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Thursday, May 26, 2016

Dream Lover

Filed under: Dreams,I Love You!,Intimacy,Kissing,Love,Relationships — Larry James @ 10:30 am

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – 2016 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from a real dream. Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Monday, February 8, 2016

Romantic Ideas You Can Use at Home

Filed under: Having FUN,Love,Romance — Larry James @ 11:53 am

Romantic ideas you can do at home by Terrys Fabrics
Romantic ideas you can do at home by Terrys Fabrics.

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Saturday, June 20, 2015

The Key to Lasting Love

Bob Hollander, JD, LCSW-C and Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, Guest Authors

Remember the Beatles song, “All You Need is Love”? For a relationship to last a lifetime, nothing could be further from the truth.

RELlastingLOVELove is defined as an intense feeling of strong affection and attraction; a deep romantic or sexual attachment. It is what initially brings us together. It’s the beginning; it’s the first thing we need in a relationship. But love by itself will not sustain a partnership “till death do us part.” The romantic notion the feeling of love will hold us together forever is a myth.

Why isn’t it enough? Why isn’t romantic love, followed by commitment or marital vows, able to keep us connected for a lifetime? The answer is “falling in love” or “being in love,” though a powerful emotion, is passive. Our culture naively teaches us to believe the feelings of love will never change. We don’t learn how to actively nurture and grow the emotion of love over our lifetimes.

“To describe love is very difficult, for the same reason that words cannot fully describe the flavor of an orange. You have to taste the fruit to know its flavor. So with love.” ~ Paramahansa Yogananda

Love is a feeling and feelings are strange things. You can’t see them or touch them; they exist in our minds and our hearts. They are dynamic and always in process. And they are highly subject to change over the years depending on life’s circumstances. We expect the promise we make in our vows, alone, will ensure those powerful feelings will last forever. In reality it takes so much more than that.

Our feelings of love are subject to how much attention we pay to them. If we intentionally feed feelings, they grow; if we starve feelings, they die. And if we do neither, and don’t truly attend to them, they capriciously respond to the happenings in our lives.

When life gets serious, if couples are not consciously aware of working through their feelings together, it’s likely that anger, frustration, sadness and fear will overshadow the feelings of love; and the connection may drift away.

So what is the key to lasting love and a forever relationship?

Consciously and actively love your partner, everyday. Feed the love, listen with empathy, communicate, problem solve, face and embrace difficult feelings, apologize and forgive.

To stay in love we need to:

Create love. Build love. Practice love. Nurture love. Grow in love. Every day.

I didn’t marry you because you were perfect. I didn’t even marry you because I loved you. I married you because you gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.

“And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage. And when our children were growing up, it wasn’t a house that protected them; and it wasn’t our love that protected them – it was that promise.” ~ Thornton Wilder, The Skin of Our Teeth

BONUS Articles: Let Love Change the Course of Your Life
What is Love?
“I Love You” – A to Z!
The ABC’s of Celebrating Love!

Copyright © 2015 by Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD. Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, is a licensed counselor and co-founder of Relationships Work, an innovative therapy practice and online resource center. Together with her husband, Bob, they encourage couples to consciously co-create their relationships in order to achieve a deeper, more intimate connection. You can visit Relationships Work online at: http://www.RelationshipsWork.com. Follow them on Facebook.

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Friday, May 15, 2015

Don’t Let Fear Shut You Down… Use it to Wake You Up!

Filed under: Fear,Intuition,Love,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am

It is only and always fear talking when we hear a voice telling us not to get our hopes up because we will only be disappointed.

Relationships can drown in negative emotions. It kills more dreams than failure ever will.

REL-FearWakeUPFeelings of fear are created in our own mind. The moment fear appears; you give up your power. When fear presents itself, it’s time to pay attention. It’s time to wake up.

Feeling fearful is only an expression of a lack of love working in our relationship. Fear only surfaces when we call it up by temporarily letting go of Love.

Fear can be awesome if you can embrace it and not let it throw you for a loop or shut you down completely. It’s the fear of fear itself that we tend to dwell on and in doing so it corals our thinking and makes it difficult to break out. Fear immobilizes us. It freezes us in our tracks.

Fear is a powerful thing. And we make it up! Fear doesn’t come from out there. It comes from us… from within. Sometimes we would rather make up something that keeps fear in place than to boldly step forward, with the first step firmly smashing our fear.

Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be lived and learned. Walk the path that makes you feel alive. Everything you long for is on the other side of fear. Running from fear is a race you’ll never win. In fact, what you’re afraid of dealing with is what will set you free.

Write the following on an index card, or Post Its, put it in your reminders on your smartphone so you see it and say it “aloud” every time fear shows its ugly head: “I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me!”

The self-illumination that occurs when connecting with our true inner-Self, liberates us or disconnects us from the fear that keeps us in the shadows; it flips the switch that turns on the lights! The promise of self-discovery is liberation. It always delivers on its promise.

Keep this in mind: forgiveness is the key to happiness. It dissolves fear. The absence of fear allows you to truly experience Love’s presence – for yourself and others. Fear cannot exist in the presence of Love. Putting the decision off to let go of fear only comes from fear.

There is only one way to step on your fear. Just step on it! You have to lift your foot and step on it! You have to do something… while you are still afraid.

The only thing certain about fear is that it will always compromise you. When it comes to who you really are, there is no compromise.

You’ll be safe if you follow your intuition. It’s always right. Listen to it. Trust your heart to know what it wants that which is best for you. The heart never lies. Fear is the liar! Desires of the heart are important because they indicate the urging from the spirit of God that is attempting to move you forward.

When your heart speaks, you know it’s not you speaking. You normally don’t talk like that. The heart speaks only possibilities. The mind often goes back and forth. That part of you – your heart – that speaks like you don’t, could be called many things. One possibility is: you could call it God.

When you do the thing you fear to do the most, the death of fear is certain.

Be fearless.

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Sunday, May 3, 2015

LOVE Like the Sun ~ Shine on Everyone the Same!

Filed under: Love — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Mastin Kipp, Guest Author

It’s a good day to analyze the judgments we have about others.

Wherever we want to make others wrong for how they are being, let us first look inside our own selves.

LoveLikeTheSUNIn my kind of work, I do everything I can to give, to add value and to help others. And I understand that when it comes to pushing on topics that are tender for folks, a lot of emotion can come up.

What I’ve come to realize is that when people stand up and shine their Light, it shines a light on other people’s darkness. And those of us who try our best to shine tend to get some darkness projected onto us.

When you shine your light, you are bringing about 10% of the meaning. When someone interprets what you are saying through their filter, they bring 90% of the meaning to what you are saying.

And BOY – let me tell you – on this end, I get a WIDE variety of e-mail and tweets from people. Lots of praise and lots of haters. And I love ‘em all. My mantra is “Bring ‘em all into my heart.”

I realize when someone is sending me negativity or hate, it’s not because I’m wrong or did something wrong, it’s a projection of what’s inside them onto me. And the same goes for me. When I’m in a negative or angry state, I tend to project that state onto others. Thank GOD I have an amazing girlfriend! She is BEYOND patient with me (I love you, boo!).

But the key is, let us not stand in our light because we are afraid of the darkness that will be projected onto us. That is letting fear win.

Let us EMBRACE and WELCOME darkness, anger, sadness and fear of others – KNOWING that it is simply a deeper request for LOVE. All anger at its core is a request for LOVE. All hate at its core is a request for LOVE.

And as Louise Hay once said, “People need Loving the most when they deserve it the least.”

My aim in Life is to try to Love like the Sun – which shines on everyone the same. I’m not there yet, but I’m trying my best. And I’ve had to make peace with the idea that people are going to project onto me because of the path in life that I have chosen. There will be positive and negative projections – and none of those projections or opinions define who I am. Just like when I am in a positive or negative state, my projections and opinions do not define others. It’s all about your relationship with yourself. And my relationship with myself.

What you think is off in them is an opportunity to see how YOU can bring even more Love. This doesn’t mean being a pushover, but it does mean seeing that each person, no matter how evil they may seem, is an innocent child of The Uni-verse and at their core is a desire for Love.

The most “evil” people on the planet do what they do because it meets their needs. And they are simply getting their needs met in a fearful way. Sometimes it’s easier for people to kill other people than it is for them to kill their own ego. But, when we love like Buddha, Jesus, Gandhi, Mother Teresa and all the Saints of all time, we choose non-violence as a way to demonstrate the power of Love.

Be that demonstration in your own life.

Copyright © 2015 – Mastin Kipp. The Daily Love was created by Mastin Kipp in 2005 under the original name “Thoughts for the Day”. Kipp embarked upon a journey in 2004 to find his true purpose and figure out the techniques to best manifest Highest Potential. Along the way he figured there must have been other people who have come before him who’ve were met with the same challenges he was facing to find true happiness and inner peace. Subscribe to The Daily Love!

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Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Love Yourself FIRST!

Filed under: Love,Love Yourself — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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A loving relationship with yourself is a prerequisite to having a healthy love relationship with someone else. Assume you have that handled. What’s next?

We must remember that this is it! Someday is now! No time to mess around. Life is too short. Live in the present.

Experience the empowering feeling of allowing yourself the freedom to be who you need to be in your next relationship… right now. You have already experienced the past. Want more of that? Continue to focus on it and you will not be disappointed.

RELLoveYourselfFirstWe must create a future worth living into. The old way of being in a relationship isn’t good enough. We must invent the kind of relationship we want, then go about devoting our time and energy to making it happen. It will happen when we care enough to give ourselves the very best of everything.

This includes giving yourself time if you are just coming out of a relationship that didn’t work. Welcome to living solo! They say, “Time heals all wounds” and you must do the things necessary for the healing of the hurt to occur. Work on you.

Every man needs to love himself unconditionally to be able to pass it on. You know you better than anyone. Ask yourself: “Who would I have to become to be the kind of person I would enjoy being with for the rest of my life?”

Spend some prayerful moments thanking God for the choice to choose the courage to become that person. Then, do what needs to be done.

Okay. So, you have been attracted to a real sweetheart and you are about to embark on ‘Destination Unknown,’ often called the first date. What to do? Naturally we men want to put our best foot forward. We have a thing about being really cool on the first date. Often we withhold who we really are, afraid that if she knew the truth about us, she would very quickly distance herself from us.

This is why we must learn to communicate more effectively how we feel to our partner. Women love men who are sensitive to their needs; who demonstrate that they care; who communicate understanding by listening to what she says (and when we are unclear about what she says… we ask questions – this shows we are really listening); and most of all, women love men who threat them with respect.

You show up as Mr. Clean; shoes shined, clean shaven, a dash of cologne and looking sharp. Most people are attracted to someone who is well groomed however, there is more to it than that. What do you communicate from your heart? Do you say what you feel needs to be said in a loving way?

Make good eye contact. This shows you are paying attention. It also suggests someone who is self-confident. Men whose eyes drift are, right or wrong, thought to be uncertain of themselves. To a woman, this is a red flag.

Have meaningful conversations about things that count. Watch your words. Remember, you cannot un-ring a bell. Once out there, words can be loving or deadly. Be brave enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable; to reveal those bits and pieces of yourself that communicate the real you. This does not mean boring her with your sordid past… only the relevant truth; what’s real for you in this relationship.

love-yourselfPart of the problem of dating is what M. Scott Peck, in his book “A Road Less Traveled” calls the ‘romantic myth.’ We try so hard, early in the relationship to always be at our best, then when we are several months into the relationship, we feel as though we have reached our goal, we slack off and that’s when things can begin to slowly fall apart.

You may hear her say, “You were so sensitive and caring when we were first dating. What’s happened to that wonderful man that swept me off my feet?” Or she may think it and never say it, leaving you to wonder, “What’s wrong?”

Listen carefully. Relationships are a bit of a puzzle for most men anyway. When a man and a woman finally get together, the glaring differences show up.

Dr. John Gray, Ph.D., author of “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” says, “We must learn to recognize and understand these differences before we can effectively be ourselves in the relationship.”

Only and always do your best. All the time. Not only when in pursuit. Not only when it’s broken and needs to be fixed. Every day and every minute. Do what works. If you send thoughtful greeting cards, leave love notes and, for no reason, give her an occasional flower… continue that process. Women love romance. It’s called… ‘follow-through.’ Keep on doing what works.

God wants what is best for you. You deserve only the best of everything. And it takes care and attention to your own wants and needs first, for you to be able to take on the responsibility of a committed, healthy love relationship.

Be yourself… right now! How sad to try to be someone you think someone else thinks you should be. It is not possible. Be the real you all the time.

Demonstrate your own authenticity. When you do, you never have to worry that six months down the road, she is going to be disappointed because she thinks the man she is now with is not the person she fell in love with.

In my “Relationship Enrichment LoveShops,” single women often complain that men don’t communicate their feelings. Now you know. Do that. Take a clue. Women have a desire to know the real you. Don’t withhold yourself. Be who you are and if you don’t like who you are, steer clear of a committed relationship for a while until you can learn to love yourself. You cannot deliver from an empty wagon. You must have love for yourself to be able to give the love your partner so richly deserves.

Men must learn to reveal ourselves to others. Let them be sure of who you are. It takes constant attention to detail. Be unto others as you would have them be unto you. Allow no miscommunication that would allow for misunderstandings. There is nothing inherently wrong with putting your best foot forward on the first date and the dates that follow unless you are only being nice for a while to get what you want. That isn’t good enough. You must take care to assure her that your best foot forward is connected to the real you.

BONUS Article: Who Do You Love?
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Saturday, February 28, 2015

Let Love Change the Course of Your Life

Filed under: Guy Finley's "Key Lesson",Love — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Guy Finley, Guest Author

Key Lesson: When all is said and done, what matters is not whether or not the world loves us, or approves of us; what matters is what we love, for that is what determines the true and final course of our lives.

Find the Meaning of Life in Every Moment ~ There is an unspeakable gem whose light comes seemingly from all around us, but in truth is an upwelling from within us. Our relationship to that upwelling light — to that source of love — is really where we find the meaning of life, and we discover this relationship in the mirror of the present moment. But when we are caught up in imagination, whenever we are lost in thought, we can’t see the purpose of life that is right in front of us.

CourseOfYourLifeFor example, when we look out a window we can see the grass, the trees, and the seasons rotating around everything we see. But can we see that death is not the end of life? That tree, even when it withers and falls to the ground, isn’t the end of the tree. It’s the end of the form of the tree. And everything that constitutes the tree becomes part of the grass, everything that’s part of the grass becomes part of the soil, everything that’s part of the soil becomes part of the next tree. It is an inescapable fact that death is not the end of life.

But for us, life has an end, doesn’t it? What is death, then, for us? Death is the end of the known, like the lyric from an old Bee Gees song: “It ended when you said goodbye.” How many times have you already “died” in this life? The “my life is over” drill is so old; it should have died itself by now! “He left me, she betrayed me, I lost this, I’m not handsome any more…”

We’ve all died a thousand deaths, and yet we’re still here… because the deaths that we’ve died have not served us at all. They’ve served that which continues to create something that will once again come to an end, and then we will go through the process of discovering — over and over again — that there is something that lives within us that has a beginning and an end.

There is no end to real life, but within us dwells a nature that keeps running into what it says is the “end” of me. What do we serve in the moment when we suddenly find ourselves faced with something we regret? What do we serve when we’re faced with the onset of a depression? What do we serve in the moment when we realize we’ve done all of this again… for nothing?

Change-CourseWhat do we serve when our heart and mind are as barren as a winter’s tree, and all we can do in those moments is turn on ourselves with a vengeance for not being what we imagine we should be? What do we serve in those moments? We serve in those moments a part of ourselves that believes in death, a nature that believes in the end instead of the beautiful real-life process of transformation.

Stop trying to fulfill a purpose for your life through imagined ends. Begin to spend a little bit of time in your body, present to things instead of pursuing things — present to life, instead of pursuing it. That’s the first step to finding your true purpose: being present to life instead of pursuing it.

Life wants us to know the meaning of it. It is an innate urge in us to know the meaning of our life, and it is right before us in the mirror of the present moment.

This article is excerpted from The Meaning of Life. (http://www.guyfinley.org/store/cd-mp3-albums/432)

Guy-FinleyCopyright © 2014 – Guy Finley. Guy Finley is the acclaimed author of “The Secret of Letting Go” and more than 35 other books and audio programs that have sold over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. Guy Finley’s encouraging and accessible message is one of the true bright lights in our world today. His ideas cut straight to the heart of our most important personal and social issues — relationships, success, addiction, stress, peace, happiness, freedom — and lead the way to a higher life. Visit Guy’s Website at: http://www.GuyFinley.com. Want more “Key Lessons?” Click here!

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Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Love Like an Albatross!

Filed under: Love,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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The word albatross is sometimes used metaphorically to mean a psychological burden that feels like a curse.

albatrossLOVEIt is an allusion to Samuel Taylor Coleridge’s poem, “The Rime of the Ancient Mariner” (1798). In the poem, an albatross starts to follow a ship – being followed by an albatross was generally considered an omen of good luck. However, the titular mariner shoots the albatross with a crossbow, which is regarded as an act that will curse the ship (which indeed suffers terrible mishaps). Even when they are too thirsty to speak, the ship’s crew let the mariner know through their glances that they blame his action for the curse. He feels as though the albatross is metaphorically hung around his neck – that is, when people look at him, they see him as the albatross killer and that weighs on him. Thus the albatross can be both an omen of good or bad luck, as well as a metaphor for a burden to be carried as penance.

Hmmm. I used to have a few friends like that. No more. Why write about Albatross love? You’ll see.

Introducing A Divorce Rate For Birds, And Guess Which Bird Never, Ever Divorces? In his new book, The Thing With Feathers, Noah Strycker says albatrosses have a knack for coupling. “These globe trotters, who mate for life and are incredibly faithful to their partners, just might have the most intense love affairs of any animal on our planet,” he writes.

Noah knows “love” is a word normally reserved for humans. Technically, what albatrosses do is “pair bond.” But call it what you will, he says — “to see what real devotion is like, you need to spend some quality time with an albatross.”

Albatross2A look at the mating systems of some monogamous ocean animals show that finding life partners helps species protect themselves and their young. Research shows that albatrosses are 100 percent faithful. Albatrosses are famous both for their flirtatiousness – taking the form of ritualized mating dances – and for their fidelity. These long-lived and highly-endangered birds will court each other through ritual dances for years. A pair of waved albatross preen each other after months apart at sea. They return to the same island year after year to rejoin their longterm mate for the breeding season.

Albatross relationships seem especially relatable to humans. There are parallels between ourselves and these birds. Birds can teach us humans the real meaning of LOVE.

• Reproduction, movements, daily rhythms, communication and intelligence
• Birds find their way naturally, while humans have had to discover and invent
• The Australian fairy-wrens are all related to each other
• Twenty years after their courtship they will be nesting with the same partner
• Albatrosses feel love even more intensely than we do

“Different people report seeing various things deep in the inky-black eyes of the albatross — wisdom, serenity, wilderness, peace, endurance – which are well and good, but all I see is love.” ~ Noah Strycker

When we can learn to master the fidelity riddle like the albatross, we can all benefit from a much lower divorce rate.

What a terrific example for us humans!

BONUS Article: Introducing A Divorce Rate For Birds, And Guess Which Bird Never, Ever Divorces?
Why Can’t We Love Like an Albatross?
Albatross Astonishes Scientists by Producing Chick at Age of 62

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Sunday, August 24, 2014

Larry James Named “Love Ambassador!”

This letter was received on August 19, 2014 from The Love Foundation, Inc.

Dear Larry James,

Love Ambassador banner only 100Congratulations! – We are delighted to announce you have been accepted as one of our Love Ambassadors. Your willingness to live your life dedicated to the vision of love is a potent model for so many. By your words, deeds and actions, you are having a profound impact on all those you contact. We are grateful and happy to extend this recognition to you.

A Love Ambassador shows others what self acceptance means. They are tolerant and embrace diversity. They forgive themselves and others. They visualize how love can transform the world. Ambassadors bring unconditional love to family, friends, communities, companies, schools, and civic organizations. They share their love for the animals, plants, oceans and rivers. They love the earth and all that inhabits it. They are an example of what unconditional love can do in all situations.

uncondloveAs this is a special program for us to acknowledge the silent heroes of love, you are a wonderful addition to this group on our site. We are honored to connect with so many like you from around the world that quietly share their vision and personal commitment to loving unconditionally.

Love, light and peace,

Harold W. Becker, President
John T. Goltz, Vice President
And The Board of Directors

The Love Foundation, Inc.
“Inspiring People To Love Unconditionally”
http://www.TheLoveFoundation.com/loveambassadors/

BONUS Articles: Why Unconditional Love?
Being Divine Love

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Saturday, August 16, 2014

10 Steps to Peace Within!

Aine Belton, Guest Author

1. Acceptance ~ Take a moment to accept yourself, life and others just as you/it/they are.”

With acceptance comes peace. What’s more, as you accept yourself as you are, you more easily let go of what you’re not. Same goes for others.

It’s what you resist that persists, and judgment only compounds anything it judges.

PeaceWithinAccept yourself for who and where you are right now. Accept all of you – the light and dark, strengths and weaknesses – and open to more of the beautiful loving nature of your true self.

Acceptance helps with letting go, puts you back in flow, makes you more open and free to be more of who you are, and brings positive transformation.

By acceptance I don’t mean turning a blind eye to, tolerating or putting up with something that feels inappropriate to you (see responsibility below for more on that). It can, however, be a great first step on any path of healing and change and the peace that comes through that.

2. Letting Go ~ Holding on to anything, be that a person, situation, an expectation of how things should be, the past, etc., can stand in the way of peace. Perhaps you fear letting go because of feared consequences around that, but what I suggest is:

In letting go you can only ever win; if something’s for your best it will come back, else something better will.”

Control, a lack of trust in yourself or faith in the unfoldment of life and events, may also hinder a natural letting go that can be part of any change in life – change that may be for your best whether you realize that at the time or not.

Things you can let go of for greater peace include negative beliefs and stories (about yourself, life or others), un-serving thoughts, feelings, attitudes, habits, behaviours, situations, grievances, and any painful pasts.

What can you let go of today for greater peace in your life? Perhaps it’s fear, guilt, anger, pain, shame, blame, judgment, etc. Letting go will create the space for a new birth in your life. One thing that helps with letting go is forgiveness, shared next.

3. Forgiveness ~ Forgiveness of self and others is like a mind-body-soul detox. It liberates you from toxic emotions and draining attachments. Forgiving yourself also helps resolve guilt, shame and feelings of undeserving that can otherwise block peace and happiness. Forgiveness returns you to love and truth, is an immensely powerful force for healing and transformation, and a beautiful gift to give yourself or another.

4. Suspend Judgment ~ Judgment will always stand in the way of peace. Judging others, or yourself, lowers your energy and separates you from love and joy. Having an opinion isn’t the same as being judgmental.

What you judge in another may be something you secretly judge in yourself that you have not yet owned and are projecting outwards, what you have yet forgiven in yourself or others, or of beliefs you hold – that you can change. Use judgment as a means to become more conscious of yourself and inner beliefs, stories, repressed aspects of self possibly, and hidden agendas.

The more you love and accept yourself, the less you will judge others or be affected by judgments of others and the more at peace you will be.

When you judge you project your shadows onto others, when you love you project your light.”

5. Trust ~ Trust is a great ally of peace, and a potent anti-dote to fear which so often stands in the way of peace.

Trust yourself and your power as a creator and that you have what it takes. Trust in a loving universe that is on your side. Trust the doors that are opening and the ones that are closing. Relinquish control and allow yourself to be carried along a river of trust and flow towards bright realities aligned to your highest purpose with grace and ease.

Trust that you are on a co-creative journey, that there is a bigger picture, and that there is love, help and guidance available to you in every moment. Trust that the universe wants you to have what you desire as much as you do. Trust that you are loved more than you know, more than you will ever know!

Life doesn’t have to be a struggle. You can have what you desire with belief, intention, positive expectation, knowing you deserve (which you always do) and a willingness to receive.

Trust brings a sense of peace, ease, faith and confidence, and lessens any desire to control or have things be a certain way. If there is an area of your life you are fearful or doubtful around, lean into trust, embrace it, and let it embrace and carry you.

You deserve the best, ever and always, whether you realise that or not. The universe wants the best for you in every moment. You are the only one who can stand in your way.

Have faith and hope in your heart. Hold bright visions of the future, make positive choices for yourself from that bright future, and commit to those through action.

6. Feel your Feelings ~ Harboring constricting emotions obviously blocks inner peace. You may need to get in touch with and release those feelings first. This may mean moving through repressed pain, hurt, rage, guilt, loss, etc. to the peace that awaits on the other side.

I’ve no doubt you’ve experienced that deep sense of calm that comes after a big emotional release. If you are trying to stuff emotions down, instead let them move through you, you won’t feel at peace. There are emotional release techniques of many different kinds are available these days – EFT, energy healing, the Release Technique and Sedona Method.

Simply feeling your feelings is a powerful way to release them!

Repressing emotions, trying to control them, being scared or judgmental of them, obviously disturbs peace. Honour your emotions and listen to what they are telling you about what’s going on inside. If they are negative or uncomfortable, what thoughts, beliefs or stories are they pointing to that may need changing or releasing?

Expressing your feelings rather than denying or repressing them brings healing and release. By this I don’t mean wallowing in them or giving them undue attention if they don’t serve you (i.e. nip that self-pity in the bud!), nor do I mean dumping them on another under the banner of being honest and authentic – take responsibility for your impact.

Benefits-of-MeditationAs part of releasing your feelings you may want to write them down, share them with a friend, or express them through creativity.

When it comes to emotions don’t skirt in the shallows; dive in deep, get wet, let their currents be fully felt.”

7. Meditate ~ Meditation has so many benefits, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically, as science is now proving. Meditation allows the conscious ‘monkey mind’ to still, brings calm and clearer perspectives and dissipates negative energy, allowing stress to wash away as you come to centre and connect to more of what’s real – more of the true nature of your being and the loving voice of your Higher Self – the spiritual being that you really are.

Meditating creates an opportunity to raise your consciousness, connect to your heart, honour the sacred (in you, and the Source of All, whatever name you hold for that), and for your energy to renew, recharge and to ‘plug-in’ to higher awareness and clearer more balanced and loving perspectives.

8. Take Responsibility ~ Responsibility brings freedom and empowerment, and with that comes peace. It shifts you out of victim mode, blame and resentment, for example, all of which block inner peace. The more you take responsibility for your life, the better able you feel to change it.

When you blame and complain you remain the same; responsibility brings freedom and change.”

You create or allow your experience at some level, whether you are aware of that and the roots and whys or not.

Become aware of the thoughts, feelings, beliefs, attitudes and choices that are creating your reality. Take responsibility for them and choose those that serve you. Shift the gears of your focus from fear and problems to solutions and desired outcomes, from blame to gain, wounded to winner, falling to soaring.

One of the swiftest ways to empower your life is to start realizing that you are its author and get writing a new script!”

9. Know You Are Loved ~ You are loved by people in your world, by your Higher Self How much do you let that love in? You are also loved totally and unconditionally by the Source of Creation, whatever name you hold for that. If you don’t walk a spiritual path, imagine there is a part of you that loves you totally and unconditionally, beyond reasons and seasons. This love is available to you in any moment and requires only your willingness to receive. There is nothing you need do to win this love, and nothing you can do to lose it. Open and allow this love in; the love that wants to be given in every moment. With that will come great peace.

Start by allowing in the possibility that you are loved totally and unconditionally right now, just as you are. You are loved more than you will ever know, in ways beyond that which you may be able to even currently comprehend.

Opening to the love that is always there for you helps you experience more of your true value, worth and inherent deserving, dissolves fear and heals pain of separation.

You are loved beyond reasons, you are loved beyond seasons, unconditionally, eternally, you are loved. “

10. Love, Love, Love! ~ Love yourself and others. There may be times this is easier than others – make it an overriding intention. On a path to love you may need to process what’s in the way of that love – pain, fear, sorrow, etc. Accept yourself wherever you’re at. Then affirm your willingness and permission to love yourself and others. There may be some people you choose to love from a distance, yet that love is still a valuable energy nonetheless.

The beauty with love is, whether near or far, you can love from wherever you are.”

Love lies at the heart of all that you seek, and separation from it at the root of your troubles and pain. Let love be a guiding light in your life that will steer your ship back to the shores of peace, happiness and joy. We all love to love and be loved. It doesn’t get better than that!

BONUS Article: Forgiveness… What’s it For?
An Affirmation for Letting Go
Faith and Trust… You Must Have Both!
Validate Your Partner’s Feelings

AineBelton

Copyright © 2014 – Aine Belton. Aine Belton is a visionary transformation expert, writer, speaker and facilitator in the spiritual fields. Having found love to be the most potent healer in her own life and that of others’ she launched the Global Love Project and its various initiatives as platforms and opportunities for opening to and celebrating humanitarian love. You can read a collection of Aine Belton’s articles at: www.globalloveproject.com/articles-by-aine-belton. The Global Love Project is a platform for honoring and celebrating humanitarian love, with numerous facets, initiatives, free resources, inspiration and events.

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