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Friday, June 12, 2015

Single? ~ Focus on This One Thing!

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When you can be alone and not be lonely… that’s when Love will find you!

NOTlonelyYour ability to focus on a single task – a better you – will dramatically improve once you make the decision to do it. Making the decision is the hardest part. Over time, your decision to work on you every single day will reap tremendous benefits in your life and drastically increase your success rate with the opposite sex.

Staying focused is the key – a total commitment to you. Getting distracted is easy. You’re out in a crowd and you meet someone, begin to think, “He could be the one,” and your commitment to yourself goes out the window. It’s never good to start another relationship until some time has passed. There is no shame in being single for a while. Single is a word that best describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending upon someone else. Don’t allow yourself to get distracted.

Always remember: All failed relationships hurt for awhile, however losing someone who doesn’t appreciate and respect you is actually a “gain” – never a loss!

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Principles of Being

Austin Vickers, Guest Author

Larry’s NOTE: Suggestion… print this page and start a new tradition. After you have read this powerful affirmation, make reading it part of your daily routine. I believe that would be a great step in the right direction for you. “Change your thinking, change your behavior and you will change your life!”

I acknowledge that every circumstance and relationship in my life is a direct or indirect result of choices I have made, or failed to make. I understand that I am the supreme creator of my life and everything in it, and I choose every day to accept my present circumstances and relationships exactly as they are, unless I am consciously acting to change them.

PrinciplesOFBeingI believe that life is exactly as we choose to see it. All people, places and things can present both a negative and positive perspective. We, as observers, make the choice of which side we will focus upon. Because I want to fill my life with joy, I choose to recognize the positive in all things.

I will try to have every choice I make be consistent with the highest vision I have of myself. Rather than try to control or manipulate others to conform to my addictive behaviors or programming, I will allow others to simply be, and will learn to change my addictions into preferences. I know this is the only way I can be truly happy.

I know it is better to live my life without expectations or attachment to results. Although I may plan for the future, I must not become too attached to the fulfillment of those plans or I may miss other more fulfilling opportunities. If life takes me in a direction different than the one I have planned, I believe it is for my ultimate good.

I want to approach each and every moment of every day with the same level of enthusiasm, happiness, passion and present-moment focus as I have making love. Life and everything in it, like sex, is a wonderful experience that I know I must appreciate, using all of my senses to fully enjoy it.

Honesty is one of the single greatest principles in life, and I will approach every person, circumstance or situation with a commitment to be honest with myself, to openly and honestly present my true thoughts and feelings to others, and to never lie, deceive or mislead another person.

I believe in being sensitive, and before acting or reacting to any situation or person, I will try my best to act or react in a way that I would want to be treated under the same circumstances.

I cannot judge any person, situation or thing for I do not know all of the facts. My experience with anything is limited to my interaction with that person, situation or thing – and that is not the complete picture. Therefore, I cannot judge whether anything or anyone is good or bad, right or wrong. I also know I should not judge myself too harshly, for I am a learning, loving human being that can draw strength from my weaknesses and experiences.

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I recognize that I can only view life through my own rose-colored glasses, and the beliefs, opinions or standards of any group or person, including my own beliefs, are not necessarily universal truths.

I have a thirst and love for knowledge and understanding, and I recognize that true learning and growth comes only from effort, experience and a willingness to accept some new ideas, even if it means the rejection of previously held beliefs.

I love living and I know that a healthy body is an essential part of maintaining the quality of my life experience. Consequently, I will exercise my body and will feed it with healthy air, food and drinks, I will heal it and rest it when necessary, and I will treat my body with loving care. I will touch others and smile at others often, for it is my true nature to be kind. I will also laugh a lot.

I believe in God, Spirit, or the Soul – whatever name we give to that power in the universe that exists beyond our obvious senses. Life becomes magical when we see the clues that spirit offers and I will strive to find them. I also know that inviting Spirit into my life allows me to make better choices than I would otherwise make, for it allows me to view life from the perspective of heaven.

I believe that each of us can contribute to the world in some unique way. For me it is to share with others the principles that I hold dear, in the hope that these principles will benefit others as much as they have given benefit to me. I am fulfilled and happy when I act in service to others.

The real purpose of life is love. Love is our very essence, the all which created us and is us. This day I will work to remove that which blocks my love from flowing freely. I will learn to love myself and I will liberally share my love with others. I will be kind, understanding and compassionate. I will make love a daily focus and priority in my life, and I will try to fill every moment of my life and yours with love. I will tell you how much I love you as often as I can.

These are my governing principles. I have not yet attained to them, but I am struggling to do it. I may not ever totally achieve them, but you may. So go on! Learn what you may from me, open your eyes with the light that I offer, but learn to walk for yourself. Don’t be afraid – I am walking too… not behind you or in front of you, but beside you making my own way. As we walk along together we can look out for each other… help each other. I will be there for you… and you for me… and together we will realize our dreams.

austinvickersCopyright © 2014 – Austin Vickers. All rights reserved. Reprinted with Permission. – Austin is the writer and producer of People v. The State of Illusion, a docudrama based on his work and the science and power of perception and imagination that will be released in the fall of 2011. He is also the author of the personal leadership book and program “Stepping Up: to a Life of Vision, Passion and Authentic Power” and is a professional speaker who has educated and entertained audiences from some of America’s leading corporations. www.AustinVickers.com.

Larry James recommends seeing, “People v. The State Of Illusion!”

Good documentaries are based on the attempt, in one fashion or another, to document reality. Great documentaries take you further. This movie questions what is reality and reveals how our perceptions can actually create reality. If you liked The Secret, The Shadow Effect, or What The Bleep Do We Know!? then you’re sure to love this docudrama by Austin Vickers.

This must-see psychological movie includes some of the nation’s leading thinkers in the fields of neuroscience, biochemistry, psychology, quantum physics, sociology, and consciousness theory, including Dr. Thomas Moore, Dr. Candace Pert, Debbie Ford, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Robert Jahn, Dr. Peter Senge, Brenda Dunne, and Dr. Michael Vandermark.

People v. The State Of Illusion is directed by Scott Cervine and written and produced by Austin Vickers. It is set in the notorious “Old Main Prison” of the New Mexico State Penitentiary, and tells the story of Aaron Roberts. It is an inspiring and compelling movie that will enlighten your mind and elevate your spirit.

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Sunday, September 21, 2014

Can You Honestly Say…

“I am doing my best?”

If not you may be passing up many opportunities to exceed everyday.

CanYouSayYou can do that with a smile and by saying hello to a perfect stranger. It may be just what they need at that moment in time. You have to admit there have been times when a smile may have been just what you needed too.

You can do it by helping others help themselves.

Complimenting co-workers about a job well done is a very easy and affordable way of showing gratitude and appreciation.

“The inauthenticity between how we live life and the truth we know about it comes at a steep price.” ~ Parker Palmer

Do your best work by becoming part of the solution instead of being a part of the problem. Do your very best on every task and on your everyday interaction with everyone you meet. Are you doing the best you can? It’s good to ask yourself that question from time to time.

Learning to be happy with yourself plays a big part as to whether you will do the best you can. Are you enjoying your life? Distract yourself by doing something good for someone else. I find joy in doing something for someone else without letting them know that I did it. Let someone else claim the credit for some idea or something you did.

You may think you don’t have time to help others – but you do! You never have time to do the things you don’t want to do. Attempting to do your best brings out the best in you. It feels good to assist others!

It’s time to stop telling people that you are doing your best, when in your heart you know better. Stop looking for a pat on the back in order to validate your lack of effort as a sincere attempt at doing something extraordinary.

“Perhaps the one thing that is keeping you from achieving all of your goals and living out all of your dreams is your attempt to do your best. You don’t really know what you are truly capable of. None of us do. Doing is exciting. It creates. It breeds accomplishment. Fulfillment. Peace. It has unlimited possibilities. It comes naturally.” ~ Marc Ensign

We must DO more for ourselves and others. The “doing” is what is important. It may not be your best, but then, “What is your best?” I’m sure you have had times when you thought you were doing the best that you could but whatever you were doing was not enough. I would suggest that it “was” the best you could do at that moment in time. Next time, with a similar circumstance, you may very well succeed by doing better.

“It doesn’t always come together in an instant and it’s not as simple as just telling yourself to be more confident, more self-assured or more focused.” ~ Michaela (Founder of www.ForTheCreators.com)

Being your best at something begins with baby steps. Hand a bottle of water to a beggar on the median.

It’s also time to unleash your creativity and live it everyday with passion and an intention to put forth more effort and do more for yourself and others. Doing your best is about you and your relationship to yourself, your family and your friends.

“Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude. Excellence comes not from education, money, ability or connections alone. It comes from a commitment to do the very best with whatever you have available.” ~ Ralph S. Marston Jr.

If you’re not doing your honest best, do “something” different and better. If you are doing your best, celebrate it and enjoy the contentment and joy that follow.

Don’t wait another day. Step out of your comfort zone. Declare a new intention to do more for others. No holding back. Reconstruct a vision of higher standards for yourself. Get out of your own way. No more negativity. Don’t give in to mediocrity. Stay on the right path. No more excuses. Just DO!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Tuesday, December 31, 2013

So… What’s It Gonna Be?

“More of the same” is not an option for the New Year!

We are a few tick-tocks away from a brand new year. It’s time to take some time to think about if who you are is going to be any different this year. We all want things to be better. However, when we begin to think about the things we’d like to change about ourselves, we don’t want to go there. Some don’t have enough will power to point their thinking in that direction. “You did say ‘CHANGE,’ right?” How can things – or you – be different unless we make a few life-changing choices?

HappyNewYear1Please, no more resolutions! We must stop the resolution madness. Resolutions don’t work and they leave us feeling worse in the long run, so let’s just quit before we start, shall we? We all know the stats on keeping them. Going into making resolutions already knowing that we are statically not going to keep them is a bad first step in the wrong direction. Those stats are a bad friend.

I would rather talk about new goals in terms of promises. People generally tend to keep promises. A promise means to commit to something you will do in the future; or to commit to something that will happen in the future. Make promises you know you will keep.

If you mess up on this stage, you’re in a heap of trouble. Find a place where you can sit and reflect. Have a pen and paper available, or a tablet device if preferred. Focus on the number one promise you would like to make for the new year.

Only make first-class promises you know you will keep and narrow your list to 2 or 3 things you “feel” you MUST do. Be realistic and specific. It will help to see a list of items on paper to keep your motivation strong. So… write your promises down.

Don’t beat yourself up! Obsessing over an occasional slip-up won’t help you achieve your goal. Do the best you can each day, and take one day at a time.

It is so easy to justify breaking a promise when you are faced with the steps required to keep it (Read the BONUS Article listed below). Failing to keep your promises gives the appearance of being disorganized and irresponsible.

The more you honor your integrity, the more dignity you have. Your promises to yourself must be so important and easily kept that you’ll reach out and grab them every single day – because you want what you’ve promised yourself!

NewYearNewMeSome have said, “It’s not a broken promise if you never meant to keep it.” That’s why you have to go all in… put your heart into it. Give yourself the respect you deserve by making honest and authentic ones.

If parts of the plan aren’t working, then make alterations. It’s important to never underestimate what you can accomplish when you put your mind to it and when you keep your promises.

Instead of resolutions, let’s also focus on how we want next year to FEEL. You need to have a clear vision about what it will look, feel like, and be like, when you have made the change. Do you believe you can?

By whens are important too. By when = deadline. Don’t make excuses for yourself.

On keeping your word: Keeping your word keeps you energetically healthy and connected to those around us. This in turn makes life easier and more pleasurable.

“Our capacity for joy, creativity, self-love, psychological health, generosity, compassion – all depend on feeling comfortable and deeply connected within ourselves and having a sense of trust in ourselves.” ~ Bronwyn

Put Post-It® notes everywhere to keep your promises in mind daily! Put them on you mirror in the bathroom, of the fridge, on your car’s rear view mirror, in your briefcase, on your desk at work, put reminders of your promises everywhere you might see them. You don’t have to make it a list. I just wrote the word PROMISES or KEEP MY WORD on my Post-It® notes. I tacked a Put Post-It® note to my front door. About every 30 days, post a new Post-It® note in another color. Why? After a period of time you develop a scotoma – a blind spot in an otherwise normal visual field. You still see it but it’s like it’s not even there. Your mind ignores it.

“When you make a promise or commit to do something, keep in mind what you want to achieve. Your goal is what matters, not the promise that helps its completion. Why? Because if you think that the promise is super important and then you break it, you’ll be tempted to abandon the project out of discouragement. When you pay too much attention to promises and not enough to the goal, you’re like a guy that drives staring at the wheel instead of minding the road. Where do you think that ends?” ~ Gaël Blanchemain

newYearPay attention to self-sabotaging mind chatter, like: “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t think I can do this.” If you find negative thoughts creeping into your thoughts, don’t criticize yourself, just stay in control. Keeping your promises is not about willpower, it’s about the power of your intention. If you relapse, never view yourself as a failure. Rather, become gently curious about the triggers that led to the return of old habits that caused the relapse and continue to develop alternative coping mechanisms.

To be clear, it is much easier to fail to keep a promise you make to yourself because no one but you knows about it. This may help. Appoint an accountability partner. Whether it’s in the form of a professional, a family member, a friend, or some type of formal support group, consider enlisting someone’s help. This must be someone you are close to who will be your support system for the coming year; someone who will hold you accountable for the promises you make to yourself. This should be someone you trust and the only person you share your promises with. Doing this shows that you are not only serious about keeping your promise, but that you realize your own strengths and limitations.

New Year’s Day opens a clean slate, the old year is over, the new year is just beginning. When all is said and done, the New Year still remains a time of celebration. It is a time to reflect on our past, to forgive others and to make amends. It is a time to look forward to our futures and to cherish our families and friends. To everyone everywhere, Happy New Year! May your year be blessed with Peace and Love.

“Spend the next few days preparing for the year ahead: Forgive everyone, let go of everything, let God take charge.” ~ Marianne Williamson

BONUS Article: How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolution ~ Pay particular attention to the seven stages of change!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Sunday, December 15, 2013

Gimme Some JOY!

Filed under: Happiness,Joy,Personal Growth,Relationships — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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The next time you see me or any of your friends, imagine that you hear us say, “Gimme some joy!” and so, you do that. You give them some of your joy. You be the bright spot in someone’s day!

Joy2Don’t tell me you don’t have any joy because I know you do. Everyone does. This doesn’t mean that you will go around joyiously all the time. 😉 I doubt seriously if anyone could do that… not all the time. I don’t suggest that you “fake it till you make” it because most people I know can tell you are faking it. We all have our ups and downs. But the point is, when you did dig down deep to find a little joy to share, some more joy came into that space and you now have more joy. You actually gave joy away and you got more of it right back.

Some of us should begin by looking within to see what is crowding joy out of our lives. I’ll save that topic for another blog post. 😉

Sometimes I see some of my friends and it seems that they are looking more like sourpusses every time I see them. I want to shake them and say, “If you’re happy you should tell your face.” Sometimes – because they are my friends – I cannot resist giving them a verbal shake.

Show your joy!
“I don’t have any joy.”
Yes you do. You may have to look for it but you do have a little joy hidden away just waiting to be expressed. So, “Gimme some joy!”

Close-up of fire and flames on a black background (Huge file)It always gets a smile (which is the beginning of sharing joy) and thus begins the discovery of more joy.

Just because you can force a little joy to share with others, doesn’t mean that you may have genuine concerns about something that is going on in your life. Joy is not happiness that depends on our circumstances and our moods. You can have the same joy in terrible circumstances that you would have when all is well. It’s not about tying to cover up the fact that you may be feeling like crap. It’s about helping others to find their joy. You can do that, can’t you?

Doesn’t it feel great to be someone who understands that you can – for a moment – be side-tracted from your troubles by giving joy? What a concept!

“Gimme some joy!”

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Life Goes By in the Blink of an Eye!

Filed under: Personal Growth,Taking Care of YOU! — Larry James @ 7:30 am

Enjoy the blink together.

Never miss an opportunity to express your love for your partner – in words and in deeds. Hugs are fun too. Say, “I Love you!” out loud at least once a day! Call them… right now to say, “I love you!”

BlinkOfAnEyeLife moves quickly. Things change rapidly.

Never hold on to being right. A closer look can tell you why. Let go.

Forgive often. “The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person!” ~ Louise Hay

Say, “I’m sorry” with sincerity and only if you mean it.

The grudge you hold today may be a regret tomorrow!

Worry less.

Breathe. Deeply. Learn to still the motion of your mind. Meditate.

If there is someone special in your life… appreciate every moment you are together. Live in the present. Pay attention.

In life, it’s not knowing what you want, it’s about what you can cross off your list that you don’t want!

Be happy. “Happiness, not in another place but this place…not for another hour, but this hour.” ― Walt Whitman

Accept compliments graciously. Be respectful of yourself and others. Dream BIG!

Distance yourself from those who drag you down and watch your life spiral upward. Avoid and discard drama. Trust your own judgement.

Find at least one thing each day that you can be grateful for.

Only look back to see how far you’ve come and to evaluate your own personal growth.

Stay in touch with family and friends.

Love yourself!

Reach out eagerly and without hesitation for newer and richer experiences. Always look forward with great anticipation to what’s next.

Never allow a few bad memories to slow your progress or keep you from having a good life now. Enjoy life – with or without someone else.

Always remember: What you see in others always exists in you. Be cautious of who you let in your life. Believe in karma. “Life is an echo. What you send out comes back.” ~ Zig Ziglar

Breathe. Know that this moment is the only moment you have for sure!

What would you do differently today if you knew you would not be here tomorrow?

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Wednesday, November 13, 2013

You Don’t Have to Be in a Relationship to Celebrate Love!

Filed under: Love,Personal Growth — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Celebrating love begins with the one you see in the mirror every morning. Being in a relationship doesn’t need to be a pre-requisite for celebrating love! AND it doesn’t have to be Valentine’s Day to be in a loving mood. What love that you put out there is what you’ll get back. Perform acts of love, big or small. Love is reciprocal. Look for ways you can give love to others. You cannot give love away if you don’t have love for yourself.

celebratelove“Maybe you don’t need the whole world to love you, you know? Maybe you just need one person – you.” ~ Kermit the Frog

Be kind to others. Celebrate the love in YOUR life. Renew the relationship you have with yourself. It’s easy, when your life is going well. But we often take the love we have with ourself for granted. What you take for granted, disappears. Invite a close friend to lunch or dinner. Today, make a conscious effort to smile to everyone you meet. Say, “Thank you,” often. Two simple words that can make someone’s day. Make today a day to remind yourself of the love you already have in your life.

singlecelebratinglove.jpgBe your own Valentine! Go to a movie by yourself and pay the ticket price for the person behind you. Put a Post-It note on their bathroom mirror with a sweet sentiment. You can write “I love ME,” or “Let’s have a date tonight,” then go someplace special. Pamper, relax and indulge yourself. Buy yourself some flowers arrangements and scatter them around your home.

Think about something you’ve always wanted to do, but always came up with a million excuses for not doing it. Then take that first step. Think about something you’ve always wanted to do, but always came up with a million excuses for not doing it. Then take that first step.

“Do things that make you happy – whether it’s curling up with a good book or treating yourself to some pampering. Go to the gym, start a new workout routine, or look up a new recipe! Remind yourself of your strengths and talents. You’ll find that you can make yourself happier than anyone else can if you really try to.” ~ Maya

Spend a weekend in the meaningful way by spending time with the needy and downtrodden. You could visit an orphanage or old age home and spend time with the people there who are always in need of love and affection.

Take a personal day from work and take a short day trip. Invite a friend. Or take the day and volunteer. Taking care of yourself is great, but you can also get an amazing boost of endorphins by helping others. Brighten someone else’s day with your words and actions. Treat yourself to a massage.

Write a love letter to yourself. It’s amazing the power words can have on how you feel about YOU.

Pick one day in the year and call it your own. Make a note to yourself to have that day be YOUR day and celebrate YOU each and every year. Choose one other day each year to celebrate love with friends. Use that day as an opportunity to celebrate love of all sorts, and express your appreciation and affection for the amazing people in your life.

journalCelebrate your single-ness. Love your single-ness. Savor your singlehood. Think about all the marvelous benefits of being single, from not fighting over the TV remote control to being able to keep your living space as clean or as messy as you’d like. Make a list. Focus on the benefits rather than seeing drawbacks. Think of the money you’re saving. 😉 Choose to be happy within yourself regardless of your relationship status.

Take a quick tip to a book store and start a journal. Take an afternoon and write down all the things you can do to demonstrate love. Keep writing this list – add something to it daily. Call it your “Instructions for Loving.” Don’t stop until you’re feeling great about yourself. At least once each week share one item on your list with someone you love. Also make a list of what you “love” about yourself. Bet you haven’t done that for a long, long time – if ever! Write down 15 things you absolutely love, then make plans to do them.

momentsofLOVEEmbrace new experiences with close friends. Spend as much time as you can with people you really care about. Getting together with one close friend can be as beneficial as hanging out with a group.

Put your love in action! Doing unselfish good deeds such as giving, helping, thanking, forgiving, etc. are “love in action.” Love is less of feeling and more of choosing and doing good deeds to family, relatives, friends and even strangers.

If you knew that you only had one week to live, who would you rush to tell, “I love you?”

BONUS Article: 10 Radical Self Love Exercises To Boost Your Summer Lovin’!
How to Celebrate LOVE without Being Mushy

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Friday, July 12, 2013

Are You Taking Care of YOU?

You are #1!

Don’t feel that way? Perhaps you should take better care of you.

frazzledYou can begin by saying “no” to anything that is not important to you. You don’t have to give any excuses or defend yourself. Friends may expect you to give an excuse, but you don’t have to do it. Make your own choices. Assert your right to say, “No, and thanks for asking.”

We often get so wrapped up in our everyday life that we forget that if we don’t take care of ourselves, who is going to do that?

Things are piling up. You just don’t have enough time to do the things that must be done. Relax. It’s okay to ask for and accept help. It is easy to overlook what is probably the most important step that can ease the stress of a stressful life and that is: taking better care of you. Never neglect yourself. Take a nap in the middle of the day. Read a “good” self-help book.

You must accept that you can’t do or be it all. Everything is not always up to you. Eat your veggies. Get enough rest. Exercise.

You also must learn to do what makes you feel energized and happy. What makes you smile? Seek more of that.

“Mindfulness develops attention, concentration and the ability to simply be present with little or no future orientation, past orientation or goal orientation – choosing to be a human being rather than a human doing.” ~ Ian Gawler, Paul Bedson

We can all come up with excuses about why we are too busy to take care of ourselves. It’s time to rethink the reasons, not the excuses. Excuses let you off the hook. Often it seems like there is not enough time to meet all of life’s demands. Sometimes there may be an occasional moment when there is a legitimate reason, but your job – if you decide to accept it – is to stop coming up with excuses and stop looking for reasons not to take care of you and to turn that all around so that you can begin paying attention to “your” needs. This might seem easier said than done, but if you stay on the path you are on… well… let’s not go there!

Here are a few ideas that will help you break loose:

• Get enough sleep. Sleep has a big impact on mood disorders. Depression can set in. Not good.
• Take a long nature walk by yourself. Stop under a tree and just watch the squirrels. Hug a tree (when no one is looking).
• Lethargy be gone. Get moving. Being a couch potato and watching endless TV shows is not good for you. Just 30 minutes of exercise most days of the week can make a significant difference. Choose more active activities.
• Give up your toxic friends. You know, the ones that suck the life out of you. Make a choice to limit your exposure to people like that.
Woman getting a back massage in front of the white background• Make some new friends and stay connected with them. Join a health club or book club; something that will keep your interest. Intentionally go out of your way to meet new people.
• Go shopping for some new perfume.
• Eat right, choose fruit, a variety of veggies and whole-grain snacks whenever possible.
• Take a hot bath or shower. Focus of the feeling of the water on your body. Shake the tension loose.
• Meditate. Turn off your brain for 30 minutes. Can’t do 30 minutes? Do 15 minutes. Meditation helps you to quiet your mind and to separate you from your thoughts. Be aware of your breathing. Stop, breathe in for a count or 8, breathe out for a count of 8. Try it 8 times. You will feel a restoration of calm.
• Visit a landmark or memorial in your city and take notes. Discover more information about it by doing a Google search later.
• Educate yourself on something you would like to know more about. Look up a word in the dictionary that you’ve heard used but do not know the meaning.
• Everyday focus some time on laughter. Watch a funny video or TV show. Have lunch with a friend who will agree to a “laughing lunch;” one where you each bring 5 of the funniest jokes you can find and take turns making each other laugh. You could to this at a private picnic if you are afraid of looking silly to the lunch crowd. 😉
• Get a 2-hour massage or spa treatment. Yes, 2 hours! Massage can help you sleep better, increase your immunity, decrease pain, anxiety, PMS and depression. Plus, it causes you to feel real good.
• Attend a spiritual service.

“You can think of spirituality as connecting to whatever you consider meaningful and holy. You can find it in God, in yourself, in other people, in nature, art or kindness. Whatever you focus on, spirituality offers many possible benefits, including better mood, less anxiety and depression-and even fewer aches and illnesses.” ~ Jeff Levin, PhD, adjunct professor of psychiatry & behavioral sciences at Duke University Medical Center and author of “God, Faith, and Health: Exploring the Spirituality-Healing Connection

eatingchocolate• Give up your lack of self care excuses. Make a “I’m taking care of me” daily list and keep to it.
• Eat some chocolate! 😉

This from my friend, Connie Kadansky, Sales Call Reluctance Coach: Take yourself on a “date” – just you – and do something that you have always wanted to do; hike a particular trail, go to a museum, simply go to the library for an hour, go eat food that you have never eaten before, go to a movie by yourself and eat all the popcorn you can eat, go to Costco and buy a dozen socks and a case of water then donate them to a homeless shelter. Have fun!

Choose one of more of the ideas above to focus on each day or make some up of your own. Create a sense of urgency to begin today! Making the decision to really take care of you is the hardest part. Once you’ve made the decision… the rest will fall into place. A daily self-nurturing item is simple in nature, and consists of creating a habit of devoting time daily to this important activity. It’s powerful and uplifting. Live your life well. When you feel good about the things that you are making happen in your life, you will feel motivated and full of energy.

And guess what? Everything around you – including your relationships – will appear to get better. The secret is, it’s always and only you that is changing. AND that affects everyone around you. Are you up for that?

BONUS Articles: 55 Gentle Ways to Take Care of Yourself When You’re Busy Busy Busy

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Tuesday, January 29, 2013

And You Thought That You Had it Bad…

I want you to know the wisdom of a 19 year old boy who survived Katrina. Do you remember the chaos in New Orleans? He and his family lost everything they owned in that storm.

words-of-wisdom2Bernell Taylor is his name. During his audition for American Idol, Ryan Seacrest asked him, “How do you come back from something like that?” he replied, “It happened. Ya just gotta live after that!”

Please go back and read Bernel Taylor’s response again… No. Forget it. Here it is again:

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Bernell Taylor

“It happened. Ya just gotta live after that!”

What a terrific attitude!

My wife divorced me! ~ “Ya just gotta live after that!”

We just had to file bankruptcy! ~ “Ya just gotta live after that!”

I got fired today! ~ “Ya just gotta live after that!”

My girlfriend dumped me! ~ “Ya just gotta live after that!”

Did you see the numbers today! I lost my butt in the stock market! ~ “Ya just gotta live after that!”

___________________! (fill in the blank!) ~ “Ya just gotta live after that!”

writeyournextchapterI know. It never feels like it’s going to be easy. You know that, don’t you? You’d be right! But at least Bernell’s wisdom gives you hope. It may even cause you to think less of what happened and more about who you are becoming. A brief glimpse into the future… thinking about what might be instead of what has been. HOPE! Does that make better sense to you?

“Ya just gotta live after that!”

You may even discover that there really could be something “after that!”

What’s your banana? What is your “after that?” What is that one thing that you hold on to – that if you could have the courage to let go – would ignite a new spark in you! You finally got it. The fire grows stronger and suddenly “You’ve got the burn!”

When you read that last paragraph, didn’t you feel a little tingle that made you think of what might be? You got to be sick and tired of being sick and tired and you really don’t want to feel that way anymore.

Okay! So stop reading, turn your computer off and begin again. Begin first to count your blessings. You may get more benefit if you would get a note pad and begin to make a “GET ME OUT OF THIS HOLE!!!” bucket list. Come up with a few things that you can do that invites you to look past what got you here, and that will support you in what you’re gonna be up to.

You’re welcome to comment, especially if you’ve never before posted a comment. Tell us 3 benefits that may (or may not) have come from reading and/or being inspired by the article, “And You Thought That You Had it Bad…;” benefits that will assist you in moving on and getting on fire about life again. Very soon you will catch yourself saying, “Watch my SMOKE!!”

American_IdolThat’s all folks! Get busy!

By the way, Bernel Taylor’s audition made me and Mariah Carey cry. Keith Urban was freaking out over Bernell Taylor. It was incredible! One of the best I’ve seen. He sang, “I’m Here,” a song from “The Color Purple” at the Baton Rouge American Idol auditions week (1/25/13). Watch the Burnell Taylor “I’m Here” Video; the video that inspired this article.

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Monday, January 21, 2013

I Know Something About You…

Filed under: Personal Growth,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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You are not finished.

You’re here and you are not finished. It’s not over. You are not done yet. You are alive in this moment. You still have things to do and much more to accomplish. You still have more to say; more people to love. Stay connected to what’s most important to you.

“The nervous energy spent pretending to be something you’re not is better spent on practically anything else.” ~ Jessica Hagy

You’ve got more energy than you know. You may have to dig deep to find it and when you do find it will be worth it. Take up that hobby you’ve been putting off. Life is precious. Live it!

YOUareWORTHitWe’re driven and supported and thwarted by others at every turn. You are not your problems. Be grateful you have them. Embrace your current challenges. Know that they will help you become a better person. They make you stronger. You can’t afford to let the daily distractions keep you from what you are here to accomplish. Smart people find comfort in uncertainty. You can be an inspiration to others. You can say your, “I’m sorries!” You can forgive and seek forgiveness.

There is more to life. Take time to be in awe of yourself. You are blessed. There is hope. You have value. Everything is as it should be. You can be happy. Why? Because you can choose to be happy. Pursue whatever dream you have… take another step toward it. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. You are not finished. You must continue to be amazing. You are, you know. You are only finished when you give up… when you quit trying.

“Here is the test to find whether your mission on Earth is finished: if you’re alive, it isn’t.” ~ Richard Bach

I will say this only once… you don’t know how much time you have left, so don’t waste it. Don’t lose your way. While you are here you still have work to do. It’s no accident that you chose to read this article. Give yourself time to think about it so the time you spend doing things will be better spent.

Everything will be all right in the end. If everything isn’t all right right now, then it’s not the end… you are not finished.

You can and will make a difference. Push forward.

Now get busy!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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