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Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Love… BE Love… Be Loveable & Be Loved!

Filed under: Love Yourself,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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If you want someone to love you, you must love yourself first, only then will you be able to be lovable!

Love is expressed as an action and experienced as a feeling. Give love freely and unconditionally. Work on giving as much as you take. True giving is when you give without expectation. When you give love freely, all that you give out comes back to you. It might not come back in the way you expect it, but you will truly feel it in your heart. When you reach out to those that you love without a thought of the outcome or an attachment to the consequences, then you will know that you are doing the best thing for everyone concerned.

REL-BeLove2The secret to feeling loved by someone else is loving yourself. As the love within you grows, so does the love you feel from others. Loving yourself is a process. It’s not like you do it once, check it off the list and you’re good to go. It’s a lifestyle that you adopt and commit to forever. When you love yourself first, then everything else will fall into place.

“If you have problems loving yourself, then work hard to build yourself up. Work on your self confidence by accepting your past and moving forward. You may feel that things you did in the past will make you unlovable, or that you have too many problems to be lovable. Untrue. Accept the things that happened to you, forgive yourself, and move on.” ~ WikiHow

Spend time with your loved ones. There’s nothing that can put things in perspective and distract you from worrying about work like spending quality time with friends and family. Dedicate time to the people you love in order to live a balanced life.

We waste so much time looking for the perfect lover. Instead we should take all the time necessary to create a perfect love for ourselves within ourselves.

So… If you really want to be in a relationship, first, you must work on you to prepare yourself for a relationship. Love yourself as much as you want to be loved. Spend some time being okay with being single. Live alone for a while. Just work on you. When it “feels” right, put yourself in a position to meet lots of people. Don’t zero in on any one person right away. Take your time. Love yourself from the inside out. Don’t force love and don’t try to speed it up. The people you attract are the reflection of who you are. Be careful not to make the same mistakes you have made in the past. Allow yourself to “be” yourself. Let yourself be vulnerable with others. Be a good friend. Remember: “Friends, first!” It has been my experience that when you can be alone and not be lonely, love will usually find you when you least expect it.

“Looking for love is hell. The way out of hell is not to seek for love but to see how you are blocking love. You begin by examining what is causing you to seek for love in the first place. First, you must cast off all the loveless images of yourself that you have made. Looking for love, in its truest sense, isn’t about find­ing someone else; it’s about find­ing yourself again.” ~ Robert Holden, PhD., author of “Loveability: Knowing How to Love and Be Loved

lovelessnessAll the happiness, health, and abundance you experience in life comes from your ability to love and be loved. One day, every society on our planet will honor and celebrate the importance of love. Take some time now and check in with your heart. Do your part. Make a choice to Love… BE Love… Be Loveable & Be Loved!

BONUS Articles: How to Attract More Love Into Your Life
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What is Love?
The 3 BIGGEST Mistakes Newly Singles Make

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Love Yourself FIRST!

Filed under: Love,Love Yourself — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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A loving relationship with yourself is a prerequisite to having a healthy love relationship with someone else. Assume you have that handled. What’s next?

We must remember that this is it! Someday is now! No time to mess around. Life is too short. Live in the present.

Experience the empowering feeling of allowing yourself the freedom to be who you need to be in your next relationship… right now. You have already experienced the past. Want more of that? Continue to focus on it and you will not be disappointed.

RELLoveYourselfFirstWe must create a future worth living into. The old way of being in a relationship isn’t good enough. We must invent the kind of relationship we want, then go about devoting our time and energy to making it happen. It will happen when we care enough to give ourselves the very best of everything.

This includes giving yourself time if you are just coming out of a relationship that didn’t work. Welcome to living solo! They say, “Time heals all wounds” and you must do the things necessary for the healing of the hurt to occur. Work on you.

Every man needs to love himself unconditionally to be able to pass it on. You know you better than anyone. Ask yourself: “Who would I have to become to be the kind of person I would enjoy being with for the rest of my life?”

Spend some prayerful moments thanking God for the choice to choose the courage to become that person. Then, do what needs to be done.

Okay. So, you have been attracted to a real sweetheart and you are about to embark on ‘Destination Unknown,’ often called the first date. What to do? Naturally we men want to put our best foot forward. We have a thing about being really cool on the first date. Often we withhold who we really are, afraid that if she knew the truth about us, she would very quickly distance herself from us.

This is why we must learn to communicate more effectively how we feel to our partner. Women love men who are sensitive to their needs; who demonstrate that they care; who communicate understanding by listening to what she says (and when we are unclear about what she says… we ask questions – this shows we are really listening); and most of all, women love men who threat them with respect.

You show up as Mr. Clean; shoes shined, clean shaven, a dash of cologne and looking sharp. Most people are attracted to someone who is well groomed however, there is more to it than that. What do you communicate from your heart? Do you say what you feel needs to be said in a loving way?

Make good eye contact. This shows you are paying attention. It also suggests someone who is self-confident. Men whose eyes drift are, right or wrong, thought to be uncertain of themselves. To a woman, this is a red flag.

Have meaningful conversations about things that count. Watch your words. Remember, you cannot un-ring a bell. Once out there, words can be loving or deadly. Be brave enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable; to reveal those bits and pieces of yourself that communicate the real you. This does not mean boring her with your sordid past… only the relevant truth; what’s real for you in this relationship.

love-yourselfPart of the problem of dating is what M. Scott Peck, in his book “A Road Less Traveled” calls the ‘romantic myth.’ We try so hard, early in the relationship to always be at our best, then when we are several months into the relationship, we feel as though we have reached our goal, we slack off and that’s when things can begin to slowly fall apart.

You may hear her say, “You were so sensitive and caring when we were first dating. What’s happened to that wonderful man that swept me off my feet?” Or she may think it and never say it, leaving you to wonder, “What’s wrong?”

Listen carefully. Relationships are a bit of a puzzle for most men anyway. When a man and a woman finally get together, the glaring differences show up.

Dr. John Gray, Ph.D., author of “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” says, “We must learn to recognize and understand these differences before we can effectively be ourselves in the relationship.”

Only and always do your best. All the time. Not only when in pursuit. Not only when it’s broken and needs to be fixed. Every day and every minute. Do what works. If you send thoughtful greeting cards, leave love notes and, for no reason, give her an occasional flower… continue that process. Women love romance. It’s called… ‘follow-through.’ Keep on doing what works.

God wants what is best for you. You deserve only the best of everything. And it takes care and attention to your own wants and needs first, for you to be able to take on the responsibility of a committed, healthy love relationship.

Be yourself… right now! How sad to try to be someone you think someone else thinks you should be. It is not possible. Be the real you all the time.

Demonstrate your own authenticity. When you do, you never have to worry that six months down the road, she is going to be disappointed because she thinks the man she is now with is not the person she fell in love with.

In my “Relationship Enrichment LoveShops,” single women often complain that men don’t communicate their feelings. Now you know. Do that. Take a clue. Women have a desire to know the real you. Don’t withhold yourself. Be who you are and if you don’t like who you are, steer clear of a committed relationship for a while until you can learn to love yourself. You cannot deliver from an empty wagon. You must have love for yourself to be able to give the love your partner so richly deserves.

Men must learn to reveal ourselves to others. Let them be sure of who you are. It takes constant attention to detail. Be unto others as you would have them be unto you. Allow no miscommunication that would allow for misunderstandings. There is nothing inherently wrong with putting your best foot forward on the first date and the dates that follow unless you are only being nice for a while to get what you want. That isn’t good enough. You must take care to assure her that your best foot forward is connected to the real you.

BONUS Article: Who Do You Love?
Will You Marry Me?

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Thursday, January 15, 2015

Who Do You Love?

Filed under: Love Yourself,Self-Love — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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The relationship we have with ourselves and the relationship we have with others takes intentional effort. This, we know is true: “We must work on relationships ALL THE TIME, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed!”

Relationships should never become a struggle. They become a struggle when someone is not pulling their fair share of the load.

WhoDoYouLoveIf you cannot handle the most important relationship in your life – the one you have with yourself – then you will never be able to truly relate to a relationship with two people in it.

We spent so much of our time being concerned about the relationship we are in with someone else, that we forget about ourselves. This is called “losing yourself in the relationship.” This can never be a healthy way of being.

Working on yourself takes discipline, determination and doing something different. For lasting change; the kind of change that makes a difference, you must “change your behavior.”

You only have the choice to fix you! To invent a new beginning, you must first acknowledge the problems that require solutions. To fix yourself, you must never stray from the path of self-discovery. You must always know where you stand with yourself. The only way you can do this is to be attentive to, and intentional about having the best relationship with yourself that is humanly possible.

BONUS Article: Will You Marry Me?
Who Do You Love?

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Will You Marry Me?

Filed under: Guest Authors,Love,Love Yourself,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Kute Blackson, Guest Author

The time has come to marry yourself.

Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of your relationship with others.

hug-yourselfThere are so many books on relationships. How to get a man. How to keep a man. How to find your soulmate. How to be the best lover. How to make a woman fall in love with you.

But the most important relationship is with you.

You are the one that you have been seeking.

You can have the best lover in the world. But unless you have you you have nothing.

When you are connected to yourself, you have everything.

When you fall in love with yourself, you connect to a source of real fulfillment and joy that is powerful. You are full, no longer needing someone outside to love or validate you. Then you can go into relationships from a place of sharing the love that is already in your heart, rather than seeking love outside.

This will completely shift your relationships. No longer seeking to get someone outside of yourself to give you what you may not be giving your self. Trying to get someone outside of your self to love you in order to feel worthy or secure is a sure recipe for suffering and insecurity.

How is your relationship with yourself?

Relationships are simply a dynamic mirror and you attract to yourself where you are in consciousness. You attract to you at the level you are now. Relationships are an emotional feedback mechanism. Thank the partner that shows up in your life, for they give you the gift to seeing yourself more clearly, and reveal to you where your growth lies.

So, you are constantly in relationship with yourself. Those that show up in your life are an aspect, and mirror manifestation of you.

Do you like what you see? Do you like who you are in relationship with? Do you like who you are attracting?

If not, you must start with You.

Make a commitment to yourself today, not in a superficial or narcissistic way, but a real heart commitment to your growth and evolution.

• Commit to being faithful with yourself even when it might be tempting to compromise and sell out your truth.

• Commit to listening to your feelings and honoring them even when it’s difficult and those in your life are pressuring you otherwise.

• Commit to being compassionate with yourself and bringing love to the parts of you that most challenge you.

• Commit to showing up for yourself fully and following through on your commitments.

IluvME• Commit to nourishing your connection with your Soul, and spirit, in world that constantly tries to condition you.

If you aren’t going to love and accept YOU, then why should someone else?

Even if you are in a relationship.

Be your own soulmate.

Marry yourself for real.

Will you?

kuteBlacksonCopyright © 2012 – Kute Blackson. All rights reserved. Kute Blackson is utterly unique in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. Kute is a global authority in “Transformational Immersion Journeys” and the creator of the “Boundless Bliss—Bali Breakthrough Experience”. He is a next generation world leader out to awaken millions to Love and to Living their inspired destiny. Visit his Website.

CLoveLOGOLarry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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