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Friday, October 4, 2013

Focus!

Cheryl Ries, Guest Author

focusIf you haven’t felt joy, contentment, the presence of beauty or peacefulness in the world – perhaps you’re looking for those things in the wrong way!

All of your happiness, contentment and perspective comes from within. When you maintain a calm demeanor, a peaceful spirit and your soul is at rest, all of those things are evident to you because they are within you. The world might, and often times make it seem impossible to be at peace or to feel contentment, but your choice to feel that way and to remain calm no matter is in your control.

You’re only helplessly adrift in this world if that is how you choose to see things. You are able to shift internally to make even the biggest rogue swells and the roughest waters seem less so. You are truly the captain, sailing your vessel, guiding your course and responding as you go.

The moment you stop viewing life that way is the moment you will start to feel you are merely able to react. That is a lie you have told yourself which really only causes you to feel fearful, taking your peace and contentment.

When you center yourself first, believing you are in control of your emotions and your perceptions, then you can become proactive and less reactive. You will see more of the beauty around you while you are in the peaceful state of contentment and calm. Things may be going on – maddeningly so – all around you, but you don’t have to cede your emotions to taking that ride!

Life is short, why live it with an attitude of seeming helplessness and uncertainty? Live it knowing that no matter what happens, you can maneuver and alter as is best for you.

See first with eyes focused on your own contentment and the world won’t seem so out of focus.

cherylriesCopyright © 2013 – Cheryl Ries. Cheryl Ries is a friend who is in the process of writing her first book. This is a preview of things to come. She likes to take a bite out of life’s big juicy apple… and believes that richness is measured in friendships, family, love and what you give away. Visit Cheryl’s Facebook page.

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Friday, February 22, 2013

Who Holds the Key to Your Happiness?

Filed under: Happiness — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Cheryl Ries, Guest Author

Sometimes we must part from others, or they must part from us. It isn’t that we necessarily wanted to leave them, remove them from our lives or had any knowledge at the beginning that we could foresee that coming, but things change, people change, or sometimes things never were as they seemed.

keytohappinessIn the case of those who walk away, they say that the one who cares less in a relationship has the most power, I would guess that is true, as it seems the one who cares more seems to be the one who is often more wounded, hurt or negatively impacted by the surprise of the relationships demise. So in that regard that is a true statement.

It is important to remember that no one has power over your happiness but you. No one should hold the key to all your happiness but you, and so no one can take your happiness from you when they come or go from you life.

It’s always up to you and you alone to make it a best-case scenario, from the ones who benefit your life and lift you with their presence. With that you learn the greatness of a sweet blessing in which to always be thankful.

From those who treat you poorly, hurt you gravely or in some way just leave you wondering what went wrong, you take the lesson learned of what not to do, what to do better, or what to look for instead of what you accepted. Your choice is always in your own perspective but remember it will happen. People will come and go from your life, so it serves you to learn how to accept that with the least possible suffering and the most wisdom.

When others pass away, it is the hardest thing to endure, but even in that great loss, we must always choose to remember their part in our blessings so that the painful emotions even cannot erode the great memories or our happiness over time.

We must learn how to stand strong through it all, to hold on to our sense of self, our state of happiness and our ability to prosper in this life!

cherylriesCopyright © 2013 – Cheryl Ries. Cheryl Ries is a friend who is in the process of writing her first book. This is a preview of things to come. She likes to take a bite out of life’s big juicy apple… and believes that richness is measured in friendships, family, love and what you give away. Visit Cheryl’s Facebook page.

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Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Guard Your Heart…

Cheryl Ries, Guest Author

Some things are really not hard to see, it is just our own stubborn refusal to truly notice all the warning signs and the obvious hazards posted there as we swing open yet another wrong door.

When we listen – when we pay attention – when we heed our own inner voice of precaution and when we observe the intentions of others through behavior and action instead of just focusing on the words which can prove empty, we then are able to see without our blinders what is really meant for our protection and our best.

Guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life. That, in essence, means that whatever choices you make and whatever direction you are now headed must offer first a way to preserve and protect the soul and spirit which lives within you.

IndianProverbIt is wonderful to imbibe in life with a free and fun spirit, sampling and tasting in great variety what is presented, but your ability to choose determines your own ability to reside peacefully and without damage to the inner essence of your own life.

“If your heart has been broken the best way to fix it is to allow time for healing, then open it up again and allow only Love, happiness and joy in. Open your ears to only what the heart needs to hear. In a full heart filled with Love there is room for everything!” ~ Larry James

Choose wisely. Learn to learn from each and every endeavor which doesn’t suit you or in fact has hurt you in part, for in that lesson availed you will find great wisdom and purposeful motivation to change the course you are now on!

Go forth with the most important goal of self-love, which then ensures self-protection and self-preservation! Learn to accept each step as a means to an end through learning to do and to be better and wiser as you go!

cherylriesCopyright © 2012 – Cheryl Ries. Cheryl Ries is a friend who is in the process of writing her first book. This is a preview of things to come. She likes to take a bite out of life’s big juicy apple… and believes that richness is measured in friendships, family, love and what you give away. Visit Cheryl’s Facebook page.

CLoveLOGOLarry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Friday, August 10, 2012

The Face of Love…

Filed under: Guest Authors,Love — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Cheryl Ries, Guest Author

Some want to fill a hole, others like a conquest, many want proof that they are themselves able and countless want companionship, but love is more than that.

loveIt shouldn’t be sought when needy, nor when insecure, nor for purposes which are selfish, nor just to have a dinner companion to pick up the tab.

Love in earnest is more, it lies deeper and comes from a place only the soul can comprehend and the spirit within can acknowledge. If it’s not that deep, then it is not worthy of the title “love” – in my opinion – as it is inherently less and it surely isn’t worth this daisy-chain of brokeness we’re all stuck on perpetuating.

“To describe love is very difficult, for the same reason that words cannot fully describe the flavor of an orange. You have to taste the fruit to know its flavor. So with love.” ~ Paramahansa Yogananda

Our state of singleness isn’t punishment, it is our time of growth and maturation, healing and learning from past times when love didn’t work.

If we want to be for someone else, to give our love to another, shouldn’t we commit to being healthy of our mind, heart, and body for that endeavor?

If love is what you want, then first find it within to give, making sure you are healthy first and then be unselfish, for that is the face of love. Love is not fear, it is not envy, it has no foothold in selfish endeavors of any sort.

Love is a gift of yourself because you have a loving spirit within. Love is the one aspect of our lives which persists even when all of us have turned to dust and if you don’t “feel” that way for another, then it is not love.

BONUS Articles: What is Love?
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cherylriesCopyright © 2012 – Cheryl Ries. Cheryl Ries is a friend who is in the process of writing her first book. This is a preview of things to come. She likes to take a bite out of life’s big juicy apple… and believes that richness is measured in friendships, family, love and what you give away. Visit Cheryl’s Facebook page.

CLoveLOGOLarry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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