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Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Yes, You CAN Write a Valentine’s Day Letter!

Filed under: Love Letters,Valentine's Day — Larry James @ 6:30 am
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It’s a few days until Valentine’s Day, enough time to transform your relationship!

How? With a heartfelt Valentine’s Day letter of appreciation! Unsure what to include in your letter? I’m here to help—read on.

LoveLetter1. Plan ~ Get quiet and think of the person you’re writing to. Think what you’d like to tell that special someone to help them know they’ve made a positive difference, and how. Jot down a few positive words that best describe the person you’re writing to; if you can, recall examples of those positive qualities in action.

2. Write a draft that includes these components ~

• A story; a reminiscence. The easy one, for a romantic letter, is to describe how you first met. But if you’re writing to a friend, family member, or other relative, just someone else, just recount a shared, treasured memory that will bring a smile.

• The person’s lovable or admirable qualities. You already have the words and notes about how you’ve seen those positive traits in action; just write them up.

• Acknowledgment that the person has made a positive difference.
Everyone wants to know they’ve made a difference, but unless they’re told, they may not know they have. So tell how this person has made a positive difference–whether in your own life, in the life of someone you know, in the community, or in the world.

• An expression of thanks and love.
This can be brief – “Thank you” or “I love you so much for all you are.”

• Complimentary close and your signature. Use the expression most appropriate and natural for the circumstance and the person you’re writing to, whether it’s “In gratitude,” “All my love,” or “Your friend always,” and below that, sign your name.

3. Let your draft rest for 24 hours and then reread ~ Refine what you’ve written so it will read smoothly and contain no errors. Get a friend to read it also, if you can; fresh eyes see more!

4. Rewrite from your corrected draft ~ Use good stationery for this. For a romantic letter in particular, use handwriting or hand-printing; another type of letter can be printed on the computer, if you wish, in a nice, readable font—especially if it is likely to be framed.

5. Present your letter appropriately ~ A romantic handwritten letter can be presented, with or without an envelope, during a special dinner or other intimate moment. A non-romantic heartfelt letter can be presented in person while sharing a meal or a drink together. Keep that letter flat, if you can, with or without an envelope, or mounted in a certificate holder, or else framed. If you can’t present the letter personally, use an appropriate-sized envelope (large, flat envelope marked “Do Not Bend” is best). If the letter is framed, package it carefully to prevent damage in transit, and mark it “Fragile.”

6. Know the joys of a forever-enhanced relationship ~ Enjoy your Valentine’s Day,

LynetteSmithCopyright © 2015 Lynette M. Smith. Lynette M. Smith owns and operates All My Best Copyediting and Heartfelt Publishing and is the author of the award-winning comprehensive reference book, How to Write Heartfelt Letters to Treasure: For Special Occasions and Occasions Made Special. For more information, visit: http://www.GoodWaysToWrite.com

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Monday, November 24, 2014

No Words Unsaid ~ Write Someone You Love a Letter

Last week I watched TV news reporter, Gretchen Carlson interview Jody Noland, the author of Leave Nothing Unsaid. In that interview Jody emphasized how important it is to write a priceless letter to someone special which will:

• Express what that important relationship means to you
• Identify and affirm unique and outstanding character qualities
• Articulate your hopes, prayers and dreams for their life and
• Provide a lasting and invaluable source of encouragement

WriteALoveLetterYou can watch the interview that inspired this article by clicking here!

Next thing I know – 2 days later – I was attending a memorial service for a good friend who died recently. I walked away thinking that life is short. We never know whether the next day will be another gift from God to us or not. I began to think of the people I love and whether there were words that I had not yet said to them and if they were suddenly gone, I might regret.

“One of the most powerful and sincerest forms of communication that we see very little of today is letter writing. I am not talking about e-mail or post-its. I mean a real letter that is written on real paper and dropped in the non-virtual mailbox down the street. Letters take time and thoughtfulness to create.” ~ Michael J. Montegut

We are living in an age of communication, however, I am not talking about the texts we send by smart phone or even the words we speak when we actually talk to someone on the same smart phone. I am talking about the “written word.” How long has it been since you received a hand-written letter from someone – or written a letter to someone you Love?

My mother died as a result of Alzheimer’s disease. When I began to realize that – at times – she hardly remembered who I was, I wrote her a letter. I expressed my love for her and brought up many happy times that we had spent together in years that had passed. It was a 4-pager. To my surprise, my father told me that she would often read my letter, and comment that I must have been a very good boy. One day I arrived for a visit and she was reading my letter. She was thrilled to meet the boy that wrote the letter. You may want to read a story I wrote in a 2nd Helping of Chicken Soup for the Soul that honors the memory of my mother. More that 5.5 million people bought this book and read my mom’s story. Read, “A Strawberry Malt and Three Squeezes, Please,” here.

After my mother died some years later, I found a large box of letters. Being curious, I started looking through them and realized that there were more than 200 letters that I had hand-written her when I was in the Navy. She kept every letter.

Suggestion: Make a list of the people you love and make a decision to write them a hand-written (not computer generated) letter. You may want to write one letter each week to those on your list. Put your Love for someone on paper! Put a Love stamp on it and let the U.S. Postal Service deliver it to their door. If you are in a relationship, write the love letter you’ve been meaning to write. Buy her a Hallmark card that expresses your love and include a brief love letter. It doesn’t have to be long and wordy. It’s the thought behind writing the letter that counts.

TimeIsRunningOutA romantic Love letter to your partner, or a letter expressing love to a friend, is a wonderful way to express feelings of love in written form. Whether delivered by hand, mail, carrier pigeon, or romantically left in a secret location, the letter may be anything from a short and simple message of love to a lengthy explanation of feelings.

The power of the written word is amazing. Words matter. Even the words we think about but never express to our relatives and friends. The art of writing a letter doesn’t have to be a lost art. Before the wide use of telecommunications, letters were one of the few ways for a couple to remain in contact.

It’s time to do that. Write a hand-written letter. No texting, no e-mail, no instant messages… but words you write on paper. Leave no words unsaid. Speak from the heart. Express affection, love or whatever you feel in your heart. Say what you may have been afraid to say and say it in the most loving way you can.

You may want to buy Jody’s book. She did a fabulous job of simplifying the process for those of us who have a hard time putting pen to paper. Click on the book cover to the right. Jody Noland’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LeaveNothingUnsaid

“Take the time to try this. Commit right now to write your partner or a loved one a personal note expressing your positive feelings toward them. Do it on paper. If a letter is too daunting, then write a couple sentences. If that is too scary, then try just a few words.” ~ Michael J. Montegut

For me, the month of November brings to mind Thanksgiving. It’s the time of the year when I write letters to people to express my gratitude for having them in my life. If they have made a significant contribution to my life, I write a letter of thankfulness.

BONUS Articles: Have You Written a Love Letter Lately?
13 Emotional Letters That Prove The Written Word Has A Power Like No Other
Never Intentionally Say Hurtful Words to Your Partner

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Thursday, September 26, 2013

Have You Written a Love Letter Lately?

Michael J. Montegut, Ph.D., Guest Author

Communication is a word we hear often when people talk about improving relationships. We receive voluminous communication from every corner of our lives and from a myriad of sources: e-mail, radio, postal mail, telephone, pagers, FAX, television, cell phones and more every year. A lot of people I speak with think they cant escape contact with those around them. They feel that they do a pretty good job of interacting with others, especially when they have all the fancy, high-tech communication tools.

In relationships it is the quality of the communication that makes the most difference, not necessarily the quantity or speed of delivery. If you say the same thing, in the same way, over and over every day, your loved ones can become inured to it.

loveletterThis is especially true with the daily I Love You that is the staple of most loving, committed relationships. Just because you say it, does not mean that the message was received or perceived as sincere. Sincerity is always at risk with quick and easy forms of communication. It is easy to get into the habit of saying those three words with such ease that it is automatic.

One of the most powerful and sincerest forms of communication that we see very little of today is letter writing. I am not talking about e-mail or post-its. I mean a real letter that is written on real paper and dropped in the non-virtual mailbox down the street. Letters take time and thoughtfulness to create.

But what about the more efficient forms of communication in this technologically advanced age?

E-mail is easily written and often curt. Since e-mail is meant to allow quick and easy communication we often send messages without careful consideration. Furthermore, when e-mail is received the reader does not pause for a deep look because of the dozen other e-mail they received at the same time.

And forget those cutsie e-cards. They serve a purpose. They let someone know you are thinking about them and many times they may make them laugh (which is a good thing.) But in general, e-cards are not an effective delivery system for deep communication. As with paper greeting cards, the message in the e-card is filled out for you most of the time.

And the phone? Why not that most ubiquitous of 21st century communication tools, the cell phone?

When you make a phone call you and the person you are talking to can both be doing a handful of other things at the same time, and as a result this form of verbal communication can be poorly thought out and impulsive. Ultimately the phone, especially the cell phone, is meant to be used as a device of convenience. And deep, intimate, carefully considered and sincere communication does not have convenience as the main objective.

Greeting cards do not count (unless the sender has enclosed a substantial personal note which is rare). The greeting card industry has capitalized quite successfully on our inability to write from our own hearts, either due to lack of time or a perceived lack of creativity.

There are thousands of cards for every imaginable occasion with a heartfelt message already written out for us. All we have to do is sign our name (Even this is falling out of vogue in some circles – I have been given cards by people who do not sign their names so that the receiver can recycle the card and use it on someone else Yikes!!) Why is it that we need to buy our heartfelt sentiments in sterile, prepackaged form?

A letter, even a short one, can be symbolic of dedication. It shows commitment because it takes a little more time and care to organize ones thoughts and put them on paper. In addition, the written word is permanent and physical, two things that are a big part of committed relationships. It is a lot harder to deny what we have written than it is to deny what we’ve said.

For instance, if you say you are sorry to someone verbally you can equivocate and feel the person out so that you can alter your message depending on how you think things are going. Most people see through duplicity and equivocation in written form immediately. A letter forces you to state your feelings with permanence and, if you are practiced and take your time, clarity.

When was the last time you received a letter that was either written or typed out by hand? I am willing to bet that this is an exceedingly uncommon occurrence for most of you.

“Please write again soon. Though my own life is filled with activity, letters encourage momentary escape into others lives and I come back to my own with greater contentment.” ~ Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey

The writing of a letter also provides the opportunity to surprise someone. Place it in a location where they will find it at an unusual moment. For example, as they are riding the train to work or about to eat their lunch. Any place where they will discover it and take pause is good.

This is also much more romantic than just handing someone note or sending them an e-mail. In fact, if you are in a long distance relationship and normally correspond by e-mail every day, it will be a big and welcome surprise for your partner to get some real mail.

People often tell me that they do not feel they have any facility with writing and so cannot produce a letter, even a short one. A lot of people simply do not know what to say to their loved ones in a letter. If you think about it, you just have to say how you feel and what you are thinking. No one is completely devoid of feelings and no one has a blank mind (ever).

Letterwriting2Sometimes people are overwhelmed with many feelings and thoughts. If you find that this is your situation, make a list of the top 3 feelings and thoughts that are swirling around in your head. Then pick one and address it.

For instance, your top three thoughts or feelings related to your partner might be:

1. You forgot to kiss me goodbye this morning.
2. Do you really like that couch we ordered or are you just going along?
3. I really need some time alone with you. . . without the kids.

Even if you say what you feel in plain, simple, language (and this can be the best way most times) this is more than enough to make the point that you care. And the more you write the easier it will be and you will become more proficient at communicating your true feelings to others.

There is one caveat. Do not use writing as a way of avoiding confrontation or inflicting pain. The “Dear John” letter is a prime example. Remember that just as the written word has the power to spread love, it can also do damage to a relationship.

Choose your words wisely and never send a letter written in anger or use the written word as an alternative for something that should clearly be done face-to-face.

“I write entirely to find out what I’m thinking, what I’m looking at, what I see and what it means. What I want and what I fear.” ~ Joan Didion

Many therapists and coaches see writing as a powerful form of therapy. Getting everything down on paper clears your head of tumultuous thoughts and emotion. It helps to calm most people. There is even a sense of accomplishment when you have successfully described your feelings or concerns and can see them on paper. This is why journal writing is prescribed by so many therapists.

You can even write letters to communicate deep feelings that you may not be able to speak of effectively in person at the appropriate time (either because you are unavailable or because you do not remember the exact feeling you had at the time.)

Here is a great idea that I got from a book by Mark and Dianne Button called, “The Letter Box: A Story of Enduring Love.” The authors suggest that you write letters to your loved ones at important times in their lives and keep the letters tucked away in a small box for your loved ones to open at a later date.

For instance, you can write a letter to your child on the day of his birth describing all the joy you are experiencing and what it is like to hold him for the first time. You give this to him when he are 30 years old or perhaps on the occasion of the birth or his first child. Now that’s something you can’t do with an e-mail!

Take the time to try this. Commit right now to write your partner or a loved one a personal note expressing your positive feelings toward them. Do it on paper. If a letter is too daunting, then write a couple sentences. If that is too scary, then try just a few words.

Just say what you feel, no matter how simple or silly (this is often best). Have faith that it will make their day. Put your letter to them where they will find it unexpectedly or mail it though the regular mail.

I can guarantee that you will receive a positive response from them. And your letter can keep giving. Because, unlike words that are spoken (and then only a memory), a letter can be reread and experienced over and over.

By taking the time to express your love in a permanent and clear form, you will are recommitting to your loved one and to the vitality of your relationship with them.

BONUS Article: How to Write a Love Letter
Love Letters Straight From the Heart

Copyright © 2013 – Michael J. Montegut, Ph.D.. All rights reserved. Reprinted with Permission.

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Tuesday, November 6, 2012

It’s Time to Demonstrate Your Gratitude!

Filed under: Love Letters,Relationships — Larry James @ 8:30 am

November is the month of Thanksgiving. What better month to express your appreciation to someone special?

In today’s hurry-up world of fast phone calls, emails, social networking, and instant messaging, thoughtful writing is fast becoming a lost art. That’s a shame—thoughtfully written communications mean so much to those who receive them!

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Stop and think for a moment: Who has made a positive difference in your life? Who has contributed to your success. Has someone offered assistance that became a turning point in your life? Have you let them know in a lasting way?

Write a heartfelt (hand-written) letter of appreciation to help bring meaning to their life. It will touch their heart every time they read it, and it may even have the pay-it-forward effect of inspiring them to write one or more letters of appreciation to others.

Imagine how, just by writing that one special letter now, you can begin to change your world —and theirs —for the better.

My mother had Alzheimer’s. About a year before she died I wrote my mother a letter telling her how much I loved her and told her I was sorry for all the things I did when I was a little kid. Although there were times when standing before her she did not recognize me as her son, my father told me that she read the letter I wrote almost everyday (as if it had just arrived) and told everyone it was from her son. (You may want to read a story I wrote about her that appeared in “A Second Helping of Chicken Soup for the Soul.” It’s called, “A Strawberry Malt and 3 Squeezes, Please!“)

Be a part of reaching the “Big, Achievable Goal:” to get millions of people worldwide to write letters of appreciation to help writers and recipients establish, enhance, and rebuild their relationships, thereby changing their world.

If you feel ready to write that special letter now, wonderful! But if you want guidance in your joyous writing effort, Lynette M. Smith’s book, “How to Write Heartfelt Letters to Treasure: For Special Occasions and Occasions Made Special,” can help.

Write your letter, put a “Love” stamp on it and mail it so it arrives the week of Thanksgiving!

BONUS Article: Have You Written a Love Letter Lately?

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CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Thursday, March 15, 2012

Emotional Support for Long Distance Relationships (in a Digital World)

Filed under: Long Distance Relationships,Love Letters — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Being in a long-distance relationship with someone you love – whether it’s a spouse, a sibling or a child who has gone off to work, to study or a soldier to fight in a war – can be very stressful, especially for the person who is far away from home.

ldrelationshipSince it’s the 21st century and we have all sorts of incredibly fast technology at our fingertips, it may seem logical to use, say, video chatting, online instant messaging or cell-phone texting to stay in touch.

But here’s a surprise. A new study suggests that something else actually brings the most comfort to the person who is away from home – a regular old e-mail message or, yes, an honest-to-God old-fashioned letter, written on paper, and physically mailed. You may remember such things from the last century! But why would this be?

The research was done at the University of Denver and the University of Colorado Denver and was published in June 2011 in Journal of Traumatic Stress. To learn more, study coauthor Ben Loew, MA, graduate research assistant at the University of Denver’s Center for Marital and Family Studies contributed the following.

loveletter1Higher-quality content: Letters and e-mail allow more time for thought than instant communications. People who write them, said Loew, are more likely to think carefully about each word and possibly even edit themselves before sending the note. Writing out one’s viewpoint allows each person to complete a point without interruption and enables a better understanding of each others perspective.

The content tends to be more deliberate and calm – it’s a lot easier to fire off an insult or respond too quickly if you’re calling, texting or using instant chat, since with those forms of communication, there is more pressure to reply in a rush. Loew added that the person receiving the communication also may recognize that writing a long e-mail or letter or taking the time to buy a gift or create a care package requires more effort than more “instant” forms of communication – so “delayed” communication may feel like a sign of greater support.

Permanence: We don’t tend to record our phone calls or purposely save our instant chats or text messages and re-experience them over and over again – but we often will do that with an e-mail message or a letter. When the content makes us feel happy or calm or just more connected, we can stuff a letter into a pocket and reread it any time – ditto for a printed-out e-mail message.

Anticipation: Past studies on happiness have shown that when you know something exciting is coming in the future and you’re forced to wait for it, that period of looking forward to it can bring you comfort and a sense of joyful anticipation.

Before you call or text your loved one who is far away, you might want to pick up paper and pen to write a letter or turn to your computer and carefully craft an e-mail that expresses how much you care about that person – and do it often!

BONUS Article: Love Letters Straight From the Heart

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Sunday, January 15, 2012

Love Letters Straight From the Heart

Filed under: Love Letters — Larry James @ 7:00 am

How long has it been since you have sent a love letter to your spouse or partner? No e-mail or text – an actual “hand-written” love letter sent through the U.S Postal Service. Love can be expressed in a multitude of different ways, but the most timeless and most treasured will always remain the classic love letter.

loveletterMy money’s on “bet it’s been a loooong time!”

It’s time you do so. Don’t buy it. Write it yourself. And take your time. Make it juicy, sweet, seductive, passionate, torrid or whatever, but today… it’s time to sit down and express what’s in your heart to your partner. Say anything you want. Confess your undying love. Partners really want to know what’s in their heart. It’s often much easier to write it than to speak it in person. Writing a love letter is a very personal way to express your sentiments to someone you love.

Believe me a surprise love letter from you will energize your relationship. It’s an emotional charge! A love letter is something tangible that we can touch and hold and read over and over again.

“You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write the perfect love letter. All you need to know is how you feel. What makes a love letter so romantic is that it is deeply personal. It shows your beloved how well you know them, and that knowledge is the very stuff of love.” ~ Claire Colvin

Pretty paper with a few heart stickers, a “Love” stamp, and sealed-with-a-kiss, etc., might be a plus. Be creative. Use a few lines from your favorite love song. It doesn’t have to be 2 or 3 pages. Length sometimes complicates things. Sometimes short and sweet is best. Just make sure it comes from your heart. Be clear. Clarity works better.

It’s not always easy to express our feelings to our significant others. Some of us would rather show our love through actions. That’s great, however a major tool in the romance department is the love letter. Stimulate a romantic mood for writing. Go to a private room, put on some romantic music, dim the lights and begin writing. Take your time. Don’t stop. Just write. You can always come back and edit before you send it.

love_letters“Most of all, remember that it’s private, and therefore it can bear some risk. In this way most, a love letter is like love itself. There must be risk. Say something, name something, tell something that surprises you about yourself. Let her know that she is redefining your terms.” ~ Tom Chiarella

If you have had trouble vocally expressing your feelings, writing love letters has traditionally been an ideal alternative. You can get a lot of ideas if you Google “Love Letters.” Go to a Hallmark Card Store and look over the romantic cards, buy a card that expresses what you would really like to say and mix up the words on the card with a few of your own.

Okay… it’s your turn. Time to visit the stationery store. Get busy!

BONUS Article: Have You Written a Love Letter Lately?
How to Write the Perfect Love Letter

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Add Larry James as a “friend” to your Facebook page: http://www.Facebook.com/larry.james
Follow Larry’s “once daily” Relationship Tweet at: http://www.Twitter.com/larryjames
Follow Larry’s “Wedding BLOG” at: http://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com
Follow Larry’s “Networking BLOG” at: http://NetworkingHQ.wordpress.com

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