diamond earrings? You can always surprise her with a unique bouquet—something beyond roses like sunflowers, daisies or even succulents!

Esquire has an amazing list of really unusual—and fantastic—gifts for women. Think boots, crossbody bags and “a badass earring!” Just so you know, big earrings are back! Small stackable rings are also a nice choice. Bath items like lotions and bubble bath, though, can be hit or miss. You really have to know his/her fragrance preference. Stylecaster also recommends breakfast in bed…complete with lots of heart-shaped balloons! If you’re on a budget, you can usually buy Mylar balloons at a dollar store!

Still in need of ideas or inspiration? Check out the infographic that looks at “Valentine’s Gifts through the Ages” below.

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Cupid, another symbol of Valentine’s Day, became associated with it because he was the son of Venus, the Roman god of love and beauty. Cupid often appears on Valentine cards. Be sure to read” “The Story of Cupid.”cupid

Copyright 2017 ~ Deborah Lansing. Deborah Lansing was born and raised in San Diego, California where she attended Santa Clara University and graduated with a degree in Marketing. She has surfed since she was a teenager, and enjoys pretty much any activity that involves spending time in the sun.

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Saturday, June 20, 2015

The Key to Lasting Love

Bob Hollander, JD, LCSW-C and Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, Guest Authors

Remember the Beatles song, “All You Need is Love”? For a relationship to last a lifetime, nothing could be further from the truth.

RELlastingLOVELove is defined as an intense feeling of strong affection and attraction; a deep romantic or sexual attachment. It is what initially brings us together. It’s the beginning; it’s the first thing we need in a relationship. But love by itself will not sustain a partnership “till death do us part.” The romantic notion the feeling of love will hold us together forever is a myth.

Why isn’t it enough? Why isn’t romantic love, followed by commitment or marital vows, able to keep us connected for a lifetime? The answer is “falling in love” or “being in love,” though a powerful emotion, is passive. Our culture naively teaches us to believe the feelings of love will never change. We don’t learn how to actively nurture and grow the emotion of love over our lifetimes.

“To describe love is very difficult, for the same reason that words cannot fully describe the flavor of an orange. You have to taste the fruit to know its flavor. So with love.” ~ Paramahansa Yogananda

Love is a feeling and feelings are strange things. You can’t see them or touch them; they exist in our minds and our hearts. They are dynamic and always in process. And they are highly subject to change over the years depending on life’s circumstances. We expect the promise we make in our vows, alone, will ensure those powerful feelings will last forever. In reality it takes so much more than that.

Our feelings of love are subject to how much attention we pay to them. If we intentionally feed feelings, they grow; if we starve feelings, they die. And if we do neither, and don’t truly attend to them, they capriciously respond to the happenings in our lives.

When life gets serious, if couples are not consciously aware of working through their feelings together, it’s likely that anger, frustration, sadness and fear will overshadow the feelings of love; and the connection may drift away.

So what is the key to lasting love and a forever relationship?

Consciously and actively love your partner, everyday. Feed the love, listen with empathy, communicate, problem solve, face and embrace difficult feelings, apologize and forgive.

To stay in love we need to:

Create love. Build love. Practice love. Nurture love. Grow in love. Every day.

I didn’t marry you because you were perfect. I didn’t even marry you because I loved you. I married you because you gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.

“And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage. And when our children were growing up, it wasn’t a house that protected them; and it wasn’t our love that protected them – it was that promise.” ~ Thornton Wilder, The Skin of Our Teeth

BONUS Articles: Let Love Change the Course of Your Life
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Copyright © 2015 by Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD. Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, is a licensed counselor and co-founder of Relationships Work, an innovative therapy practice and online resource center. Together with her husband, Bob, they encourage couples to consciously co-create their relationships in order to achieve a deeper, more intimate connection. You can visit Relationships Work online at: http://www.RelationshipsWork.com. Follow them on Facebook.

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Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Love… BE Love… Be Loveable & Be Loved!

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If you want someone to love you, you must love yourself first, only then will you be able to be lovable!

Love is expressed as an action and experienced as a feeling. Give love freely and unconditionally. Work on giving as much as you take. True giving is when you give without expectation. When you give love freely, all that you give out comes back to you. It might not come back in the way you expect it, but you will truly feel it in your heart. When you reach out to those that you love without a thought of the outcome or an attachment to the consequences, then you will know that you are doing the best thing for everyone concerned.

REL-BeLove2The secret to feeling loved by someone else is loving yourself. As the love within you grows, so does the love you feel from others. Loving yourself is a process. It’s not like you do it once, check it off the list and you’re good to go. It’s a lifestyle that you adopt and commit to forever. When you love yourself first, then everything else will fall into place.

“If you have problems loving yourself, then work hard to build yourself up. Work on your self confidence by accepting your past and moving forward. You may feel that things you did in the past will make you unlovable, or that you have too many problems to be lovable. Untrue. Accept the things that happened to you, forgive yourself, and move on.” ~ WikiHow

Spend time with your loved ones. There’s nothing that can put things in perspective and distract you from worrying about work like spending quality time with friends and family. Dedicate time to the people you love in order to live a balanced life.

We waste so much time looking for the perfect lover. Instead we should take all the time necessary to create a perfect love for ourselves within ourselves.

So… If you really want to be in a relationship, first, you must work on you to prepare yourself for a relationship. Love yourself as much as you want to be loved. Spend some time being okay with being single. Live alone for a while. Just work on you. When it “feels” right, put yourself in a position to meet lots of people. Don’t zero in on any one person right away. Take your time. Love yourself from the inside out. Don’t force love and don’t try to speed it up. The people you attract are the reflection of who you are. Be careful not to make the same mistakes you have made in the past. Allow yourself to “be” yourself. Let yourself be vulnerable with others. Be a good friend. Remember: “Friends, first!” It has been my experience that when you can be alone and not be lonely, love will usually find you when you least expect it.

“Looking for love is hell. The way out of hell is not to seek for love but to see how you are blocking love. You begin by examining what is causing you to seek for love in the first place. First, you must cast off all the loveless images of yourself that you have made. Looking for love, in its truest sense, isn’t about find­ing someone else; it’s about find­ing yourself again.” ~ Robert Holden, PhD., author of “Loveability: Knowing How to Love and Be Loved

lovelessnessAll the happiness, health, and abundance you experience in life comes from your ability to love and be loved. One day, every society on our planet will honor and celebrate the importance of love. Take some time now and check in with your heart. Do your part. Make a choice to Love… BE Love… Be Loveable & Be Loved!

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Sunday, May 3, 2015

LOVE Like the Sun ~ Shine on Everyone the Same!

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Mastin Kipp, Guest Author

It’s a good day to analyze the judgments we have about others.

Wherever we want to make others wrong for how they are being, let us first look inside our own selves.

LoveLikeTheSUNIn my kind of work, I do everything I can to give, to add value and to help others. And I understand that when it comes to pushing on topics that are tender for folks, a lot of emotion can come up.

What I’ve come to realize is that when people stand up and shine their Light, it shines a light on other people’s darkness. And those of us who try our best to shine tend to get some darkness projected onto us.

When you shine your light, you are bringing about 10% of the meaning. When someone interprets what you are saying through their filter, they bring 90% of the meaning to what you are saying.

And BOY – let me tell you – on this end, I get a WIDE variety of e-mail and tweets from people. Lots of praise and lots of haters. And I love ‘em all. My mantra is “Bring ‘em all into my heart.”

I realize when someone is sending me negativity or hate, it’s not because I’m wrong or did something wrong, it’s a projection of what’s inside them onto me. And the same goes for me. When I’m in a negative or angry state, I tend to project that state onto others. Thank GOD I have an amazing girlfriend! She is BEYOND patient with me (I love you, boo!).

But the key is, let us not stand in our light because we are afraid of the darkness that will be projected onto us. That is letting fear win.

Let us EMBRACE and WELCOME darkness, anger, sadness and fear of others – KNOWING that it is simply a deeper request for LOVE. All anger at its core is a request for LOVE. All hate at its core is a request for LOVE.

And as Louise Hay once said, “People need Loving the most when they deserve it the least.”

My aim in Life is to try to Love like the Sun – which shines on everyone the same. I’m not there yet, but I’m trying my best. And I’ve had to make peace with the idea that people are going to project onto me because of the path in life that I have chosen. There will be positive and negative projections – and none of those projections or opinions define who I am. Just like when I am in a positive or negative state, my projections and opinions do not define others. It’s all about your relationship with yourself. And my relationship with myself.

What you think is off in them is an opportunity to see how YOU can bring even more Love. This doesn’t mean being a pushover, but it does mean seeing that each person, no matter how evil they may seem, is an innocent child of The Uni-verse and at their core is a desire for Love.

The most “evil” people on the planet do what they do because it meets their needs. And they are simply getting their needs met in a fearful way. Sometimes it’s easier for people to kill other people than it is for them to kill their own ego. But, when we love like Buddha, Jesus, Gandhi, Mother Teresa and all the Saints of all time, we choose non-violence as a way to demonstrate the power of Love.

Be that demonstration in your own life.

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Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Love Yourself FIRST!

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A loving relationship with yourself is a prerequisite to having a healthy love relationship with someone else. Assume you have that handled. What’s next?

We must remember that this is it! Someday is now! No time to mess around. Life is too short. Live in the present.

Experience the empowering feeling of allowing yourself the freedom to be who you need to be in your next relationship… right now. You have already experienced the past. Want more of that? Continue to focus on it and you will not be disappointed.

RELLoveYourselfFirstWe must create a future worth living into. The old way of being in a relationship isn’t good enough. We must invent the kind of relationship we want, then go about devoting our time and energy to making it happen. It will happen when we care enough to give ourselves the very best of everything.

This includes giving yourself time if you are just coming out of a relationship that didn’t work. Welcome to living solo! They say, “Time heals all wounds” and you must do the things necessary for the healing of the hurt to occur. Work on you.

Every man needs to love himself unconditionally to be able to pass it on. You know you better than anyone. Ask yourself: “Who would I have to become to be the kind of person I would enjoy being with for the rest of my life?”

Spend some prayerful moments thanking God for the choice to choose the courage to become that person. Then, do what needs to be done.

Okay. So, you have been attracted to a real sweetheart and you are about to embark on ‘Destination Unknown,’ often called the first date. What to do? Naturally we men want to put our best foot forward. We have a thing about being really cool on the first date. Often we withhold who we really are, afraid that if she knew the truth about us, she would very quickly distance herself from us.

This is why we must learn to communicate more effectively how we feel to our partner. Women love men who are sensitive to their needs; who demonstrate that they care; who communicate understanding by listening to what she says (and when we are unclear about what she says… we ask questions – this shows we are really listening); and most of all, women love men who threat them with respect.

You show up as Mr. Clean; shoes shined, clean shaven, a dash of cologne and looking sharp. Most people are attracted to someone who is well groomed however, there is more to it than that. What do you communicate from your heart? Do you say what you feel needs to be said in a loving way?

Make good eye contact. This shows you are paying attention. It also suggests someone who is self-confident. Men whose eyes drift are, right or wrong, thought to be uncertain of themselves. To a woman, this is a red flag.

Have meaningful conversations about things that count. Watch your words. Remember, you cannot un-ring a bell. Once out there, words can be loving or deadly. Be brave enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable; to reveal those bits and pieces of yourself that communicate the real you. This does not mean boring her with your sordid past… only the relevant truth; what’s real for you in this relationship.

love-yourselfPart of the problem of dating is what M. Scott Peck, in his book “A Road Less Traveled” calls the ‘romantic myth.’ We try so hard, early in the relationship to always be at our best, then when we are several months into the relationship, we feel as though we have reached our goal, we slack off and that’s when things can begin to slowly fall apart.

You may hear her say, “You were so sensitive and caring when we were first dating. What’s happened to that wonderful man that swept me off my feet?” Or she may think it and never say it, leaving you to wonder, “What’s wrong?”

Listen carefully. Relationships are a bit of a puzzle for most men anyway. When a man and a woman finally get together, the glaring differences show up.

Dr. John Gray, Ph.D., author of “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” says, “We must learn to recognize and understand these differences before we can effectively be ourselves in the relationship.”

Only and always do your best. All the time. Not only when in pursuit. Not only when it’s broken and needs to be fixed. Every day and every minute. Do what works. If you send thoughtful greeting cards, leave love notes and, for no reason, give her an occasional flower… continue that process. Women love romance. It’s called… ‘follow-through.’ Keep on doing what works.

God wants what is best for you. You deserve only the best of everything. And it takes care and attention to your own wants and needs first, for you to be able to take on the responsibility of a committed, healthy love relationship.

Be yourself… right now! How sad to try to be someone you think someone else thinks you should be. It is not possible. Be the real you all the time.

Demonstrate your own authenticity. When you do, you never have to worry that six months down the road, she is going to be disappointed because she thinks the man she is now with is not the person she fell in love with.

In my “Relationship Enrichment LoveShops,” single women often complain that men don’t communicate their feelings. Now you know. Do that. Take a clue. Women have a desire to know the real you. Don’t withhold yourself. Be who you are and if you don’t like who you are, steer clear of a committed relationship for a while until you can learn to love yourself. You cannot deliver from an empty wagon. You must have love for yourself to be able to give the love your partner so richly deserves.

Men must learn to reveal ourselves to others. Let them be sure of who you are. It takes constant attention to detail. Be unto others as you would have them be unto you. Allow no miscommunication that would allow for misunderstandings. There is nothing inherently wrong with putting your best foot forward on the first date and the dates that follow unless you are only being nice for a while to get what you want. That isn’t good enough. You must take care to assure her that your best foot forward is connected to the real you.

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Friday, April 17, 2015

Friends and Lovers

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Larry’s NOTE: I wrote this piece back in the early 80’s as a guide for my behavior in a relationship. To absorb the true intent of the words, it is best to read it aloud. – maybe more than once! 😉

I am learning to see my love partner without distortion; to value her as highly as I value myself to give without expecting anything in return; to commit myself fully to her welfare. Only then can love move freely between us without apparent effort. It’s unconditional love between best friends.

When we are able to love in this selfless manner, we experience a release of energy. We cease to be consumed by the details of our relationship, or the need to operate within the artificial structure of exercises; we spontaneously treat each other with love and respect. Love becomes automatic.

Friends&LoversMy forever lover is my very best friend!

LoveNote… The only way to have a friend is to be one. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I believe that friendship among lovers is essential to unconditional love and is the primary ingredient for a deep and lasting love relationship. I trust her with the deepest murmurings of my soul. She knows the best and the worst of me and yet loves me through and through – a friend as well as a lover.

In order to experience the kind of relationship I want, I accept the fact that, in order to understand each other, my love partner and I must have clearly developed channels of communication. I cultivate transparency of myself by being a master in the art of self-disclosure. I know that when the inclination to reveal myself to the one I love is blocked, I close myself to her and experience emotional difficulties. I promise to never hide behind a facade.

I will forever practice telling my love partner exactly what pleases me, decreasing her reliance on mental telepathy. 😉 I express preferences instead of demands. I believe that I can never know myself except as an outcome of disclosing myself to her.

In ways I may not fully understand, self-disclosure helps me to see things, feel things, imagine things, hope for things that I could never have thought possible. The invitation to transparency, then, is really an invitation to authenticity. It is also an invitation to allow myself to be vulnerable.

LoveNote… Never close your lips to those to whom you have opened your heart. ~ Charles Dickens

When I allow my love partner to see me for who I really am right now, I am less afraid I will be rejected in the future. When my love partner accepts and loves me unconditionally, I know I will never have to hide in the relationship in the future.

To have inner peace it is necessary to be consistently loving in what I think, in what I say and in what I do. I think thoughts of love. I speak words of love. I demonstrate unconditional love for my love partner in all that I do.

Openness means being willing to communicate my deepest feelings. There can be no intimacy without conversation. The only way my love partner and I can truly communicate is to tell the truth. Truthful communication moves love partners and creates a condition of unity, love and satisfaction.

For intimacy to grow in a healthy love relationship there can be no withholding; feelings – both positive and negative – must be shared equally between love partners. The act of withholding the truth is always potentially a lie.

The energy required for the self-discipline of honesty is far less than the energy required for withholding. My love partner and I are dedicated to the truth and live in the open, and through the exercise of our courage to live in the open, we become free from fear. Fear cannot exist whenever insight is valued above feeling frightened.

I listen when my lover shares without making judgment. My heart is always open to hear what my love partner has to say.

LoveNote… A good relationship is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his solitude. Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue to exist, a wonderful living side by side can grow up, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against a wide sky. ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

Someone said that it is possible to be together so much that we suffocate each other. Perhaps. I do not allow this to happen in my love relationship. I believe that love includes letting go when my partner needs freedom; holding her close when she needs care. I am committed to creating space in my relationship when needed.

We have learned to cherish both intimacy and solitude. We never feel tied to each other.

LoveNote… Don’t smother each other. No one can grow in the shade. ~ Leo Buscaglia

At the heart of love, there is a simple secret: the lover lets the beloved be free. My love partner and I require different mixes of independence and mutuality, and the mix is freely discussed and renegotiated from time to time when necessary.

When two people in a love relationship are complete within themselves they do not experience the love they have for others as diminishing, detracting, or threatening to the love they share. They are secure within the relationship.

Insecurities bring forth jealousy, which, in effect, is a cry for more love. It is within your rights to ask for more affection when self-doubts surface, however, the indirect way that jealousy asks for it is counterproductive. Excessive possessiveness is inappropriate. Jealousy is the surest way to drive away the very person you may fear losing.

It is an irony that the more possessive I am, the more love I demand, the less I receive; while the more freedom I give, the less I demand, the more love I receive. I take great pleasure in watching my love partner be fully free and fully alive!

MeYouLoveNote… Love is not possessive. ~ I Corinthians 13:4

We encourage each other to widen our circle of friends. We each seek to ever expand our horizons. We enjoy celebrating life together and with friends!

I know that if I expect to be the only person who matters to my love partner I am setting myself up for disappointment. As wonderful as true love can be, no one person can meet all your needs. My love partner is, and will always be my very best friend, and she is not my only friend.

I fully expect my love partner to have other passionate interests other than me. To extend the freedom to develop her own interests in other people and hobbies can only empower our relationship. Freedom can never confine. It can never be detrimental to the relationship. It can only open up many exciting and previously undiscovered opportunities to enjoy life.

When my lover is pursuing areas in which she excels, she is happy. I enjoy her most when she is happy. People are easier to love when they are happy.

Trust is forever present in our love relationship; trust and deep commitment to each other, and loyalty and devotion. This allows us the freedom to care about people of the opposite sex and to enjoy friendships with them, and when we sit down together in the evening to share the events of the day, we do not have to ask if our love partner has been faithful.

LoveNote… Love from one being to another can only be that two solitudes come nearer, recognize and protect and comfort each other. ~ Han Suyin

The stronger and more secure we become, the more we are willing to be ourselves while encouraging our love partner to do the same.

Genuine unconditional love not only respects the individuality of the other but actually seeks to cultivate it, even at the risk of separation or loss. The ultimate goal remains the spiritual growth of my love partner, the solitary journey to peaks that can be climbed only alone.

LoveNote… But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together; for the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow. ~ Kahlil Gibran

I believe that no matter how committed my forever love relationship, I will always be “single” as well as a part of a couple. Unconditional love is a special, intense connection, and it is not an answer to all or even most individual problems. No one can make me happy but me.

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Top Ten Ways to Give Love

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Bob Hollander, JD, LCSW-C and Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, Guest Authors

Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more. ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

GiveLOVEWhen partners meet, the magic of love just happens. Feelings of romance, desire, excitement, chemistry, abound effortlessly. We are convinced that we have found our true love, the one who will always be there, never disappoint us, or leave. We base lifetime commitments on these exhilarating feelings and settle into a false sense of safety and security.

The simplistic belief that love will last forever is a myth. After the chase is over, we relax and put forth less effort to please. We begin to take each other for granted. We get busy. We stop doing small acts of love. No one every told us that, left on it’s own, love will go away.

The truth is that romantic love creates a wonderful flame, a great beginning, but it will not keep burning unless the fire is stoked. Love has an appetite and it needs to be fed, lest it starve to death.

What we have learned about love is that you have to actively “give it.” Remember the words in John Mayer’s song, “Love Is A Verb:”

Love ain’t a drug
Despite what you’ve heard
Yeah love ain’t a thing
Love is a verb

So you gotta show, show, show me…
That love is a verb

Here are our top ten ways to give love:

1) Tell’m. ~ How often do you tell your partner you love her? We don’t mean the “Love ya” as you are walking out the door or finishing your phone conversation. We mean using words to tell your partner authentically how much she means to you. It could be out loud, or in a card, a poem or a text. Bob sometimes tells other people how much he loves me in front of me. Though I blush, it makes me feel good.

2) Surprise’m. ~ When was the last time you did something special for your partner? Not on an anniversary or Valentines Day; but a random act of love, “just because.” Flowers, a small gift, a special meal, a backrub, a foot massage, doing a chore (without being asked) are ways to express that he is special to you. One time I surprised Bob and had his whole family come down from New York to visit. He was so grateful; he couldn’t stop thanking me. Good thing he likes his family.

3) Unplug. ~ Are you “on” all the time? Carve out “electronic free” time – no cell phones, no texting, no email, no Facebook. You may be surprised at how good it feels, like you have been set free. We don’t realize how much our electronics control our lives. Bob and I put our electronics away after 9pm at night and spend time together.

4) Initiate connection. ~ How often do you think to initiate conversation, hugs, kisses, a date, a weekend away, a fun or new activity, sex? We hear couples complain a lot about this. “He doesn’t take me out on dates.” “She never initiates sex.” We are so busy doing everything that we have to do, that we forget to initiate connection and closeness. Bob and I often reach out to express affection. It’s a wonderful gift.

5) Be playful. ~ Does life feel too serious? As adults we have so much responsibility, we stop being playful. Remember fun? Take time out to be spontaneous. Think like a kid. Go play ball or Frisbee. Go to a trampoline park or an amusement park without the kids. Our favorite times are going to vineyards for a picnic and dancing.

6) Forgive and let go. ~ Do you hold grudges? Talk through conflict instead of sweeping it under the rug. Listen to each other’s point of view. Everyone is right from his/her perspective, even if you don’t agree. Embrace it, face it, apologize, forgive and let go. Bob and I have learned how to face our conflicts in a way that brings us closer. And we teach other couples to do the same.

7) Be generous. ~ How giving are you? Give of your love, your money and your time to each other. Fill each other’s cup. Create love habits. Nurture the connection, the passion, the emotional and erotic feelings. Bob and I have always carved out time for dates. When our kids were young we went away for weekends a few times a year to give to each other and our relationship.

8) Accept’m. ~ Do you accept each other? We all have our own quirks, personalities, annoying habits. Often we try to change our partner. Choose your battles and accept your partner’s idiosyncrasies. Bob used to be chronically late and I responded by being chronically angry. One day I decided to accept this about him. When I let go of my anger, he was on time more often. Imagine that.

9) Look’m in the eye. ~ When you talk do you make eye contact? So often in session with couples we notice that people don’t look at each other. When there’s a problem or when expressing deep feelings, eye contact is the path to true connection. When Bob and I talk deeply we always do it face to face.

10) Connect Head, Heart and Hormones. ~ Feed what we call the “Head, Heart, Hormones” connections. Work on all three to nourish love. Head means communicate, share, listen, validate each other. Heart means do small acts of love to express your caring. Hormones means have sex. Nurture all parts of the relationship and it will last a lifetime.

In how many of these ways do you express love? Share this with your partner and remember, Love Is A Verb.


All titles and credit go to John Mayer, Columbia Records, and © 2012 Sony Music Entertainment.

Copyright © 2014 by Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD. Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, is a licensed counselor and co-founder of Relationships Work, an innovative therapy practice and online resource center. Together with her husband, Bob, they encourage couples to consciously co-create their relationships in order to achieve a deeper, more intimate connection. You can visit Relationships Work online at: http://www.RelationshipsWork.com. Follow them on Facebook.

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Monday, December 22, 2014

Divorce Does Not Have to Be a Nasty Break-up!

Filed under: Divorce,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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After talking with my former wife, I hung up, sat back in my chair and thought: “I know she really loves me!”

WoW!

A wave of realization rolled over me. Although I already knew this, this sudden mind fart got me thinking. We love each other, however, although we were married for 20 years and after a long time, reconnected; lived together for about 5 years and again we are apart, we still see each other often.

DivorceNOTmessyIt just wasn’t in the cards for us to be together forever. It’s obvious that we love each other and… we are not together. We had a friendly parting of the ways. We have had honest conversations about what cause the breakup. We both said, “I’m sorry” and have forgiven each other and realize that you can love someone and choose not be together.

When someone really loves you, they won’t try to change you, but they also won’t let you settle for anything less than you were created to be. If someone wants to be around you all the time, that’s not love – it’s infatuation. As love matures, two people will realize that they often need to do things separate to maintain their own identities.

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During the time we do spend together, she will often ask about, and show sincere interest in, the high and low points of my work day. We show respect for each others views. I have found that it’s possible for you and your partner to be on completely opposite poles of the political spectrum and still remain friends. The key feature is not what your beliefs are, but how open you can be to accepting your partner’s perspective as valid.

We often spend time reliving our most enjoyable moments from the past, and do so in a positive and supportive way.

Ours is a love of deep friendship and support. I am a better person now than I was before I met her and so is she. Sometime along the way, she became my best friend. I am proof that you can love someone and choose not be with them. As a relationship coach, I know this is not common, but how my wife and I handled the end of our marriage some years ago was a contributing factor to having our divorce go smoothly and end up still being very special friends. We both communicated the truth about the marriage. We walked away knowing it was both of us who contributed to the downfall. It was a very powerful feeling.

Our relationship was complete! Notice that I did not say that the relationship was over. Relationships never end. You can be complete with a relationship but they never end. Death, divorce, or separation does not end a relationship, it only changes it. As long as you have memory, you will have a relationship.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” ~ Socrates

Why am I telling you all this? I want you to know that divorce or separation does not have to be a nasty break-up. It does not have to be a disaster. That would be called an unhealthy divorce. It can be a friendly parting of the ways. We both chose to be respectful of each other, not to get stuck in the blame game, and to take the high road and have a smooth split. Painful as it is, successful divorce can help both of you to begin new lives that offer a second chance at future successful relationships. You can choose to have a healthy divorce if you are willing to both move beyond your ego. How well you perform this task in large part will determine how your own personal future will turn out.

The changes brought on by divorce can be overwhelming. But now more than ever, it is important to take care of yourself. Must separation put an end to friendship? Certainly not. Although we are apart, we remain friends. Tap into your network of support, turning to family, friends and a professional coach for assistance and comfort.

No matter what happened to cause you to be apart… forgiveness and a mutual respect for one another can make things go much better.

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Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Learning to Love the One You’re With!

Filed under: For Singles Only,Loneliness,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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If you have recently come out of a relationship, heed this word of caution. It may be wise to distance yourself from relationships for a while. Take a breather. The tendency of new singles often is quickly to find someone else to be with. Most ministers and mental health professionals agree that that is not a good idea. It is a colossal mistake!

For some people being in a relationship becomes their “drug of choice.” They skip around from relationship to relationship. Some get stuck. They feel as though they always have to be in a relationship. They develop the dependency of “needing” a relationship. That is not healthy. Some people allow their feelings of insecurity about being alone to keep them stuck, often in an unhealthy relationship.

LoveThe1YoureWithOur former relationships never cease to provide us with new and exciting questions, the answers to which can lead to the breakthrough necessary for a healthy love relationship in the future. The rewards of personal inquiry are invaluable and can assist us greatly in being ready for another relationship when the time is right.

I believe that every relationship we are in serves a definite purpose. It fulfills a need for us as we fulfill needs for someone else. Remember, we should only look back to see how far we’ve come or to see how much we’ve learned. We can look at our past love relationships and focus on the good we learned from them. I must admit that at times this may be difficult.

Spend time working on you. Work on developing your own self as an individual. The one you are with is you! Reinvent a relationship with yourself. Make it a new and exciting relationship; one you can be proud to carry over into your next relationship with someone else. Nobody wants damaged goods.

Allow time for the healing that is necessary for you to feel comfortable with being alone. That is the only way you can learn how to really be with someone else in the future. After coming out of a love relationship, it is normal to feel rather insecure for a while.

It takes a while to adjust to your new beginning. The delayed gratification is worth it. One of the rewards is discovering that the more time you take for yourself, the more love you will have to give to your future love partner.

Choose to be alone for awhile. Being independent enough to be alone is a virtue. Cultivate it. When you can learn to be comfortable with being with yourself, then you may be getting closer to being ready for a healthy love relationship with someone else. During this time of aloneness you will discover a clear distinction between being lonely and being alone.

Being alone can help you in getting comfortable about being with yourself. When you are comfortable about being with yourself, your feelings of loneliness will gradually disappear. Spend some time learning to be good company with yourself.

Avoid the self-created fear of being alone. Accept that we do this to ourselves. It can bring no good into our lives. We allow fear to cause us to withhold ourselves from others. Fear breeds insecurities.

It could be said, for example purposes, that even Tarzan, Lord of the Jungle, was insecure. He would swing from vine to vine, not letting go until the next vine was safely in hand. Does this sound familiar? This may make sense when you are in the jungle. When you are swinging high above the ground, your life depends on it.

Your life does not depend, however, on always being in a relationship. The need to be always swinging from one love partner to another is not in your best interest. If you are coming from a love relationship, the last thing you need is another one. . . right away, that is. In this scenario, there is no safety in numbers.

We are so afraid of finding ourselves hanging in midair, we latch onto the first available vine that happens along. Not a good idea!

Leap into your greatest fear. . . be by yourself for a while. Take a good look at what “hanging in midair” feels like. You may be surprised! You will be okay. It won’t be the end of the world. Although it may feel like it, that feeling won’t last forever.

womaninmirrorIf you haven’t caught on by now. . . the one you’re with is the one you see in the mirror every morning.

It is wise to practice intimacy with “self” during your abstinence from relationships. Pray to know God better. Thank him for the courage to get serious about the relationship you have with you. Get to know God. Get to know you. Give yourself the gift of solitude. When you are alone. . . journal. Get in touch with your true feelings. Work on falling in love with yourself for a change and see how great that feels! Be your own significant other. Practice the art of loving you. Take the precious time out that is necessary to rediscover who you are without a love partner.

maninmirrorYou must first learn to be alone and happy before you can be together and happy. Learn that it is possible for you to live alone and not be lonely. Discover how to be self-sufficient. Don’t be dependent on others for your own existence.

Know that when you eventually do connect with someone you can love, your happiness will be enhanced by just knowing that being in the relationship is your choice and not something you need or must have to survive. To have found someone you can share your life with is one of love’s ultimate adventures.

Not having a relationship doesn’t keep you all warm and cuddly at night; however, getting yourself ready for a really great love relationship must be your highest priority. Be true to yourself first, it is well worth the wait.

Being alone may call up all the feelings you were afraid you would have if you were ever alone. . . and some you could have never imagined. The pain seems to go on and on, though only if you allow it. Healing takes time. Stay with solitude. Don’t be tempted.

At the end of your tunnel is love-of-self and the healing love that only God can provide. You must attain this awareness before you can be in a healthy love relationship with someone else. In times like these, when you are alone with your feelings, life can feel empty.

You can gain much insight into the power of your attitudes in the stillness of looking inward. Your body believes every word you say. Your words and thoughts govern how you feel today and how you will feel tomorrow. A quiet and peaceful mind takes form as a quiet and peaceful body. Peace, be still.

See what it feels like to walk hand-in-hand with yourself. You must first do that before you can walk hand-in-hand with someone else. Give yourself permission to do what may feel risky. Discover new ways of thinking and being. To allow intimacy to be present in a relationship with another, you must first seek intimacy with yourself.

Some of our clearest thinking about relationships can occur when we are not in a relationship. Our mind is often sharper when informed by our own feelings. We are more humble and acutely more in touch with the hurts of the past. We are far more open to new ideas.

Take advantage of this opportunity to learn all you can about yourself and what makes a healthy love relationship. It is in the search for what it takes to have a healthy love relationship that we become more receptive to listening for new ways to make our relationships work better in the future. The very process of searching opens up many new options.

Make having a relationship with yourself your number one priority. Then, and only then, can you move on to what’s next!

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Sunday, August 24, 2014

Larry James Named “Love Ambassador!”

This letter was received on August 19, 2014 from The Love Foundation, Inc.

Dear Larry James,

Love Ambassador banner only 100Congratulations! – We are delighted to announce you have been accepted as one of our Love Ambassadors. Your willingness to live your life dedicated to the vision of love is a potent model for so many. By your words, deeds and actions, you are having a profound impact on all those you contact. We are grateful and happy to extend this recognition to you.

A Love Ambassador shows others what self acceptance means. They are tolerant and embrace diversity. They forgive themselves and others. They visualize how love can transform the world. Ambassadors bring unconditional love to family, friends, communities, companies, schools, and civic organizations. They share their love for the animals, plants, oceans and rivers. They love the earth and all that inhabits it. They are an example of what unconditional love can do in all situations.

uncondloveAs this is a special program for us to acknowledge the silent heroes of love, you are a wonderful addition to this group on our site. We are honored to connect with so many like you from around the world that quietly share their vision and personal commitment to loving unconditionally.

Love, light and peace,

Harold W. Becker, President
John T. Goltz, Vice President
And The Board of Directors

The Love Foundation, Inc.
“Inspiring People To Love Unconditionally”
http://www.TheLoveFoundation.com/loveambassadors/

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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