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Thursday, September 30, 2010

4th 100 Tweets from Larry James’ Relationship Twitter!

I have posted the 4th 100 Tweets (400 Relationship Tweets in all) on my once daily “Relationship Twitter” and thought you might enjoy reading all of them 140 characters at a time. All are adapted from my book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

LoveNotes for Lovers is a collection of meditations, affirmations and reflections on love. A valued relationship is something you work on all the time, not only when its broken and needs to be fixed. LoveNotes for Lovers assists in that process.

lovenotesEvery LoveNote is but one more piece of the relationship puzzle. The design of LoveNotes for Lovers is to help people fit the pieces of the relationship puzzle together in a healthy way. Each one is a mini-lesson in love.

You will also see an occasional link that references an article I have written about that key word. Each link opens in a new window so you won’t lose your place.

You are welcome to use these “LoveNotes” as quotes provided you credit the author as per below:

LoveNote. . . Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of forgiveness, appreciation, understanding & Love. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

You can read the 1st 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/2nd-100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

TwitterYou can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

Follow my once daily “Relationship Tweets” at: http://Twitter.com/LarryJames – Enjoy!

When asked, say, “This is one of our best days!” Positive words build positive momentum in your love relationship. Do what needs to be done.

Do things that promote positive momentum in your relationship. Always be moving forward. It will help you have “one of your best days!”

If you are always looking for the good that makes life better, you will surely always find it. Do more of that for each other & be loving.

There is nothing wrong with putting your best foot forward unless you are only being nice to get what you want. That’s a really BIG “no-no!”

Be yourself. Right now! How sad to try to be someone you think someone else thinks you should be. Be the real you all the time starting now.

Can you imagine? BOTH partners working on the relationship they have with each other & supporting each other in their own personal growth!

Relationships become a struggle when someone is not pulling their fair share of the load. Get involved with your partner. Stay focused!

Be challenged by engaging in meaningful conversation. Talk about things that are important to your relationship. Don’t leave anything out.

Have you reached a point where it is pointless to complain because you now know that relationships are what you make of them?

When true love is present, commitments arise naturally. They expand our capacity to love. They are nurtured by compassion & understanding.

Giving compliments is an excellent way of catching your partner doing something right. They develop better communication and build trust.

When you understand that time spent justifying your position that is not working is futile, you can then move forward. It’s an energy drain.

Relationship problems are shared problems. To manage the complexity of a stormy relationship you must accept responsibility for your share.

Love partners can spot a fake compliment a mile away. Flattery is usually received with negativity & is often perceived as manipulative.

Genuine compliments given freely by your partner reach a special place inside of you. They are a warm reminder of how very special you are.

Thoughtless words spoken by a stranger do not have nearly the impact as the same words spoken by someone you trust or someone you love.

What you resist, persists. The more you hold on to being right about your position, the more you get to grapple with your own inner thoughts

Love cannot exist in the presence of fear. It is impossible for opposites to co-exist. They cannot occupy the same space at the same time.

Instead of always pointing fingers & calling attention to the mistakes of your partner, focus on the good. Catch them doing something right!

Think about it: Relationships never end. Death, divorce or separation only changes them. As long as you have memory, you will be related.

Want a change in the intimacy area? Intimacy demands trust. There can be no trust without conversation; no genuine intimacy without trust.

Whatever you choose to say, say it like you mean it. If your voice isn’t congruent with the power of your compliment, it’s false praise.

Compliments help partners feel good about themselves. It causes them to feel appreciated & respected. It brings out the best in your lover.

Letting go can be the 1st is a series of positive actions that can liberate you from your negative past. Experience the joy of release.

If you have a tendency to put your partner down (even in jest) or invalidate their feelings, make a choice to change that behavior TODAY!

What if you knew this would be the last day you would spend with your partner; the last time you would ever talk to them? What would you say

We often cannot see that we have choice. No matter what happens we always have choice. Think before choice. Not making a choice is a choice.

Relationship off track? The cost of complacency is substantial. Waiting for your partner to “come around,” may prove futile. Go first.

Feel like lashing out? Put your hands over your mouth. Count to 10 or 20. Toothpaste once squeezed, cannot be put back into the tube.

There is no future in the past. Being stuck in the past serves no worthy purpose. It takes energy to remain confused. Live in the moment.

If you do not cherish the companionship you find with yourself then you can never find it with someone else. Be your own best friend.

Trust introduces you to a new freedom, the freedom to think & feel & really be with the one you love. Trust opens the door to possibilities.

The hurt we experience sometimes keeps us at a distance from responsible choices. Move through the pain knowing we are never without choice.

In reality, anger is a derivative of and an expression of fear. To transcend or master fear, we must turn our back on it; exercise courage.

Promise to always openly communicate affection and commitment. Do it in very loving ways. It gives your future together more of a chance.

In a healthy love relationship, things are easiest when both love partners take responsibility for the whole, not just their halves.

I see upsets in my relationship not only as an exterior circumstance to be remedied but as an interior condition to be understood & healed.

Mature lovers who love unconditionally, develop a knack for side- stepping resentment & focusing on the good they see in one another.

Never use your children as an excuse to not work on you or your relationship. Putting them first & you last has your priorities backwards.

To experience the kind of relationship you want & Love, both love partners must have clearly developed, open channels of communication.

The energy required for the self-discipline of honesty is far less than the energy required for withholding what is in your heart.

When your relationship needs help… ask for it. Don’t delay. The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be to move past “stuck!”

Affirmation ~ My love partner and I share similar spiritual values. Higher spiritual values give meaning and purpose to our relationship.

Ask yourself: “Would I want to be in a relationship with me?” & “Am I someone who I would want to be with forever?” Answer honestly.

Committed love partners know it is wise to plan their time together. Go on a date. Talk about it. Plan it in advance. Look forward to it.

When we run from our feelings, they follow us… everywhere! Feelings must be expressed. To stuff your feelings is to stay stuck with them.

Affirmation ~ When I am hurting, I ask my lover for a warm & tender hug. There is Divine healing in a silent, close embrace. It really works

Being vulnerable promotes unity by creating a common bond of sharing that helps each other be the best they can be for the relationship.

Resist being afraid to reveal your limitations to your partner. It’s scary. Working together on strengthening limitations develops character

Forgiveness is a mental attitude. Once convinced of its own idea, forgiveness is complete; freedom follows. Ah. . . what a relief!

Forgiveness is for your benefit. It gives you the freedom to move forward. It releases you from all personal suffering & feelings of loss.

Mutually solving problems brings love partners closer together. It allows for negotiation & compromise. It promotes positive momentum.

The goal of resolving conflict in a relationship is not victory or defeat. It is reaching a mutual understanding through open discussions.

Mature love partners permit each other the freedom to pursue their individual interests and friends without restriction. Enter… TRUST!

Hey guys! Always remember, foreplay begins with taking out the garbage “without being asked!” Do things for her. Willingly. Don’t grumble.

The great thing about authenticity is that it releases you from the requirement to be perfect. No one is perfect. Be you own good self.

Being authentic is the key to truly happy, healthy relationships. It is not possible to be happy without being true to yourself.

Never repress the things that happen that make the relationship not so great. Learn to talk about them & decide to do things differently.

If you are always looking for the good that makes your relationship better, you will surely always find it. What makes life great together?

To neglect our own responsibilities in the relationship in favor of our love partner’s responsibility in the relationship is codependency.

Need relationship help? Ask for it. Your relationship is too precious to ignore. Sometimes constant bickering is the calm before the storm!

Being attentive to your partner’s needs, regardless of the importance you may place on them, will support things in & out of the bedroom.

Women can often tell a man’s interest in them by the length of his attention span. Genuine listening is an act of love. Pay attention!

Where is it written that a man should have only one job & a woman have two? Housework is not just the woman’s responsibility! Offer to help.

Guys: Leave a note on the toilet seat (after you’ve put it down) that says “I put the seat down because I love you, not because I should.”

If you want to keep your significant other happy and content – do things for her… “willingly.” Run errands. Switch roles. Gas the car.

Discover new ways of expressing your love for each other. Hire a skywriter. Put a message on a billboard. Buy a radio spot to say I love you

When you become more than you are, you accomplish the personal rewards that come with doing the best you can & from which others can model.

Are you proud of YOU as an accomplishment? Are you proud of the example you are for others to become? Let your light shine for others to see

As we understand our equal share in creating problems, blame, self-doubt, & discord gives way to personal responsibility, & mutual respect.

Commitment to complete the journey together, come what may, nurtures the love needed to arrive there together. Love answers to all questions

Healthy couples identify problems, talk openly and honestly about their differences and choose workable solutions wisely & quickly.

Couples need to go through the ups and downs, experience the traumas and revel in the successes of their relationship in order to grow.

Your relationship with your partner must be an equal partnership; one that mutually supports each other in their dreams and visions.

Be courageous enough to not always take yourselves so seriously; to laugh, play & be playful & to experience whatever is exciting to both.

Paying attention to the “little things” is not always easy. Practice. It’s the little things that count in a healthy love relationship.

Give up your expectations. Focus on what you need from your relationship. Then proceed with confidence. Mutually discuss your needs.

Become dedicated to mutual pleasure for both you & your love partner. Communicate openly & honestly. Sex is fun & pleasure is good for you!

Spend “quality” time together. Make a promise to have a date with your mate no less than once each week. No excuses, please!

Breath new life into your relationship each day by consistently focusing on new ideas that keeps the fire of love burning. It’s energizing.

The energy we give to our troubles by dwelling on them, saps us of the energy we need to find solutions for them. Redirect your energy.

Mature love partners have learned not to expect perfection in each other. They know that acceptance, love & understanding is its own reward.

Do unto your partner, as you would have your partner do unto you! That’s a really great rule to live your relationship by. Try it. It works

In a healthy love relationship, things are easiest when both love partners take responsibility for the whole, not just their halves.

You are the architect of your own discomfort. The key is to never wallow in the suffering any longer than is necessary to learn the lesson.

Never say things you do not mean. In anger we often say things that we later say we really didn’t mean. Be wise. You cannot un-ring a bell.

Be happy now! It’s a choice you know. There is no future in the past. There is only right now! Focus on the present. Live it to its fullest

You can say, “I’m sorry,” once and you may be forgiven. If you continue to say bad things they can drive a wedge between you & your partner.

Make having a relationship with you your number one priority. The one you are with is you! Put yourself 1st. Spend time working on you.

Saying bad things to your partner that you wouldn’t say to a close friend can be & usually is the beginning of the end of the relationship.

If you’re in a relationship for the long haul, be wise & treat your partner with respect & demonstrate your love in thoughtful ways.

When two people work together, they can always accomplish more. Communicate! Connect in loving ways. Say, “I love you” often.

You give of yourself to the other. You never give up yourself to the other. When you are both #1 no one ever has to worry about competition.

Without trust there can be no effective communication; without effective communication there can be no genuine intimacy. Honesty always wins

Develop a mutual incentive that will assist you in motivating each other to be the best you can be. Be inventive & creative. Share ideas.

Healthy couples identify problems, talk openly and honestly about their differences and choose workable solutions as quickly as possible.

The words you speak determines what shows up in your relationship. Things go well because you both say so & because of what each of you do.

You make the choice. Intimacy or separation. It’s in your hands. Talk or be silent & wait for the inevitable; the ultimate separation.

Never argue with your love partner’s feelings. Learn to appreciate & respect your lover’s different point of view. Only seek to understand!

To have found someone you can share your love and life with is one of life’s greatest treasures and most exciting romantic adventures.

You can read the 1st 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/2nd-100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

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Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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NOTE: You are welcome to use any of the above “Tweets” as quotes as long as you give credit. Example:

LoveNote. . . Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of forgiveness, appreciation, understanding & Love. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

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Monday, February 22, 2010

3rd 100 Tweets from Larry James’ Relationship Twitter!

I have posted the 3rd 100 Tweets (300 Relationship Tweets in all) on my once daily “Relationship Twitter” and thought you might enjoy reading all of them 140 characters at a time. All are adapted from my book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

LoveNotes for Lovers is a collection of meditations, affirmations and reflections on love. A valued relationship is something you work on all the time, not only when its broken and needs to be fixed. LoveNotes for Lovers assists in that process.

lovenotesEvery LoveNote is but one more piece of the relationship puzzle. The design of LoveNotes for Lovers is to help people fit the pieces of the relationship puzzle together in a healthy way. Each one is a mini-lesson in love.

You will also see an occasional link that references an article I have written about that key word. Each link opens in a new window so you won’t lose your place.

You are welcome to use these “LoveNotes” as quotes provided you credit the author as per below:

We become empowered by anger when we view it as something that brings to our awareness those parts of us that need healing. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

You can read the 1st 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

TwitterYou can read the 4th 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/4th-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

Follow my once daily “Relationship Tweets” at: http://Twitter.com/LarryJames – Enjoy!

Rarely is there a time when it is appropriate to withhold relevant communication in a relationship. It is too important to take casually.

Giving up your choice for satisfying your needs is a mistake. Your need to stand alone must be tempered by your need to stand together.

The goal of resolving conflict in a relationship is not victory or defeat. It is reaching a mutual understanding through open discussions.

To fix an issue requires letting go of our need to be right. Mutually solving problems brings love partners closer together.

Resolving conflict allows for negotiation and compromise. It promotes positive momentum & it must benefit both love partners.

There is no victory without the willingness to risk setbacks or total defeat. Love implies commitment and the mature exercise of wisdom.

Being authentic is to be able to live with your guard down; to be venerable; to be able to be yourself. It feels good. Simply be yourself!

Change your thinking about your relationship, then change your behavior and you WILL change your relationship for the better!

The great thing about authenticity is that it releases you from the requirement to be perfect. No one is perfect. Be your own good self.

Demonstrating authenticity in your relationship is a prerequisite to having a healthy relationship. Make it a specific intention e.g., goal.

Think back to some of the great times you’ve had together & recreate the experiences. You must plan time to be together for play.

Reward your partner for doing the right thing. Stay on track. Honor your combined efforts by continuing to work together to have fun.

Go on a date & this time dress to the nines! Make it special. Rent a tuxedo. Buy a new dress. Make advance reservations. Have a weekly date!

Offer “no excuses” for not being able to plan no less than one night each week to turn on the fun! Not having fun is not an option!

Plug in & play. Be a kid again. Plug into what your partner enjoys & then do whatever it takes to make your play time together memorable.

You cannot change someone else. It simply is not possible. Give it up. Love them & work on you. Never stop working on you.

Relationships can drown in negative emotions. Fear only surfaces when we call it up by temporarily letting go of love. Choose Love always!

Trust demands no withholds. You can more lovingly express how you think & feel when trust is present & feel more free to do so.

Maturity is the ability to live up to the responsibilities of a love relationship, & this means being dependable. It means keeping your word

Remember to flirt with your lover, like you did when you first met. Toss out little signals that tell your lover you are still interested.

Trust commands that you live in the present, trusting one moment at a time. To fully trust takes time and mature, committed love.

For Men – Always remember that more often than not, when your partner wants to talk, she only wants someone to listen & not dispense advice.

Relationships can drown in negative emotions. Feelings of fear are created in our own mind. The moment fear appears; we give up our power.

It is only and always fear talking when we hear a voice telling us not to get our hopes up because we will only be disappointed.

Affirmation – If I feel my lover taking me for granted, it is always & only my responsibility to request the love & appreciation I deserve.

Our feelings often rise & fall as our energy is drawn from the unstable emotions present when anger is being expressed. 1st cool down.

You tell yourself what to think. Tell yourself to ‘shut up’ when the temptation to speak ill of your partner occurs. Think good thoughts!

Intimate lovers don’t have to say words to be understood. A knowing glance or touch can say all that needs to be said to ignite passion.

The goal of resolving conflict in a relationship is not victory or defeat. It is reaching a mutual understanding through open discussions.

We must learn to express love to ourselves and to others in the midst of upsets. Love shows up when we let go & embrace love.

Have a private party for just the two of you. Candles, music, the works. Talk. Listen. Express your love for one another.

Love is a bond or connection between two people that results in trust, intimacy, and an interdependence that enhances both partners.

Cuddle. Lie close and be cozy. Do spoons! Just hold each other. There is a very special healing power in a close, warm embrace.

Guys, this one is for you! – Love is letting your partner have the TV remote for 30 days! And not sneaking it when she isn’t looking. 😉

Ask your partner: What do I do that you think forms a pattern & interferes with our intimacy? The answer may give you something to work on.

Love is loving someone without expecting anything in return; no judgments, no restrictions; no limitations; no expectations! Try it!

Love is expressed when you are being someone who loves someone for who they are, not who you think they should be.

Kissy. . . kissy. . . kissy! Quick pecks on the cheek don’t work. Give your partner an unexpected, looooong, juicy kiss. Be keen on kissing!

Communicating is not optional. It is an absolute necessity for the success of the relationship. Always communicate in a loving way.

To demonstrate Love, say, “I Love you” – out loud – at least once each day to someone you love. There is magic in those three little words.

Love is waking up to find the object of your affection – in the dream you were having – asleep on your shoulder. Now whisper, I love you!

Love is embracing differences & finding ways to build a common lifestyle, share decision-making, & take equal responsibility for the results

Heart-to-heart communication in a relationship requires an emotional atmosphere of caring, safety, understanding and trust.

It’s okay to say, “No.” It’s not okay to say, “Yes” when your heart tells you to say otherwise. You can’t fulfill every request made of you

Tender moments of togetherness are necessary for a love relationship to grow. Balance between closeness and separateness must be respected.

Rarely do you get what you need from a relationship when your only intention is to criticize your partner for mistakes. Compliments work!

Plateaus & setbacks are natural to progress. Growth in an intimate relationship is never in a straight, upward line. Exercise patience!

There is comfort in solitude. A committed love relationship fosters respect; respect for each others right to have some time to themselves.

Being in the same room & talking about things that are important to the two of you, can be almost as much fun & as productive as foreplay.

To manage the complexity of a stormy relationship you must accept responsibility for your “share” of the problem before it can be solved.

Maturity is the ability to harness your abilities, your energies & to do more than is expected in your relationships. Say “No” to mediocrity

Saying you are sorry doesn’t always mean you did anything wrong. it demonstrates an attitude of understanding, caring & empathy.

Without trust there can be no effective communication; without effective communication there can be no genuine intimacy. Honesty always pays

Do your best to see your partner’s point of view. This assists especially when you are both in major disagreement. Focus on needs not wants.

Trust demands no withholds. It invites personal disclosure. You can more lovingly express how you think and feel when trust is present.

You can more lovingly express how you think and feel when trust is present in your relationship and feel more free to do so.

When you trust the one you’re with, you can allow your lover to see the real you & be more of your true self. Trust demands no withholds.

Choose to be in a relationship where both partners continue to do things that you considered romantic when the relationship began.

Be in a commitment to always be in a dance with one another, showering each other with compassion & understanding. That’s true commitment.

The commitment that supports a healthy partnership is the commitment each has to the other to always be working on the relationship.

With understanding comes acceptance. With acceptance comes the ultimate expression of unconditional love. Understanding is the key.

Men & women think, feel and communicate differently. People who love each other learn to respect & understand their inherent differences.

Happy & healthy relationships are usually made between happy & healthy people; people who were happy & healthy “before” they were together.

You must be content to first be happy alone so you can be happy when you are together with someone else. Learn to be alone & not be lonely.

Committed lovers listen for the music in words that come from the heart. The music of the heart is the nourishment of unconditional love.

Love, commitment and loving conversation enables us to make music together in a way that helps us stay in tune with one another.

Not to release & rise above suppressed feelings of hurt & anger is to remain imprisoned by them. It takes no strength to let go only courage

The psychological importance of working through painful resentments must not be underestimated. Break old patterns & possibility is born.

Take turns planning events. Show your consideration for each other in this way. To do otherwise is to take your togetherness for granted.

Committed partners know it is wise to plan their time together. Go on a date. Plan it in advance. Don’t wait until the last moment.

In a healthy love relationship, things are easiest when both love partners take responsibility for the whole, not just their halves.

Trust creates breakthroughs in having relationships work. Among lovers, trust invites the spark of the Divine to ignite their passion.

For Men. I remember that more often than not, when my love partner wants to talk, she only wants someone to listen & not to give advice.

If you are content with your discontent in your relationship it cannot move forward. Change comes when you decide to do something different.

When you invalidate your partner’s feelings, disagreement follows. Never argue with anyone’s feelings. It’s an argument you can never win.

Women have a desire to be cherished & supported. It is a wise man that acknowledges this need by doing his best to offer his support.

By far the most common & important way in which you can exercise your attention to your love partner is by listening. It’s an act of love.

For intimacy to grow there can be no withholds. Feelings, positive & negative, must be shared equally between love partners in a loving way.

Forgive and forget is an impossibility. Forgive? Yes! You forgive because it sets you free; the first step toward healing. Forget? No!

You need others & you depend on yourself. Giving up your responsibility for satisfying your needs is a mistake. Stand tall together.

Cherish your differences. Learn to accept and be with the things you cannot change about each other. It allows for individuality to grow.

A determination to resolve conflict by conversation offers a chance for healing & promotes the opportunity to become much closer.

Saying “I’m sorry” over and over for the same mistake doesn’t work! Not making the same mistake again does.

Your relationship priorities are clear now, right? Go first. Apologize. Do what’s right! Say it. “I was wrong and I am sorry.”

If you need to get something off your mind, say it! Never candy-coat it or act like nothing’s wrong. Be nice but Speak up. Soon.

If couples would look for the one thing each day that made their relationship special for that day, what a difference it would make!

True love allows for disagreements. Problems are not there to break you. They help make you a better partner; they help you grow.

Silence is not golden. It’s insulting to your partner & it erodes trust. Speak what’s on your mind. Be honest. Say it with loving words.

Relationship derailment is a troubling phenomenon. It’s time for the death of finger pointing. Blame in a relationship doesn’t work!

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. It is not complicated. It is simple.

Stay on track. Do what’s right. Do unto your partner what you would have them do unto you. Indulge in honoring your combined efforts.

Be happy now! It’s a choice. Focus on the perfect present & its opportunities rather than worrying about past guilt or failure anxiety.

The same energy you expend on anger, when re-directed, can help free you of the negative emotions you feel when you are angry.

LoveNote. . . Plateaus and setbacks are natural to progress. Growth in an intimate relationship is never in a straight, upward line.

Don’t wallow in anger. The wise thing to do is to be present to our anger; acknowledge it. Create a new intention to move through it.

A healthy love relationship can exist only between two strong & independent people. Two broken people cannot fix each other.

Freeing yourself of negative emotions is something you do. It is never dependent upon whomever or whatever you think is the cause of anger.

How wonderful to be in a relationship where partners feel free to express their wants & needs. Talk about anything & everything all the time

I always allow my partner to be their own person. The object is not to be as one but to trust each other enough to play together as a team.

You can read the 1st 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 4th 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/4th-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

Follow my once daily “Relationship Tweets” at: http://Twitter.com/LarryJames

NOTE: The 4th 100 Tweets from Larry James’ Relationship Twitter will be available on September 30, 2010 on this BLOG!

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Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Add Larry James as a “friend” to your Facebook page: http://www.Facebook.com/larry.james
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We become empowered by anger when we view it as something that brings to our awareness those parts of us that need healing. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

Saturday, November 7, 2009

2nd 100 Tweets from Larry James’ Relationship Twitter!

I have posted the 2nd 100 Tweets on my once daily “Relationship Twitter” and thought you might enjoy reading all of them 140 characters at a time. All are adapted from my book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

LoveNotes for Lovers is a collection of meditations, affirmations and reflections on love. A valued relationship is something you work on all the time, not only when its broken and needs to be fixed. LoveNotes for Lovers assists in that process.

lovenotesEvery LoveNote is but one more piece of the relationship puzzle. The design of LoveNotes for Lovers is to help people fit the pieces of the relationship puzzle together in a healthy way. Each one is a mini-lesson in love.

You will also see an occasional link that references an article I have written about that key word. Each link opens in a new window so you won’t lose your place.

You are welcome to use these “LoveNotes” as quotes provided you credit the author as per below:

LoveNote. . . Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of forgiveness, appreciation, understanding & Love. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

You can read the 1st 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

TwitterYou can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 4th 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/4th-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

Follow my once daily “Relationship Tweets” at: http://Twitter.com/LarryJames – Enjoy!

Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of forgiveness, appreciation, understanding & Love.

Relationships are something that must be worked on all the time, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed. Always give your best!

We must never allow anger to use us. Use its energy to move us to the other side. There we will find only Love.

There is no future in the past. Live in the moment. Be in the present. Give your all to the relationship every moment you are in it.

Words can come back to haunt you or they can become the way two partners express their love. Keep your word. Trust is a fragile issue.

Manage your relationship in a way that has both of you have fun in it. Having fun together must be one of your highest priorities.

The hardest part of coming out of a slump is acknowledging you are in one. You cannot solve a problem that you cannot admit you have.

Adversity does not create a great relationship – it reveals it! Upsets create the wisdom necessary to grow in spite of the situation.

When you trust the one you’re with, you can step in front of the person you’ve been and allow your partner to see the real you.

Forgive and forget is an impossibility. Forgive? Yes! You forgive because it sets you free; the first step toward healing. Forget? No!

Not communicating with your relationship partner – or not allowing them access to your thoughts and feelings – can exact a heavy price.

Anger is something that can hurt if expressed with the intention to get even. Don’t inflict your feelings of anger on the ones you love most

Healthy, committed love partners will say, “I’m sorry. I was wrong,” and mean it, rather than hold on to being right or walking away.

My love partner and I share similar spiritual values. Shared spiritual ideas are the basis for a lasting, fulfilling love relationship.

Your partner will almost always be the most dependable, 1st in line to care, & the 1st to help, if help is requested. Requesting is the key.

When you discover that what you have been doing isn’t working, the logical thing to do is to do something different. Muster up intention!

There is comfort in solitude. Partners must learn to cherish their separateness while being together. It makes being together meaningful.

Each partner’s differences test the others capacity for acceptance, forgiveness and understanding. Never dance around the issues.

Indifference is like water to a fire. The flame of love grows dim with indifference to your partner’s needs. Pay attention & take action.

One of the secrets to a healthy love relationship is to never take more than you give. Be alert for ways to contribute to your partner.

It’s simple. Not easy. The path to a whole and healthy love relationship begins when you self-inquire; it begins with loving you first.

The miracle of unconditional love is nurtured by the power of the Divine and our own imagination. Imagine the limitless possibilities!

I always remember that more often than not, when my love partner wants to talk, she only wants someone to listen & not to dispense advice.

My partner & I share a mutual commitment to hold aside no less than one evening each week where we can be alone together. – Larry James

Affirmation: I have a partner who is supportive of making key choices together, and learning from what each partner has to say.

When it is a genuine expression of true love, touch can bring you intimately closer to another human being than can thousands of words.

In a sense, a great love relationship lives on the tip of your tongue. Things go well because you say so and because of what you do.

Higher spiritual values give meaning & purpose to your relationship. They determine what you will turn away from & what you will move toward

Acceptance and tolerance hold hands in the presence of unconditional love. Discuss your imperfections lovingly. Do not pass judgment.

A committed love relationship fosters respect for each others right to have some time to themselves & the willingness to stand together.

It is a healthy relationship where partners can ask for what they want from each other & feel the freedom to say yes or no without guilt.

Promise to always openly communicate love, affection and commitment. It gives your future together more of a chance.

It’s okay to feel angry. It is not okay to be consumed with anger. Anger is not something to be contained; it is something to be released.

Touch is a means of connecting emotionally, physically and spiritually. The gentleness of touch communicates love, understanding & desire.

Only one thing activates, then converts the negative energy of anger into positive energy: an intention to do something different that works

Look at what you’ve been doing in your relationships. If it isn’t working, give up being right about it & do something different. Change it!

Expressing empathy, trust, acceptance, forgiveness, compassion & understanding all contribute to your feeling of being supported.

Screaming & yelling at your partner, is a no-no! If you lose it and do the forbidden, own up to it. Say, “I’m sorry” & don’t do it again!”

Put aside any hesitancy to display affection at times other than when you want something from your partner. That is never ever a good idea.

Mature love partners have learned not to expect perfection in each other. They know that acceptance has its own reward.

Relationships cannot be truly great & incredible unless you make internal changes in the way you think & take caution of the words you speak

Change is always possible in your relationship because it is only & always a choice that leads to a profound sense of freedom & inner peace.

The same energy we use to hold on to the past is the same energy we need to create our future. Holding on is an energy drain. Let go.

Passion is pure energy, aliveness, & like life itself, it starts off neutral; it’s a given. Give the energy of passion direction & meaning.

Communicate. Never assume that your partner knows how you feel. People tend to rely heavily on assumptions to communicate. Hints don’t work.

The extent to which we cling to the past is the extent to which we are blocked in receiving what we truly want in a loving relationship.

Be spontaneous. Stop by the side of the road. Make a spur-of-the-moment bouquet of freshly picked wild flowers. Present them to your partner

Remember that how you express your anger is being translated by someone who has no idea of how you really feel. Slow down. Think, then speak

Share your passion without fear & with patience, commitment, & trust. This level of emotional sharing generates a limitless flow of energy.

Flinging dollars on a date is not what fun-focused dating is about. Sunsets, picnics in the park, celebrating Love together are priced right

Intentionally add a little pizzazz to your love relationship. Do it in playful ways. It enlivens your spirit & breeds happiness. A good idea

Trust blazes new trails. It creates the opening for intimacy to exist. Among lovers, it invites the spark of the Divine to ignite passion.

Affirmation: I am having fun with life and life is having fun with me! I am being good to life and life is being good to me! And so it is!

Slow down the pace a little. Moving 75 mph through life is not a good idea. Focus on having fun. Show consideration for each other this way.

I see upsets in my relationship not as an exterior circumstance to be remedied, but as an interior condition to be understood and healed.

You can gain much insight into the power of your attitudes in the stillness of looking inward. Your body believes every word you say.

Embrace being together. Enjoy each other’s company. Never take your togetherness for granted. What you take for granted. . . disappears!

A communications gap doesn’t only undermine the potential of the relationship; it can, and usually will eventually destroy the relationship.

Honor the opportunity you have to be a part of THIS very special moment. You live in it moment to moment. Be present to it. Accept it.

Women can often tell a man’s interest in them by the length of his attention span. Take heed men. . . make attentive listening a priority.

I believe that every relationship we are in serves a definite purpose. It fulfills a need for us as we fulfill needs for someone else.

Blueprint Your Life! No Purpose. No Goals. First, define your purpose. Know Purpose! Know Goals! Design your relationship by setting goals.

I am convinced that I am bigger than my biggest problem! Never disguise problems as opportunities! Problems are problems. Acknowledge them

gratitudeSay thank you, often! Express appreciation. Acknowledge others for their contribution to you. Be grateful. Be creative with your gratitude!

Foreplay begins with putting the toilet seat down without being asked! Think I’m kidding? It shows that we value and respect our partner.

Bankrupt in the playful department? Spend time watching children play. Childlike frolicking & drawing gleefully outside the lines is okay.

Taking care of what needs to be taken care of is a SHARED responsibility. Relationship enrichment can only occur when you work together.

We are startled with a sense that letting go of our expectations might contribute to the cause of making the real magic of the moment appear

When things go wrong, don’t go with them. It’s normal to have ups & downs. Never let problems stop you! Look for the solution & go again!

I have discovered that anxiety is my friend. It calls attention to the options I have open; to the new choices that are available to me.

Relationships often fail when two people who have been in love stop meeting each other’s needs. This is another reason for paying attention.

You must first learn to be alone & happy before you can be together & happy. Never be dependent on others for your own happiness.

Make a list of things you know that pleases your partner and do them consistently. Never stop doing the things that brought you together.

Love today, right now, without conditions or requirements. Seize love when it comes your way & as quickly, give it away. Celebrate Love!

Communicating is not optional. You get a higher return on your relationship investment by communicating openly & honestly about everything.

Those who never seem to get past their fears to make new discoveries stay stuck in the misery they will not take responsibility for.

Express affection. Touching enlivens our lives. It nurtures our relationship. This gift contains within it the miracle of healing & bonding.

Try this: No expectations, fewer disappointments! Not easy. Simple. Don’t be attached to the expectation of how your needs get fulfilled.

Be Yourself. Demonstrate your own authenticity. Be unto others as you would have them be unto you. People can spot a phoney a mile away.

Old wounds have a drawing power & pull our attention to them over & over, taking energy & hope from us, preventing us from beginning again.

By far the most common and important way in which you can exercise your attention to your partner is by listening. It is an act of love.

YOU are the voice! What you say goes. You are in charge here. Think & speak only of what you want. Live lives on the tip of your tongue!

Knowledge is power only when we use it: for our own good and for the good of others. With it we can help others. Be somebody’s angel today!

Problems are not to break us. Working together on problems makes us strong. Be committed to learning the lessons the problems present.

It’s time to demonstrate courage & love instead of fear. Give yourself permission to live your relationships powerfully – beyond measure.

Live neither in the past nor in the future, but let every activity of the moment absorb all of your interest, energy and enthusiasm.

To worry about your relationship is to use your imagination to create something you do not want. Have concerns? Hire a relationship coach.

Relationships never END! Divorce, death or separation only changes them. As long as you have memory, you will have a relationship.

Needs must be communicated. Expectations are rarely communicated. No one can read your mind. Focus. Unfulfilled expectations cause problems.

I challenge you to discover what it is like to “live in the present!” Happiness, harmony & love reside there. The past is gone. Accept it.

Gifts should be a symbol of being related rather than a bid for reassurance that we are loved. Give it proper thought, feeling & inquiry.

A relationship bonus! Make sure some of your own personal goals are designed to contribute to your love partner & to your relationship.

In a sense a great love relationship lives on the tip of your tongue. Things go well because you say so & because of what each of you do.

Plateaus and setbacks are natural to progress. Growth in an intimate relationship is never in a straight upward line. Problems help us grow!

A Relationship cannot be truly great unless you make internal changes in the way you think and take caution of the words you speak about it.

It is impossible to start new & to make clear, healthy, life-giving choices until we have let go of past hurts, confusion and resentments.

Spend time working on you. You are #1. Work on developing your own self as an individual. The one you are with is you! Reinvent yourself.

Make a mutual commitment to no withholds, another of the keys to success in a healthy love relationship. Talk about anything & everything.

The healthy release of anger must be presented in a way that empowers the relationship; anger expressed without blame, no pointing fingers.

Starting over is the key to a new you. Embrace the beauty and significance of beginning again. Right now is the only reality. This is it!

You can read the 1st 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 4th 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/4th-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

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Your comments are always welcome!

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Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Add Larry James as a “friend” to your Facebook page: http://www.Facebook.com/larry.james
Follow Larry’s “once daily” Relationship Tweet at: http://www.Twitter.com/larryjames
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NOTE: You are welcome to use any of the above “Tweets” as quotes as long as you give credit. Example:

LoveNote. . . Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of forgiveness, appreciation, understanding & Love. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

Saturday, July 25, 2009

1st 100 Tweets from Larry James’ Relationship Twitter!

I have posted the 1st 100 Tweets on my “Relationship Twitter” and thought you might enjoy reading all of them 140 characters at a time. All are adapted from my book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

LoveNotes for Lovers is a collection of meditations, affirmations and reflections on love. A valued relationship is something you work on all the time, not only when its broken and needs to be fixed. LoveNotes for Lovers assists in that process.

twitterFollowMElovenotesEvery LoveNote is but one more piece of the relationship puzzle. The design of LoveNotes for Lovers is to help people fit the pieces of the relationship puzzle together in a healthy way. Each one is a mini-lesson in love.

You will also see an occasional link that references an article I have written about that key word. Each link opens in a new window so you won’t lose your place.

You are welcome to use these “LoveNotes” as quotes provided you credit the author as per below:

LoveNote. . . Good fortune favors those who actively work together to create a sense of shared responsibility for the success of their relationship. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/2nd-100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 4th 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/4th-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

TwitterFollow my once daily “Relationship Tweets” at: http://Twitter.com/LarryJames – Enjoy!

If you are at war with others you cannot be at peace with yourself. You CAN let go & forgive! It takes no strength to let go, only courage.

It’s scary when we begin to understand that we are the source of our own misery. Some people never reach that level of understanding.

Date your mate! Plan in advance. Preparation is the key. Focus on having fun. Committed love partners know it is wise to plan time together.

When we disagree our relationship can often become temporarily out of order. Arguments can bring anger to the boiling point. Cool down.

Good fortune favors those who actively work together to create a sense of shared responsibility for the success of their relationship.

We often get so busy working on trying to fix our love partner (not possible) we forget that we are responsible for only fixing ourselves.

Listen with acceptance and understanding. Conversation occurs when someone is speaking & someone else is listening. Be a good listener.

True love allows for disagreements. Acknowledging when you are wrong is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength. Be strong!

Anger must be expressed with an attitude of acknowledgment for the responsibility you may have for your equal share of the upset.

Learning to express yourself aloud is one thing. The feelings behind how you express these words are what count. Silence is not golden.

Cherish your differences. They are there for a purpose. Learn from them by learning to freely discuss them. Withhold your disapproval.

When you resolve conflict by conversation it offers a chance for healing & promotes the opportunity to become closer to the one you love.

Insecurities bring forth jealousy, which, is a cry for more love. Jealousy is the surest way to drive away the person you may fear losing.

When love is present in your relationship it is easier to say what you need to say. Your partner must feel the love behind the words.

There is comfort in solitude. Partners must learn to cherish their separateness while being together. It’s okay to have time to yourself.

When your lover needs space, allow it. To pursue or punish them when this happens will continue to interrupt the intimacy you both desire.

Being an attentive listener often offers an opportunity for healing and suggests a deeper level of love than simply saying, “I love you!”

Your subconscious mind believes every word you say. Your words and thoughts govern how your world and your relationships will be.

Think twice before you speak. Angry words, once spoken, reverberate like bells in a cathedral steeple. Remember, you can’t un-ring a bell.

A healthy love relationship allows two people to fully know each other and still love each other. Full disclosure. What’s on YOUR mind?

Indifference is like water to a fire. The flame of love grows dim with indifference to your love partner’s needs. Needs is high on the list!

The healthy release of anger must be presented in a way that empowers the relationship; anger expressed without blame, no pointing fingers.

Arguments create negative distance. Life is too short to maintain negative distance between love partners for lengthy periods of time.

It is a challenge for women when suddenly their man shuts down & ceases to communicate. This seldom works for the good of the relationship.

Men: Carefully chosen words, spoken aloud, are the only way a woman knows what is in your heart. Choose them carefully; speak them lovingly.

We must move through conflict as quickly as we can. Restoration is a process that takes time. Be patient & give up being right!

Your own personal growth contributes to the deepening and strengthening of the relationship you have with another. Work mostly on you.

All there is, is relationships. Building a successful relationship is a never-ending process. Do it with intention & pay attention to it!

Maturity is the ability to live up to the responsibilities of a love relationship, & this means being dependable & keeping your word.

We must plan to have fun together. Playing & having fun isn’t so much what we do. It’s how we feel about who we are with & what we do.

When relationships are fun they are easier to be appreciated. It takes steady work & a skillful specific intention to have them be that way.

You cannot change someone else. It simply is not possible. Give it up. Love them & work on you. Never stop working on you. Be YOUR best!

My happiness depends on me, so you are totally off the hook! Remember happiness is a choice. Your choice. No one else’s. Choice wisely.

Intimacy, the most profound of interpersonal human pleasures, grows most favorably in an atmosphere of peace and love.

Only one response to conflict opens the door to intimacy; an intent to learn from the experience. We often get so busy working on trying to fix our love partner that we forget that we are responsible for only fixing ourselves.

One of the secrets for a healthy love relationship is to never take more than you give.

Affirmation – When I am hurting, I ask my lover for a hug. There is Divine healing in a silent, close embrace.

You do not stumble on a great relationship by accident. You experience it on purpose. A great relationship is developed intentionally.

When your lover needs space. . . allow it. When he/she pulls away. . . let him/her go. Never chase them. Not to worry, they will be back.

Making love is a Divine idea! Intimacy is the only path to passion. Not sharing intimately negates the opportunity to grow together.

To have found someone you can share your love & life with is one of life’s greatest treasures & most exciting adventures. Celebrate Love!

Put aside any hesitancy to display affection at times other than when you want something. A kiss, a gentle hug or whisper words of love.

Promise to always openly communicate affection, love and commitment. It gives your future together more of a chance.

The miracle of unconditional love is nurtured by the power of the Divine and our own imagination. Imagine the possibilities!

A kiss has been described as the height of voluptuousness. It has a lovely, luscious and lusty legacy. Kissing is an act of quiet.

Love is embracing differences & discovering ways in which to build a common lifestyle, share decision-making, and take equal responsibility.

Ask yourself: “Would I want to be in a relationship with me?” “Am I someone who I would want to be with forever?” Answer honestly.

A forever love relationship requires devotion, loyalty and a mature ability to commit. Celebrate your love openly and honestly.

We are strongest when we let go of what doesn’t work. When we open our mind to behave in a different way, we create the freedom to love.

Commitment is a deep trust, a devotion discovered in the choice to be together. Commitment needs no agreements. It is based on desire.

The miracle of unconditional love is nurtured by the power of the Divine and our own imagination. Imagine the possibilities!

Feelings are always very real for the one who feels them. When your lover expresses feelings, validate them, even if you disagree.

What you focus on expands & eventually shows up. Think about & focus on what you want. What you think about & speak about, you bring about!

NEVER stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place. There is danger in becoming complacent with your relationship.

The mature person refuses to settle for mediocrity in their relationship. They would rather aim high & miss the mark than aim low & hit it.

Maturity is the ability to harness your abilities & your energies & to do more than is expected in your relationships. Doing your best?

Never go to bed angry. Settle every argument before going to sleep if possible. Stay up late if necessary. Get things settled quickly.

Choose to be in a relationship where the romance continues; where both partners continue to do things that you both consider romantic.

Manage your relationship in a way that has both of you have fun in it. Having fun together must be one of your highest priorities.

One of the secrets to a healthy love relationship is to never take more than you give. It is wise to learn to give without expectations.

You are the architect of your own discomfort. The secret is to never wallow in the suffering any longer than necessary. Think differently!

Disagreements are a signal that your love partner needs care & understanding. Learn to listen without becoming defensive. It’s never easy!

The only thing that makes the difference in the way you feel right now is the thought that you are thinking right now. Think about it!

We often get so busy working on trying to fix our love partner that we forget that we are responsible for only fixing ourselves. Get busy!

Intimacy, the most profound of interpersonal human pleasures, grows most favorably in an atmosphere of peace and love.

You never have time to do the things “you do not want to do.” Remember that the next time you get bogged down in unnecessary activities.

Trials and tribulations are to make, not break us. Accept them as opportunities to look for solutions together and to grow as a couple.

Relationship problems do not go away. They must be worked through or they remain, forever a barrier to your love, growth & development.

Trust introduces you to a new freedom – the freedom to think and feel and really be with the one you love. Trust opens many doors.

Nothing stands between you and anything that you desire other than your own patterns of thought. Change your thinking then your behavior.

Mature love partners permit each other the freedom to pursue their individual interests and friends without restriction. It’s called trust.

Let’s inspire one another, share our hugs, smiles, forgiveness & compassion & let the world know that love is indeed possible & present.

Healthy, committed love partners will say, “I’m sorry. I was wrong,” and mean it, rather than hold on to being right or walking away.

True acceptance of each other’s individuality & separateness is the only foundation upon which a mature, healthy relationship can be.

Relationship problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain. Trials and tribulations are to make, not break us.

Affirmation – I listen when my lover shares, without making judgments. My heart is always open to hear what my love partner has to say.

We become empowered by anger when we view it as something that brings to our awareness those parts of us that need healing.

Affirmation – When I am hurting, I ask my lover for a hug. There is Divine healing in a silent, close embrace.

You are where you are and what you are because of your choices and decisions in life to this very moment. Choice is your greatest power.

Everything you do is a choice based on your dominant values at the moment. Even taking no action is a choice.

The energy for change is inspired by the emotional honesty we express through our feelings. Our feelings often become the catalyst for re-inventing ourselves.

Our feelings help us to discover ourselves. Heed their call. They provide clues and insights into who we are.

Indifference is like water to a fire. The flame of love grows dim with indifference to your love partner’s needs.

Caring, safety, and trust allow two people to fully know each other and still love each other.

Heart-to-heart communication requires an emotional atmosphere of caring, safety, and trust.

Intimate lovers don’t have to say words to be understood. A knowing glance or touch can say all that needs to be said to ignite passion.

You can more lovingly express how you think and feel when trust is present in your relationship. You will also feel more free to do so.

Trust demands no withholds. It invites personal disclosure. That is scary for most. Allow your lover to see the real you. Be your true self.

We create the freedom to love. To open our hearts to love is perhaps the greatest gift we can give to ourselves.

We are strongest when we are letting go of what doesn’t work – when we open our mind to behave in a different way.

Commitment is a deep trust, a devotion discovered in the choice to be together. It is based on desire, not obligation.

To achieve the kind of relationship you would like and have never had before you must become someone you have never been before!

Talking about things that are important to the two of you can be almost as much fun and as productive as foreplay. Communication is good!

Starting over is the key to a new you. Embrace the beauty and significance of beginning again. Right now is the only reality. This is it!

The healthy release of anger must be presented in a way that empowers the relationship; anger expressed without blame, no pointing fingers.

Make a mutual commitment to no withholds, another of the keys to success in a healthy love relationship. Talk about anything & everything.

Spend time working on you. You are #1. Work on developing your own self as an individual. The one you are with is you! Reinvent yourself.

It is impossible to start new & to make clear, healthy, life- giving choices until we have let go of past hurts, confusion and resentments.

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/2nd-100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

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Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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LoveNote. . . Good fortune favors those who actively work together to create a sense of shared responsibility for the success of their relationship. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

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