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Monday, April 24, 2017

Touchy, Feely is a Good Thing!

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There’s a reason you reach for your child’s hand in scary moments or interlace fingers with your partner when you’re feeling flirty.

The simple palm-to-palm actions triggers a whole cascade of biological changes! Blood pressure and heart rates drop, which helps calm you, while oxytocin – the cuddle or bonding hormone – is released, says Matthew Hertenstein, Ph.D., director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University in Greencastle, IN.

Reaching for your partner’s hand is a big deal. Taking someone’s hand is a sign of wanting to be close to your partner in a nonsexual way. This simple touch conveys an intimacy that is one of the first steps towards forming an intimate relationship.

Remember that horrible scene in the last horror movie you saw that made you want to jump out of your chair? Luckily, your darling was with you to hold your hand and make you feel safe. The human brain responds to sudden stimulation using adrenaline; this stimulation gets our blood pumping and releases high levels of cortisol throughout our body. During these moments, our natural reaction is to hold hands with someone we trust.

Holding hands releases feelings that improve your health, reduce stress, and you can do it anywhere. Holding hands in public is the best (and least nauseating) way of letting people know that you’re proud of the person you’re with. Plus, it doesn’t matter if you get caught!

Do you enjoy the comforting sensation of holding hands? Been too long for you to remember? Perhaps it’s time that you take your partner’s hands and just hold them for a moment or two to see how that feels.

Touchy, feely is a good thing!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2017 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Monday, February 8, 2016

Romantic Ideas You Can Use at Home

Filed under: Having FUN,Love,Romance — Larry James @ 11:53 am

Romantic ideas you can do at home by Terrys Fabrics
Romantic ideas you can do at home by Terrys Fabrics.

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Wednesday, September 16, 2015

30-Day Relationship Challenge

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Spice up your relationship with this 30-day challenge. There are hundreds of ways to do this. It’s important to keep romance alive. The list below will get you started. Once you have finished this 30-day challenge, make one of your own and keep the romance going on and on, and on, and on. Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place.

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BONUS Articles: Make Everyday a FUNday!
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Romantic Ideas to Make it Valentine’s Day All Year Long!
Celebrate Love at Your Very Own “Wonderama!”

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Thursday, February 12, 2015

Are You In It for the Long Haul?

If someone interviewed you on camera, what would YOU say about your partner?

cupidHow will you express your feelings this Valentine’s Day and the many other days of the year? How’s your “spark?!”

Read: “The History of Valentine’s Day

Cupid, another symbol of Valentine’s Day, became associated with it because he was the son of Venus, the Roman god of love and beauty. Cupid often appears on Valentine cards. Be sure to read” “The Story of Cupid.”

BONUS Article: Romantic Ideas to Make it Valentine’s Day All Year Long!
Little Known Facts About Valentine’s Day!
The Economics of Valentine’s Day

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Sunday, January 11, 2015

Make Everyday a FUNday!

Are you just going through the routines of marriage without really enjoying the journey? It’s time to sample the flavor of FUN! You lose your sparkle when you don’t allow yourself to have fun. Do something ridiculously fun – look, if you’re not happy today, the fastest way to cure that is to just go have fun. Don’t feel guilty. Don’t make excuses. When was the last time you kicked back and had an awesome time? Most couples know their marriages are happier when they make time to have fun. It’s time to put more fun in your marriage or relationship.

Virtually every couple wants to keep their romance alive and fresh with fun things to do with one another. However, as life gets busy, fun seems to be one of the first thing to disappear. Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place!

FUNdaysNo matter how hard you work, or how much stress you have on your plate, make sure to do something fun every day. Make time for fun. Fun brings on happiness.

Everyone I know is busy, but we should make sure our schedule never gets so crowded that we cannot enjoy time with the love of our life. Many couples plan their fun for the weekends. That’s great. As a couple how do you avoid the struggles of the daily grind? Quick answer: Be passionate about having FUN! Whatever activity you choose, keep in mind that the main objective is to have fun.

Ruts are normal. Nearly all couples face them at one time or another, explains Alisa Bowman, author of Project: Happily Ever After. Most of us don’t evaluate or even notice when our other relationships – friendships, siblings, parents – get into ruts, but we constantly evaluate the health of our romantic relationships. “It’s important to notice a rut, because it’s often the first symptom that you are growing apart,” Bowman says. “But ruts are not terminal, and they can actually be quickly overcome.” Kiss hello before doing anything else when you get home. Kiss good-bye when you leave. Stay out of a rut by having more fun!

Be an everyday FUN activist! Laugh together. Lighten up. Tease each other. It will give the relationship you have with yourself and your partner a big boost.

“We don’t quit playing because we grow older, we grow older because we quit playing.” ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

Life gets busy and it can be hard to find time together, much less finding time to try new things. If the romance has faded, add both mystery and surprise because they mimic the emotional state of a new romance. I repeat – Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place!

To be consistent in doing this, you must make a commitment to you – set a goal to do so. Write your commitment down and pin it somewhere that has you notice it everyday. This will add new dimension, excitement and texture to your relationship.

Be creative in doing this. I’m a big list person and I recommend that you begin making a list. Let your mind run wild. Not just things that might be fun as you navigate through your crazy daily routine but things that you take the time to plan. Create a big vision of fun things to do together. If you haven’t been planning a little fun during your regular “daze” this could be a challenge and take a high degree of intention.

It helps to prioritize your marriage. Plan a weekly date together where the focus is to have fun and enjoy each other’s company. When you first began dating, you likely had many opportunities to fully enjoy each other’s company. We suggest you recreate those possibilities no matter how long you have been together. It’s a fact that couples who anticipate and participate in “exciting” date nights showed a significantly greater increase in marital satisfaction.

Make sure some of your fun include some laughter. Gentle pranks are always fun, but don’t get carried away. Safe is better than sorry.

LoveYourKids2Place an unexpected phone call to your sweetheart just to say, “I love you,” or “I was just thinking about you.” Learn to say “I Love You” in different languages and say it when they least expect it. Those three words never get old.

Create a “Bucket List” of fun things to do! Brainstorm together. Try for 100 new ideas. Stretch yourself. Focus on fun. Make plans to do something so you can look forward to it. Anticipate. Children are basically happy when they are having fun and looking forward to more fun. Be a kid again.

“Couples who know how to play and have fun together develop a bonding that can carry them through the most difficult of times,” writes Dr. Steve Stephens in his book, ‘Blueprints for a Solid Marriage.’ “When people get older and when they’ve been married longer, they just become boring,” Stephens says. “It’s not that they mean to get boring, it’s just that they haven’t intentionally figured out what would be something fun to do.”

Do yourself a favor. If you have children, allow them to see the two of you having fun. Occasionally make them a part of your funday. Family activities can show children how the parents react with each other. By the way, it’s okay to plan for alone time fun with each other as long as you plan some family fun time too. Loan out the kids. When you and your spouse do want a night alone, you can turn to your friends for your babysitting needs. Then, when they want a night out, you can offer to do the same for them.

Never allow yourself get so caught up in what you do day to day that you forget to have a little fun each and every day. Remember: It takes two people – both totally committed to making the marriage great.

It takes work to reignite the passion in your relationship. So next time you plan a fun date night, think about the elements of newness, novelty and the element of surprise. It’s important to spend quality time with the people you love and cherish. Marriage is supposed to be fun! Allow your marriage to soar!

How do you keep the fun in your marriage or relationship?

By the way… it is also wise to devote a few moments each day to yourself.

Let the fun begin!

BONUS Articles: Fun Things to do as a Couple
Kidding Around With Romance
50 Creative, Cheap Ways to Have Fun
Great Date Ideas

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Monday, November 24, 2014

No Words Unsaid ~ Write Someone You Love a Letter

Last week I watched TV news reporter, Gretchen Carlson interview Jody Noland, the author of Leave Nothing Unsaid. In that interview Jody emphasized how important it is to write a priceless letter to someone special which will:

• Express what that important relationship means to you
• Identify and affirm unique and outstanding character qualities
• Articulate your hopes, prayers and dreams for their life and
• Provide a lasting and invaluable source of encouragement

WriteALoveLetterYou can watch the interview that inspired this article by clicking here!

Next thing I know – 2 days later – I was attending a memorial service for a good friend who died recently. I walked away thinking that life is short. We never know whether the next day will be another gift from God to us or not. I began to think of the people I love and whether there were words that I had not yet said to them and if they were suddenly gone, I might regret.

“One of the most powerful and sincerest forms of communication that we see very little of today is letter writing. I am not talking about e-mail or post-its. I mean a real letter that is written on real paper and dropped in the non-virtual mailbox down the street. Letters take time and thoughtfulness to create.” ~ Michael J. Montegut

We are living in an age of communication, however, I am not talking about the texts we send by smart phone or even the words we speak when we actually talk to someone on the same smart phone. I am talking about the “written word.” How long has it been since you received a hand-written letter from someone – or written a letter to someone you Love?

My mother died as a result of Alzheimer’s disease. When I began to realize that – at times – she hardly remembered who I was, I wrote her a letter. I expressed my love for her and brought up many happy times that we had spent together in years that had passed. It was a 4-pager. To my surprise, my father told me that she would often read my letter, and comment that I must have been a very good boy. One day I arrived for a visit and she was reading my letter. She was thrilled to meet the boy that wrote the letter. You may want to read a story I wrote in a 2nd Helping of Chicken Soup for the Soul that honors the memory of my mother. More that 5.5 million people bought this book and read my mom’s story. Read, “A Strawberry Malt and Three Squeezes, Please,” here.

After my mother died some years later, I found a large box of letters. Being curious, I started looking through them and realized that there were more than 200 letters that I had hand-written her when I was in the Navy. She kept every letter.

Suggestion: Make a list of the people you love and make a decision to write them a hand-written (not computer generated) letter. You may want to write one letter each week to those on your list. Put your Love for someone on paper! Put a Love stamp on it and let the U.S. Postal Service deliver it to their door. If you are in a relationship, write the love letter you’ve been meaning to write. Buy her a Hallmark card that expresses your love and include a brief love letter. It doesn’t have to be long and wordy. It’s the thought behind writing the letter that counts.

TimeIsRunningOutA romantic Love letter to your partner, or a letter expressing love to a friend, is a wonderful way to express feelings of love in written form. Whether delivered by hand, mail, carrier pigeon, or romantically left in a secret location, the letter may be anything from a short and simple message of love to a lengthy explanation of feelings.

The power of the written word is amazing. Words matter. Even the words we think about but never express to our relatives and friends. The art of writing a letter doesn’t have to be a lost art. Before the wide use of telecommunications, letters were one of the few ways for a couple to remain in contact.

It’s time to do that. Write a hand-written letter. No texting, no e-mail, no instant messages… but words you write on paper. Leave no words unsaid. Speak from the heart. Express affection, love or whatever you feel in your heart. Say what you may have been afraid to say and say it in the most loving way you can.

You may want to buy Jody’s book. She did a fabulous job of simplifying the process for those of us who have a hard time putting pen to paper. Click on the book cover to the right. Jody Noland’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LeaveNothingUnsaid

“Take the time to try this. Commit right now to write your partner or a loved one a personal note expressing your positive feelings toward them. Do it on paper. If a letter is too daunting, then write a couple sentences. If that is too scary, then try just a few words.” ~ Michael J. Montegut

For me, the month of November brings to mind Thanksgiving. It’s the time of the year when I write letters to people to express my gratitude for having them in my life. If they have made a significant contribution to my life, I write a letter of thankfulness.

BONUS Articles: Have You Written a Love Letter Lately?
13 Emotional Letters That Prove The Written Word Has A Power Like No Other
Never Intentionally Say Hurtful Words to Your Partner

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Thursday, July 3, 2014

A Red Rose Bud For Her Pillow…

Filed under: Relationships,Romance — Larry James @ 9:00 am
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Some men just don’t get it! They say they love their partner, but rarely surprise her with something romantic. Taking the time to stop by a card or flower shop to do more than tell her how much you care without words is a great idea. A flower is a beautiful way to convey unspoken meaning.

Women love surprises. Especially the ones that show that you were thinking about her and that you had to go a little out of your way to make it happen.

RedRoseBudSo… guys! Listen up! If you are little bankrupt in the romance department it’s time you learned that a single red rose bud means only one thing. It means, “I Love you!” Red roses are given to those who you want to show love and passion and people for whom you have great respect. The shade of the red has a meaning as well. Bright red means Love.

So if you really love her, here is your assignment for tonight or certainly no later than tomorrow night. Stop by a flower shop, pick out the most perfect red rose bud available, buy it and attach a small note telling her that you were thinking about her today and express how much you really love her. Make sure it has one of those little water holders around the end of the stem to keep it fresh. Sneak it into the house and display it on her pillow. Plan to go to bed at the same time. Wait for its discovery.

It’s high time we work a little harder to put more romance in our relationships. Don’t wait until you made a boo-boo to give her flowers, do it for no reason other than you love her and think she is special. It’s one thing to say, “I love you,” and quite another to demonstrate your love in special ways. Plan to do something out of the ordinary that is especially romantic for each other at least once each week.

Short of ideas? There are a multitude of romantic ideas on this blog. Click here for many, many more.

BONUS Article: Rose to the Occasion…

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Friday, April 18, 2014

“How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways…,”

Filed under: I Love You!,Relationships,Romance — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s begins… How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.

How long has it been since you wrote your sweetheart a beautiful sonnet or simply told her/him, “I love you.” Marriage and relationship experts agree on the importance of communicating love to our partners often and in a variety of forms. We often forget to show the ones we love how important they are to us.

Simply saying, “I love you,” is one way, but there are many other ways. Be creative. Do it with imagination.

RansomLOVE“I love you.” It’s vital these three important words be conveyed regularly and often to keep a relationship healthy and strong. Expressing your love to your partner is a natural and important part of a relationship that is growing and flourishing. One of the best ways is to demonstrate your love. Do something for her or him that they don’t like to do.

Order this very special, inexpensive frame – it’s only $9 – at DinoTalk.com. What makes this frame so special? You can record your “I love you” message directly onto the frame. Your guy can play it back with the press of a button.

Paint the words “I love you” onto the bathroom mirror in a heart shape. Use chalk art on the driveway. Use colorful chalk to write “I Love You!” and draw hearts and “XO’s” around it. FAX your partner a Love note to their office. Have a picnic at the park. Find a nice tree and carve a heart with your “I love you” message and initials.

Bring your lover breakfast in bed. Say “I love you” with a heart-shaped egg, toast, orange juice, strawberries, a napkin, etc., or… looking for something Eggstraordinary? Conceal your “I love you” message inside of an empty egg shell. When they crack open the egg… there it is! Click here for instructions.

Take your partner to a quiet park at night, away from the street lights, and tell them how you feel under a blanket of stars. Head to the beach or a lookout point and tell them how much you’re in love as you watch a spectacular sunset.

Create an “I Love You!” Blog just for the two of you. Ground rules, no complaints about your loved one, posts that include personal information like home or work addresses, or scandalous photos. Start by posting your favorite photos and love messages.

Present her with a bouquet of three red rose buds. Write her a love note. Put what you are feeling in your heart into words. Start a new tradition ~ Every time you kiss, kiss three times, which stands for “I love you.” Every now and then leave a card saying how much you love and appreciate your partner under their pillow for them to find before they go to sleep.

Send each other short texts or e-mails to say what you are thinking about them at that very moment. XOXO’s too. Order take-out. Even though you’re ordering from your go-to Chinese restaurant, dessert will be a much different story. Make sure that you pick up the order (alone!) and swap the usual fortune cookies for custom-made ones. You can order them at Tankinz.com. Since the message is customizable, they should all say “I love you”. He’ll be wondering how you managed to pull it off,

Use the “Ransom Note Generator” to write a special love message.

My mother and father had a way to show their love when they went to church. My mom would squeeze my dad’s hand three times to say, “I love you,” and dad would squeeze mom’s hand twice to say, “Me too!” Read: “A Strawberry Malt and Three Squeezes, Please!

Get him into a coed shower – Swap your man’s everyday soap with an “I love you” one. SoapSaysIt lets you choose your bar’s message, color and shape. If you’re feeling a little naughty, opt for a saying like “Meet me in the shower” or “Rub me the right way.” Trust us, he’ll thank you for the racy start to his morning—especially if you suds up with him. Soaps start at $10.

Put a whiteboard near the door and leave notes and hand-drawn pictures for each other they will see before they leave for work. Aways look for the positive attributes in each other. Each night before bed, take a few minutes to tell each other something we’re grateful for that the other person did that day.

Send your coffee-drinking sweetheart a LoveMug. Ask one of your artsy friends to put your message on a ceramic mug! Design and personalize an “I heart” tee with your lover’s initials or an I love you message. And then there is the good old fashion love letter. It doesn’t have to be long and flowery… just some special words of Love straight from your heart.

M&MsBe flirty, brave and brazen. Seed him a PantyGram in a plain brown wrapper to his office. Write a few love words that may encourage him to take off early when he gets this gift. About $24.95.

Post sticky notes with the words, “I Love you” on his/her rear-view mirror, in the fridge, and other places for him/her to find when they least expect it.

If you are really sweet on each other… Create your own M&M’s® candies with your own personal words and photos! To order, click here!

Order a tiny, handmade, “I Love You” Message Spool. Make your own “playing card booklet,” state 52 reasons you love your partner. Instructions on how to make your own here.

Being with someone you love is wonderful. It’s the constancy of patient, kind and selfless friendship that keeps love exciting and meaningful. Feel free to get creative and come up with something of your own, or put your own spin on some of these ideas. Always remember to say, “I love you” (out loud), at least once each day!

Take advantage of this cheat sheet often to broaden your romantic vocabulary! Your partner will feel special and cherished as you speak or write your love for her with carefully chosen romantic phrases. Click here!

BONUS Articles: Romantic Ideas to Make it Valentine’s Day All Year Long!
Ways to Relight the Flame of Love
Date Night – No Less Than Once Each Week – No Excuses!
Sweet Dreams Are Made of This…
Need Some Romantic Ideas?
Kidding Around With Romance

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Saturday, February 8, 2014

Romantic Ideas to Make it Valentine’s Day All Year Long!

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To be a special Valentine to your partner takes lots of energy, time, attention and Love. Let’s all give some thought about who we are being in our relationship, what we can do to make them better and who we will have to become to have them be healthy and successful.

•VDay.jpg•Celebrate your relationship or reach out and touch someone you love. Consider celebrating with friends or family. Be creative. Take some time to give some thought to how your partner likes to be acknowledged, appreciated and loved.

You must consistently invest in your relationship to receive its dividends. No deposit. . . no return. Make EVERYDAY Valentine’s Day for your partner or someone you love.

1. I proposed to my wife on Valentine’s Day. I went to the Olive Garden in the afternoon and left three red roses and a vase and asked the manager to have someone watch for us and when the waitress brought our drink order to have the roses and our engagement ring with a beautiful card delivered. Bring your own Valentine’s candles, rose pedals, etc.

2. Send your partner a special note to their office telling them that tonight you are offering a full-body massage, with candlelight and favorite beverage. Let your fingers do the talking. It’s a great way to express your love for your partner. Or, hire a masseuse to give your partner a professional massage at home.

3. Have a caterer deliver and serve a beautiful meal to your home for Valentine’s Day.

4. If you plan to buy a dozen roses, put one on her pillow, one on the dresser, one on the TV; scatter them throughout the house and leave a special love note with each one.

5. Women: Do something WITH him that he wouldn’t expect you to do. Tickets to a sporting event; plan a fishing trip. If you hate sports, go anyway and allow yourself to have fun just being with him. Show interest in his hobby, interests and pastimes.

6. Go for a special “hot-air balloon” ride, complete with picnic basket, a blanket, champagne, just for the two of you. Surprise her with a “Renewal of Vows” ceremony high in the sky! For an example, click here!

7. Plan a special date. Pretend it’s your very first date. Have fun. Dance. Watch the sun complete your day in the arms of your significant other.

8. Leave “Post-It” notes with special messages hidden all over the house for your lover to find when they least expect it. Hide them in a pair of pants they have in the closet, inside every pair of shoes, under things, inside books they read, inside folded towels they will use, in the car, taped inside the fridge, on the telephone, in the sugar bowl, etc. It may take them days to find them all and they will love every one.

9. Choose a lake resort or favorite beach. Rent a rowboat. Pack a picnic basket. Bring your favorite music, find a secluded area and have some fun.

10. LISTEN all-year-long for ideas or things your partner would like to have or do. Make notes to yourself and buy that special thing and surprise them with it when they least expect it (especially after they might have forgotten about it.).

11. Record a “love message” on a cassette or CD and use some very special words to express your love for your partner. Borrow some words from several greeting cards. Put the recording in the cassette or CD player of their car, stick a note on the rear view mirror that lets them know it’s there. Try to make it long enough to last until they get to the office.

12. If you are giving your partner a ring, buy a large box of Cracker Jacks, unseal the bottom and the package with the tiny prize inside. Put the ring in the surprise package, seal it back up, wrap the Cracker Jacks with paper with red hearts, write a special love note on the outside and give it to them.

13. Make a copy of your wedding photo, put it in a special frame and write the words, “I love you more today than yesterday,” and sign your name.

14. This idea takes some planning ahead. Create a “love journal.” Jot down one special idea for each day of the year and present it to them on Valentine’s Day.

15. Men: Put a note in her Valentine that says, “I love you and to prove it, I promise to give you the TV remote for 30 days!”

CLoveCom3616. Buy some sidewalk chalk. Draw a large heart on the driveway with red chalk and write, “I love you” in the middle.

17. Make a colorful banner on your computer with hearts, etc., that expresses your love and put in on the garage door, so it’s the first thing your partner sees when they come home.

18. Next year, buy 14 Valentines and beginning on the 1st of February, give them one for each day leading to Valentine’s Day.

19. THINK AHEAD. Plan a romantic weekend get-away, away from the phone, the children, TV, etc. Just BE together. Taking time away from your usual environment and routine to go somewhere different and create quality time together. It is a wonderful way to keep romance alive.

20. It’s easy to buy a card or gift in the store, but it is very special to take the time to make your own. This will have much more impact as it will be coming straight from your heart and therefore will go straight to the heart of the person you are sending it to. Just the fact that you took the time to stop and create something so personal for them is a gift in and of itself. Most likely they will cherish it and also realize how much they mean to you. Mail it to them with a “Love Stamp.”

21. Instead of asking your love out the traditional way… kidnap her and take her away for a night of romance! For extra fun, use a squirt gun and play-cuffs! Blindfold her and take her somewhere really nice for dinner. Remove the blindfold when you arrive at the restaurant, but put it back on her when you leave. Take her to special places that you have been before, or places that hold memories (where you met, where you spent your first Valentine’s Day, etc.). At the end of the night tell her how much you loved every place you have ever been with her and everything thing you have ever done and that you would do it all over again.

22. Surprise your sweetheart when they least expect it. Show up at work, school, on their lunch-break, etc., just to give them a rose, a kiss, a hug or a special card and tell them you love them.

23. Plan ahead. Find a nice hotel with a Jacuzzi suite with bubble bath, 2 glasses with sparkling wine, heart-shaped balloons, rose petals on the bed, a Happy Valentine’s Day sign on wall, heart-shaped candles everywhere, chocolate kisses, roses (one for each year together), red and white Valentine lights and music.

24. Before your partner takes a shower, write a message to him in the mirror with your finger, like ‘I love you’ or ‘I love it when you’re clean!’. He won’t see it when he gets in, but when he gets out of the shower and the bathroom is all steamy, the message will “magically” appear on the mirror. When the mirror fogs up the natural oils that were released by your skin will prevent that area from steaming over.

25. Keep a ready supply of several different colored dry-erase markers in your bathroom. Leave love notes for your partner on the bathroom mirror, and afterwards they wipe right off. It also may encourage a rather quiet and non-romantic man to leave some romantic notes of his own.

26. Long Distant Relationship: Write a very special love message on the back of a small jigsaw puzzle, then take the puzzle apart so he or she has to put it together to read the message. Mail the puzzle all at once or several pieces at a time.

27. Find a full picture of you or design a special love message and have it put on a t-shirt, pillowcases, or bed sheet, etc.

28. Put a note on the rearview mirror in their car on the anniversary of your first date. On the note ask if they remember the importance of this day. When they come home have a trail of flower petals leading them from clue to clue. At the final stop present them with an invitation for an evening of re-enacting your first date.

29. If you are giving your partner a bracelet, buy her a stuffed bear, and have the bear wearing the bracelet. Wrap it and have a waitress deliver it to your table during dinner.

30. Here’s a crazy idea. For dinner on Valentine’s Day, make most of the food you prepare either red or pink. Red mashed potatoes, pink bread, red Jell-O, and a red tinted heart cake with pink icing. Use red potpourri. Scatter red candles of all shapes and sizes all over. Try to incorporate hearts in as many ways as you can

31. If you are Internet savvy, make a special Website for your sweetheart. Fill it with hearts, poems, “I love you” messages, pictures and whatever turns them on. Go to a site that allows you to create a free Website and make a Website for your sweetheart. There are many places that offer free Websites that are fairly easy to create!

32. Put love notes and Hershey Kisses in your sweetheart’s cereal box.

33. Plan ahead. Fill a blank book with letters, scribbles, a few photos, and even poems of your feelings for your partner.

34. Buy 12 Valentines and plan to mail one each month so it arrives on the 14th day of the month. Celebrate Valentine’s Day, all year long.

35. Plan ahead. The day before Valentine’s Day, send flowers, a romantic card, chocolate, or a small gift to your loved one at work. Enclose a card saying you can’t wait until tomorrow.

36. Plan ahead. Collect a box full of your favorite couple memories; the ticket stubs to the first movie you saw together, the dried corsage from your first dance, plane tickets from your honeymoon, some photos, love letters, whatever means something to you. Present it to your honey after dinner and have a wonderful time looking at each item and remembering. Add to this box of memories over the years.

37. Heart-shaped boxes can be the perfect container for your gift. Be on the lookout for them throughout the year. Fill the prettiest box with a handful of glittery heart-shaped party confetti, glitter, or red tissue paper, all hiding a little jewelry box that contains a heart-shaped necklace, bracelet, ring, etc.

38. Send Valentines to all the people on your Christmas card list. Everyone enjoys a jolt of cheer in the middle of dreary February.

39. Show up at a children’s hospital with a load of toys, books and games.

40. Take flowers and candy to strangers in a nursing home or hospice.

41. Think of someone you know who’s been in the doldrums lately and leave a secret Valentine’s Day care package on his or her doorstep. Something as simple as a bottle of wine or a bunch of flowers from the supermarket can turn someone’s whole day around.

42. Scatter a packet of Heavenly Blue morning glory seeds beside a rusty chain-link fence in a vacant lot. Post a tiny sign that dedicates this flower plot to your sweetheart.

43. If you do not have a partner, seize this day with gusto! Do something incredible for yourself. Do something that is personally nurishing and nurturing. Be your own Valentine: Buy yourself that painting or dress (or suit) or coffee-table book you can’t get out of your mind. Take yourself to dinner at your favorite restaurant, or have the meal delivered. Take the day off work and spend it doing whatever you like to do most – even if it’s absolutely nothing.

44. Put a drop of red food coloring in the bottom of your sweetheart’s cereal bowl, underneath the cereal. When they add the milk, it will turn pink. When it does, wish them a Happy Valentine’s Day!

45. If your sweetheart is going to be away from you on Valentine’s Day, get several Valentine’s Day cards and put them in different places in his or her luggage. You could sequence them with “Open Me on February 14th” or “Open Me on February 15th” to create some suspense.

46. Write, “I love you!” in lipstick or shaving cream on the bathroom mirror. You could also tape a heart with the words “I love you” if you prefer an easier clean up.

47. Give your sweetheart a “Love” coupon that says, “I’ll do all the household chores for the next week!”

48. Put a note in your Valentine that says, “I promise to switch roles with you for one day!” If you don’t know exactly what they do in a day, ask them to make a list. You’ll gain new insights into your partner’s life; insights that will help you make romantic gestures that are more personal, intimate, appropriate and appreciated. Time spent getting to know your partner better is usually more appreciated than money spent.

49. Buy your sweetheart a copy of “How to Really Love the One You’re With” and read it together. You use a yellow highlighter and give your partner a pale blue highlighter and mark all the thoughts and ideas that are important to you. If you both happen to mark the same thing, blue and yellow make green. You know where you are on target and where to focus on what your lover considers important to the relationship.

50. Make a promise to your partner to create together a once-a-week, “date night!” AND, keep your word. Let nothing prevent your weekly get together. If you have children, have a trusted friend watch them at THEIR house. Return the favor.

51. Plan ahead for this idea. Take your sweetheart to a symphony concert, musical, or other type of theater production; one you haven’t been to before.

52. If you are not married. . . propose! Give her a heart shaped box of chocolates, with one chocolate missing and a ring in it’s place. If you are married. . . propose again! Plan a special “Renewal of Vows” ceremony. For a special “romantic” ceremony, click here.

53. Rent a horse drawn carriage. Take a ride – with champagne, glasses, special love songs that mean something special to both of you (bring a boom box), a warm blanket if it gets too cool – through the park or “lover’s Lane” after dark.

54. Write a love letter out of candy bar titles. Get a piece of brightly colored poster board and a bunch of your favorite candy bars. Write your love letter on the board in a contrasting colored pen. Replace key words with candy bars taped onto the poster board.

55. Have cupid send your Valentine’s Day greeting card (or any other romantic card) to your sweetheart that bears a postmark from Loveland, CO 80537. This city is one of several cities that have a special name whose postmark can embellish your greeting card with romance. Special postmarks say, “I love you” because your partner will know that you extended some extra effort to make your greeting special. For a special list of romantic postmarks, click here.

56. Buy a tube of red lip stick, draw a large heart on the mirror she will use in the morning. Under the heart, write a note that says, “You are looking at the woman who has captured my heart!”

57. Cut out lots of hearts on colored construction paper, write down reasons you love your sweetheart on each heart. Borrow a few romantic sayings from greeting cards. Place them inside red, heart-shaped balloons and blow them up. Watch your sweetheart smile as they pop each balloon and read what’s inside.

58. Carve a heart and your partner’s initials (yours too) on a tree, then plan a surprise picnic under the tree. Let your sweetheart discover the surprise.

59. Ambush your sweetie with a Valentine’s Day surprise. Make 3 or 4 small signs and scatter them around the yard. Make one larger sign with a personal message of love and romance to let the neighbors know how much you care. Tie several heart-shaped balloons filled with helium to each sign. Leave a gift arrangement at the front door filled with a stuffed animal, Valentine’s day candy, a coffee mug filled with chocolate kisses and a candle. Put all this in your yard sometime during the night (or have someone else do it). When she wakes up, she’ll see a nice surprise.

60. Buy 24 movie passes at a local theater and ask your sweetheart to pick one romantic movie to see together once each month for a year. Present them in a heart-shaped box with a very special love note. OR. . . make 12 special coupons good for a romantic movie each month. Rent them from the video store. Choose from my “Top 100 Romantic Movies” list and once each month spend a romantic night cuddling together, complete with candles, snacks and drinks.

61. Plan dinner out. Hop from restaurant to restaurant, having only one course at each establishment. Your “progressive dinner” should include drinks, salad, appetizers, the main course and don’t forget desert.

62. Pull a surprise all-nighter. Book dinner at a quaint B&B and secretly reserve a room there. Bring over your stuff eariler in the day, remembering to pack your sexiest lingerie. Arrange with the owner beforehand to have him “offer” to show you a room after you’ve had dinner. Wait for the ear-to-ear grin you’ll get when your partner sees your bag on the bed.

63. Renew your vows! Book at least one night in a hotel’s honeymoon suite and whisper your vows to one another in bed or hire Larry James to perform a very romantic “renewal of vows” ceremony in front of a few close friends. It is an opportunity to reaffirm the tremendous love that has deepened with the passing of years.

64. When was the last time you shared a lazy morning breakfast with your partner? Substituting date morning for date night will make you see each other in, literally, a whole new light. Since you are both fresh – as opposed to end-of-the-day bushed – you’re sure to have more connected conversations.

65. Go swimming – naked – under a full moon! Pool, lake or ocean. It doesn’t matter. Just two lovers enjoying the peace and quiet in the shimmering night. It’s an adventure, not to say anything about the adrenaline rush you get from doing something au naturel in nature together.

66. Titilate your partners tootsies with your tender touch. Take your time. A surprise foot massage will have you both feeling tingles. It builds intimacy and excitement.

67. Never walk too far ahead of your partner and never walk too fast. To wait for a partner is far better than to run off from them. It is a relationship courtesy to take your time and walk in sync with others when you are out and about. It says, “I want to be with you.” When we out-pace others and leave them behind, we are telling them, “What I am doing is more important than being with you.” People are sensitive to “Proximity” and want to feel that they are important to you, even more important then the event you are walking to or the task at hand. (From the book, “101 Rules for Relationships” by Billy Hornsby).

68. Remember mixed audio tapes? It’s probably been awhile since you’ve made one for your main squeeze, but why not give it another shot? Create a romantic playlist on iTunes, or make a CD filled with love songs, then kick off your shoes, pour some wine, and dance to the music together at home. It doesn’t get much more romantic (or inexpensive) than that.

69. Always remember to tell each other, “I love you.” Over and over and over. Say it “out loud.” A day about love should be filled with the word. Just enjoy one another’s company.

fortunecookie70. Proposing? There may be millions of couples getting engaged on Valentine’s Day, but you are special and when you propose, it should be a reflection of who you are as a couple. If you want to propose at home, sprinkle rose petals around the house. Place heart-shaped candles around your home to create the right mood. Then, enjoy a quiet, romantic evening with your favorite music in the background. Then surprise her with a fortune cookie. Fortune cookies have come to be a popular place to hide a surprise engagement ring. Steaming them open lets you put the ring inside with a piece of paper that says, “Will you marry me?” Since Valentine’s Day is the 14th, fill 14 fortune cookies with love notes and after she has opened them all present the last one with the ring inside. You can also use this idea with other containers.

P.S. When you have decided the day for your wedding, call Larry James to perform his “romantic wedding ceremony” for you.

Remember. . . A thoughtful act or kind word may pass in a moment, but the warmth and care behind it stays in the heart forever!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Thursday, November 21, 2013

Celebrate Love at Your Very Own “Wonderama!”

How long has it been since the two of you really spent some “quality” time together? Does your relationship need a little extra oomph? Whether you’ve been married or together for years, show your partner how much you appreciate them by planning some sexy surprises for a very special night together. I’m talking about a night with absolutely no distractions; no kids, no smart phones, iPads, texting, TV, etc. None! I’m talking a very special evening of Love and romance. The kind of time where you both really let your hair down and genuinely BE together; where you can cuddle, caress and celebrate your Love together in special ways.

Wonderama2Alone time with your partner can sometimes be challenging and hard to arrange because of long hours at work and kids. You have to plan time – or rather “make” time like this to get together. Don’t rush. Take your time planning. Why not make these precious hours you two share extra exciting? Plan a “Wonderama” where you will rediscover the wonder of each other. It’s time for a little hedonistic fun. The pursuit of pleasure is something that many couples let slide when they have been together for a long time.

“My job is to be helpful!” 😉 …To assist you with some ideas that will help you express the love that was strong in the beginning, is still there, and if you’re both on the same page… will manifest itself again in a very special way.

You have to work together to make something like this to work. Creating your “Wonderama” takes some preplanning and may stretch your creative abilities. It’s a romantic break from routine. Decorate a special place. Turn it into your own sensual play space or love nest. It could be a mattress in the living room floor (or move the coffee table off to the side so you have room to lay down layers of soft blankets) or the back yard (pull out your blow-up mattress and sleeping bags), the bedroom, (I prefer the bedroom, but that’s just me), or a hotel room for one night. You can’t get sexier than sharing strawberries (the chocolate-dipped ones – they’re an aphrodisiac) and champagne in bed. Make it up for you. Design the layout together. Forget your age. Never let age be your cage. Consider a blanket-fort with lots of soft pillows. That is childlike but fun. Focus on Love and romance.

Once you set a time and a date, tease your partner with little notes several days in advance that remind them of your special night together. Leave a single strawberry and a note that reads “See you tonight,” or a Post-It® note on the bathroom mirror. Send each other tantalizing text messages during the day of. Something simple and sexy will do. The anticipation will make an ordinary night much more alluring. Think seduction. Get a little edgier by having a blindfold and/or handcuffs which you may or may not use.

TwinMassageYou can do this by yourselves or hire some helpers to help you brainstorm some super romantic ideas. Remember that being romantic is all in the attitude that you bring to this special night. Pamper yourselves. Rent a Masseuse for the evening. Two works nice – one for each of you. Treat yourselves to a sensual twin massage. Before you begin, choose some soothing music to play in the background. The relaxing pressure of the massage helps put you back in touch with your bodies: the ultimate preparation for your late-night “Wonderama!” There’s nothing more romantic and relaxing than a massage. (Tip: My favorite… Coconut-passion-fruit massage oil).

Relax. One couple I know hired a harpist to play their favorite romantic music for a couple of hours in the room next to them while they played together. Surely by now you both have a favorite song or two. Play them and burn a CD with more of your favorite tunes. Dance a verrrry slow, sexy dance.

mood-foodsYou could hire a caterer to bring in snacks to nibble on when you get tired of nibbling on each other. 😉 Feed each other hazelnut truffles or cinnamon-flavored ganache. Chill your favorite beverages. Put a lot of thought into this creative endeavor. Cook up one special surprise for your partner. Write 4 or 5 romantic things to read to your partner when the time is right. Don’t hold back. Say what’s in your heart. A little mystery can go a long way. This will be a night to remember.

A “Wonderama” is a very special time to be together and the purpose is to create a cozy retreat chucked full of Love and romance. It will rekindle the romance that may be missing. The intent is to spice up your love life. Do plenty of touching and flirting. You may rediscover what it’s like to really be in Love and both agree to make it an annual (or quarterly) romantic adventure. Sprinkle some rose petals around the room or some of your most loved fresh flowers.

Temporarily dismiss the cares of the day, any relationship issues and anything else that could distract you from really being together. Share a warm shower with a loofah sponge. Good hygiene is paramount. Who cares if you can only fit one person in there? Or take a bubble bath together with lots of bubbles and subtle scents. Lavender oil has a fresh, sweet, floral, herbaceous aroma that is soothing and refreshing. This night should not be without it. Don’t forget the rubber ducky. Lather each other up with some vanilla bath gel and you won’t mind being in such close quarters. Towel each other off.

grapesLight some scented candles or incense. Time for lights out. I like the subtle aroma of beeswax candles which is totally natural and not overpowering like some scented candles. Be playful. Experiment with seductive touch. Bring toys. Use them. Feed each other grapes along with your special beverage. Shed your inhibitions. Let yourself go. Demonstrate genuine interest in each other. Blindfold your partner. Make sure they can’t peek! Then, feed them a piece of food and have them describe what kinds of flavours, textures and memories they are experiencing. Some good old-fashioned necking might be in order too. Be brave. Hold no Love back. Demonstrate your love. Let Love express itself in ways you have nearly forgotten. Dress (or undress) for the occasion.

WonderamaLie in each others arms. Kiss. Relax with one another. Share your best memories of when you first met. Do spoons. Have FUN together. “More grapes, please!” See if you can be present and go away with each other at the same time. Keep going. Tell each other something they don’t know about you. Hold each other. Whisper sweet somethings! Express your deepest feelings with words that you whisper aloud. Relax together… together. Really BE together. If your partner is willing (and ONLY if they are willing)… act out a fantasy (within healthy limits, of course). Let your guard down. If there’s something that your partner has been wanting to do, be willing to give it a try; you could surprise yourself and love it. Talking about intimacy can be physiologically arousing to both partners.

Say I love you now and then… out loud! Love should never be hushed or rushed. Kiss some more – a long lasting kiss this time. Have quiet, intimate conversation. Return to the beginning. Recreate the excitement of your first encounter. Talking about business and the kids are off limits. Sharing humor and laughing together will help you feel closer and wull remind you how much you care about your partner. Take a few photos to preserve the memories you are making. You are going to wonder why you didn’t come up with this idea yourself.

If you think your adventures between the sheets needs a wake-up call, creating a “Wonderama” should do the trick. It’s a passionate, intimate, emotional outlet and a way to become closer to your partner. By the way… you decide… sex doesn’t have to be the happy ending to this delicious night together. You want your partner to be focusing specifically on you and looking forward to your next rendezvous together. Don’t follow a script or try to guess how this might end up. Discard your expectations and just let whatever happens happen. Let Love lead the way. Enjoy each other like you did when you first met. It’s important to keep the intimate part of your relationship at the top of your romantic bucket list.

If the spirit (or whatever) moves you, you have my permission to go “all the way!” (wink, wink)

Time now to rest and fall asleep in each other’s arms. Now… wasn’t that fun?

Have breakfast in bed!

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commentCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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