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Sunday, January 11, 2015

Make Everyday a FUNday!

Are you just going through the routines of marriage without really enjoying the journey? It’s time to sample the flavor of FUN! You lose your sparkle when you don’t allow yourself to have fun. Do something ridiculously fun – look, if you’re not happy today, the fastest way to cure that is to just go have fun. Don’t feel guilty. Don’t make excuses. When was the last time you kicked back and had an awesome time? Most couples know their marriages are happier when they make time to have fun. It’s time to put more fun in your marriage or relationship.

Virtually every couple wants to keep their romance alive and fresh with fun things to do with one another. However, as life gets busy, fun seems to be one of the first thing to disappear. Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place!

FUNdaysNo matter how hard you work, or how much stress you have on your plate, make sure to do something fun every day. Make time for fun. Fun brings on happiness.

Everyone I know is busy, but we should make sure our schedule never gets so crowded that we cannot enjoy time with the love of our life. Many couples plan their fun for the weekends. That’s great. As a couple how do you avoid the struggles of the daily grind? Quick answer: Be passionate about having FUN! Whatever activity you choose, keep in mind that the main objective is to have fun.

Ruts are normal. Nearly all couples face them at one time or another, explains Alisa Bowman, author of Project: Happily Ever After. Most of us don’t evaluate or even notice when our other relationships – friendships, siblings, parents – get into ruts, but we constantly evaluate the health of our romantic relationships. “It’s important to notice a rut, because it’s often the first symptom that you are growing apart,” Bowman says. “But ruts are not terminal, and they can actually be quickly overcome.” Kiss hello before doing anything else when you get home. Kiss good-bye when you leave. Stay out of a rut by having more fun!

Be an everyday FUN activist! Laugh together. Lighten up. Tease each other. It will give the relationship you have with yourself and your partner a big boost.

“We don’t quit playing because we grow older, we grow older because we quit playing.” ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

Life gets busy and it can be hard to find time together, much less finding time to try new things. If the romance has faded, add both mystery and surprise because they mimic the emotional state of a new romance. I repeat – Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place!

To be consistent in doing this, you must make a commitment to you – set a goal to do so. Write your commitment down and pin it somewhere that has you notice it everyday. This will add new dimension, excitement and texture to your relationship.

Be creative in doing this. I’m a big list person and I recommend that you begin making a list. Let your mind run wild. Not just things that might be fun as you navigate through your crazy daily routine but things that you take the time to plan. Create a big vision of fun things to do together. If you haven’t been planning a little fun during your regular “daze” this could be a challenge and take a high degree of intention.

It helps to prioritize your marriage. Plan a weekly date together where the focus is to have fun and enjoy each other’s company. When you first began dating, you likely had many opportunities to fully enjoy each other’s company. We suggest you recreate those possibilities no matter how long you have been together. It’s a fact that couples who anticipate and participate in “exciting” date nights showed a significantly greater increase in marital satisfaction.

Make sure some of your fun include some laughter. Gentle pranks are always fun, but don’t get carried away. Safe is better than sorry.

LoveYourKids2Place an unexpected phone call to your sweetheart just to say, “I love you,” or “I was just thinking about you.” Learn to say “I Love You” in different languages and say it when they least expect it. Those three words never get old.

Create a “Bucket List” of fun things to do! Brainstorm together. Try for 100 new ideas. Stretch yourself. Focus on fun. Make plans to do something so you can look forward to it. Anticipate. Children are basically happy when they are having fun and looking forward to more fun. Be a kid again.

“Couples who know how to play and have fun together develop a bonding that can carry them through the most difficult of times,” writes Dr. Steve Stephens in his book, ‘Blueprints for a Solid Marriage.’ “When people get older and when they’ve been married longer, they just become boring,” Stephens says. “It’s not that they mean to get boring, it’s just that they haven’t intentionally figured out what would be something fun to do.”

Do yourself a favor. If you have children, allow them to see the two of you having fun. Occasionally make them a part of your funday. Family activities can show children how the parents react with each other. By the way, it’s okay to plan for alone time fun with each other as long as you plan some family fun time too. Loan out the kids. When you and your spouse do want a night alone, you can turn to your friends for your babysitting needs. Then, when they want a night out, you can offer to do the same for them.

Never allow yourself get so caught up in what you do day to day that you forget to have a little fun each and every day. Remember: It takes two people – both totally committed to making the marriage great.

It takes work to reignite the passion in your relationship. So next time you plan a fun date night, think about the elements of newness, novelty and the element of surprise. It’s important to spend quality time with the people you love and cherish. Marriage is supposed to be fun! Allow your marriage to soar!

How do you keep the fun in your marriage or relationship?

By the way… it is also wise to devote a few moments each day to yourself.

Let the fun begin!

BONUS Articles: Fun Things to do as a Couple
Kidding Around With Romance
50 Creative, Cheap Ways to Have Fun
Great Date Ideas

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Sunday, February 9, 2014

Random Acts of Kindness Week ~ February 10 – 16, 2014

Filed under: Lighten Up,Relationships — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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International Random Acts of Kindness Week is February 10-16, 2014. Take this week to step out of your normal routine or comfort zone and attempt a new random act of kindness each day of the celebratory week. Here are a few suggestions:

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This week let’s combine “Random Acts of Kindness” with “Pay it Forward!” Think of ways to brighten someone’s day! I get joy from doing a random act of kindness “anonymously,” then leaving a note that says: “Courtesy of a Random Act of Kindness… Please pay it forward!”

Need some ideas? Browse through a collection of 350 Kindness ideas… click here!

Post and share your stories, photos, videos and ideas on their social media channels. If you need inspiration or more information, visit their website, RandomActsofKindness.org or Facebook.

Copyright © 2014 – Random Acts of Kindness Foundation.

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Sunday, July 28, 2013

“Hey! I’m Ready When You Are!”

You can’t always drop what you are doing and be at the beck and call to your partner, however, if you have the inclination and intention to do so, you are more likely to generate that feeling of being really close together than not. No intention. Not much can come from that. Does that make sense?

beck 1 (bk) n. – A gesture of beckoning or summons.
Idiom: at (someone’s) beck and call. Ready to comply with any wish or command. To be at someone’s beck and call is to be entirely subservient to them; to be responsive to their slightest request.

HavingFUN3Hmmm. Not “quite” like that. The word summons, to me, is like a “have to.” Summons can take away the choice. Not a beckoning that demands, but a beckoning that lovingly invites.

I’m talking about really being ready to have fun with your partner if and when one or the other of you feels fun coming on or in other words, when the invitation for fun comes. Spontaneity is a good thing.

You can tell, can’t you? You kinda know that having fun together is fun but often you hold back and for one reason or another you temporarily block the fun you could have had if you would have just said, “Hey! I’m ready when you are!” – and mean it!

You actually have the opportunity to choose to feel one way or the other. Right? You know it’s true.

I favor that anticipatory feeling that something really good could come from a slight shift in attitude. It’s a feeling of anticipation and that feeling genuinely comes alive!

Life should be fun. Find your smile. Put it on. Your relationship should be fun too. It really doesn’t have to be so hard. You both have to decide that you will always work together to make your relationship fun to be in.

So for me, it’s gonna be, “Hey! I’m ready when you are!”

Having said that, I’m thinking that there may be some times when I won’t be ready, and probably you too, but we won’t let that get in the way of genuinely having fun together, will we?

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Sunday, March 10, 2013

25 Marriage Tips

Sheila Wray Gregoire, Guest Author

I thought it might be a good time to present you with twenty-five tips for a successful marriage, to help a wife make her husband happy, and a husband make a wife happy. And so, in no particular order, here is my accumulated wisdom, little as it may be:

1. Talk to your spouse more kindly than you talk to anyone else in the world. Too often we speak the most harshly to those closest to us.

2. Remember that marriage is less about marrying the right person and more about becoming the right person.

cheerleader3. Don’t forget to laugh. Most couples spend the majority of their time talking logistics: who’s doing the grocery shopping, who’s calling the repairman, who’s picking up the kids. A relationship can’t survive on logistics. Have a water fight instead.

4. She needs you to be her best friend. Everyday, talk to her and tell her what you’re thinking. Even if you don’t think you’re thinking about anything. She needs to hear your heart.

5. He needs you to be his cheerleader. Let him know you believe he can take on the world.

6. Find ways to say “I love you” that don’t involve sex.

7. When you dress up, make sure the main person you’re dressing up for is him. And put on lipstick.

8. Leave the toilet seat down.

9. Forgiving means not bringing that old infraction up every time you have a new fight. Let it go.

10. If it’s not solved at 2:30 a.m., it’s not going to be solved at 3:00 a.m. either. Go to sleep. You can deal with it tomorrow, assuming you even remember what the fight was about.

11. When you’re having an argument, listen to understand, don’t listen to find loopholes so you can win. Marriage is either a win/win or a lose/lose. You can’t win by beating someone else down.

12. Your kids come second, not first. Your marriage needs to be number one. Your spouse was there before the kids and will be there after the kids move out. Work on that relationship first.

Couple Cuddling13. If you haven’t fully committed to your marriage, it won’t succeed. If you’re always testing your spouse, your spouse will always come up short. No one is perfect.

14. You will never drift together. People only ever drift apart. If you want to grow closer, you have to be intentional about it.

15. Let her cry. She needs to every now and then.

16. Don’t bug him if he doesn’t cry. Some men just don’t show their feelings. That’s why they’re men.

17. Don’t say everything that’s on your mind. More marriages would survive if more things went unsaid.

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18. Let her be your every fantasy. Keep your eyeballs off everyone else.

19. Let him be your every fantasy. Keep your eyeballs off romance novels.

20. Don’t think he’s gross if he farts. Don’t think she’s pathetic if she obsesses over paint colours. You married someone of the opposite gender. That’s what life is about.

21. Don’t run to your mom if your spouse does something you don’t like. You’re a unit now. Act like it.

22. Make one of your favourite topics of conversation how much you admire your spouse. Tell your kids. Tell your friends. And let your spouse hear.

23. Men would be ecstatic if women showed up naked and brought food. Most women need more than that. Men, make it your goal in life to figure her out. Woo her. She’s worth it.

24. Say yes far more frequently than you say no.

And finally, for you women:

25. If you have trouble “jumping him”, Sheila‘s new book, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex, goes into how to create a truly intimate relationship on three levels: physical, emotional, and spiritual. And my 31 Days to Great Sex ebook gives you 31 days of challenges to work through as a couple.

SheliaCopyright © 2013 – Sheila Wray Gregoire. Sheila Wray Gregoire is a Christian speaker who speaks at women’s events, women’s conferences, church outreaches, marriage conferences. She has written seven books and counting. Focusing mostly on marriage, but she also has one on grief. And she has a Chicken Soup for the Soul type book of her 90 favorite columns. Visit her Website at: http://ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com/.

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Saturday, May 26, 2012

Get Unplugged!

Filed under: Have FUN Together,Lighten Up — Larry James @ 8:00 am

I would be the first to say that technology is terrific! However it has its pros and cons. If you are not careful it can create distance between committed couples. That being said, there are times when you can appreciate life and your spouse more without the use of technology. Our challenge to you? Spend a day unplugged “with” the one you love.

cellOFFTurn off your phone(s) – Cell phone and land line (if you still have one). While your phone can keep you connected across the miles, it can also constantly distract you from the moment you’re living in. Make a pact to turn off your phones on Friday evening and don’t look at them again until Sunday morning. You’ll be amazed at how much more time you have with your sweetheart and how much more you will actually listen to what they have to say when you’re not being interrupted by various calls and texts.

Turn your computer off for the weekend. Don’t even check your e-mail. Stay off Facebook and Twitter. (Bet you’ll suffer withdrawal!) 😉 I know. It’s hard… but you can do it.

Leave the iPod and iPad at home – We all love music and entertainment, but spending time solely focused on each other can do nothing but boost your relationship. Plan a picnic under a tree in the park. You can take a walk and listen to each other and the sounds of nature around you. The result? You will feel more connected to each other and more at peace in your world.

beachfunLose the TV remote – Picture this: sitting on the couch with your sweetie and not watching television. Without the distraction of reality television or ESPN you can spend time together the old fashioned way… talking, playing a game or planning something fun to do over the weekend. Often couples who have conflicting work schedules find it difficult to schedule time to be together. You may find out that your partner is a lot more interesting than the re-run you would’ve watched and that you share one more thing in common (like being terrible at Scrabble). Put your DVR to good use. Watch your favorite show at a later day.

I had a coaching session with a couple recently who decided to spend the weekend working together to do the chores around the house that that both had been putting off for months, but to do them together. They then rewarded themselves with a fabulous meal at their favorite restaurant and a night out on the town. The following weekend they enjoyed some great music together at a music festival with their friends.

I guess the point is, if you really love each other, I’m thinking that it’s a great idea to make some special plans to spend some “quality” time with each other. “Who’s got time for that?” you say. You must “make time” to do fun things together. It keeps things interesting. Whatever it is that makes you and your partner happy, stop putting it off, and make plans to do it this week. Never let electronics get in your way of being together. Take the unplugged challenge and you may discover what you’ve been missing.

Larry’s Note: A special “Thank you” to the great people at MissNowMrs.com for their contribution to this article.

BONUS Article: Put the “Fun” in Relationship Fundamentals!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Saturday, December 10, 2011

I’m Upset… AND I Need a HUG!

Filed under: Anger Issues,Hugs,Lighten Up — Larry James @ 9:00 am

When in the heat of the battle, always remember: a warm hug cools a slow burn. It may be better to temporarily put aside feelings of anger during misunderstandings and express your love in a silent, close embrace.

It is at times like these, when tempers are flaring, that words can not only fan the flames, they can be like a flash fire; once the fire rages through, there is not much of anything left.

A hug at that moment, would be a shining example of unconditional love. Being angry doesn’t mean you are no longer loved or lovable, or that you do not love your love partner.

Love stands on its own. It only needs your constant attention if you want it to grow. While it may be difficult to express love in the middle of no agreement, it is possible.

Imagine a relationship where love partners, in the midst of a disagreement, can agree to a truce long enough to again call attention to the single thing that keeps them together. . . Love!

Hold one another, if only for a moment. When things cool down, have a warm and loving conversation that again gives birth to the possibility of agreement.

If you can imagine it, you can bring it to pass. What an exciting possibility! Love more quickly heals a slow burn.

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Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Take a DEEP Breath!

Filed under: Breathe,Lighten Up,Relationships,Romantic Tips! — Larry James @ 9:00 am

Let’s face it. Life can get hectic. So can some relationships. If feels like there are never enough hours in the day to check off every item on your to-do lists or to spend quality time with each other. In this fast-paced world, sometimes what we need most is a way to slow down a little bit. Fortunately, I’ve got some tips to help you do just that.

breathe1So. . . take a DEEP breath, (inhale in through your nose and exhale through your mouth). Go ahead. Breathe. Now here’s what matter’s most.

Try Something New – Listen to a new song, try a new recipe, read a new book (use your imagination!). There are so many ways to relax and focus your mind without leaving home.

Embrace the Experience – Even when completing an everyday task, try to immerse yourself in it, don’t just race through it. Let it be an end in itself.

Remember to Breath – If your day starts to slip away from you or you start to feel overwhelmed. . . STOP! Take a few deep breaths to clear your head. If you follow the way I talked about breathing when you started reading this article, it will have a calming effect. Trust me… it works!

Use All Your Senses – Even when you are doing something as simple as brushing your teeth each morning, you can enjoy a refreshing and calming experience. You will want to have a fresh mouth for your good morning kiss!

Do or Say Something Nice to Your Partner Every Day! – Think only positive thoughts about each other. Give up being “right” about YOUR position. Being a couple is an awesome responsibility. Don’t talk about the past – focus your energy on the future. Do things that cause you both to “choose” to be happy. Be more “romantic” with each other. Demonstrate your love for each other. Speak only kind words to each other.

whisperMake Some New Promises to Your Partner – Making a promise is easy! Making sure you have the
incentive to stick with it is even better. What is your incentive? If your new promises to each other drive you, if you act in accordance with that drive as you move forward, you will tend to stay on track. The only reason to fail to make good on your new promises is to give less than your best effort.

Take Another DEEP Breath! – Fill your lungs with fresh air. Go ahead. . . do it again!

Whisper Words of Love – OR… surprise you partner by sending a “romantic” greeting card for no reason other than you want to say how much you care. Or… write your own “romantic” message. Sprinkle a few of these notes around the house (on the bathroom mirror or on their pillow, etc.), in the car, or wherever you partner may happen to look.

Larry’s Note: This article was inspired by an ad in “O” Magazine. Crest Complete toothpaste can help you smile with confidence! Yes… I’m a guy and I read “O” Magazine! 😉

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Friday, October 7, 2011

Put the “Fun” in Relationship Fundamentals!

Filed under: Having FUN,Lighten Up — Larry James @ 8:00 am

Most everyone knows the fundamentals of successful relationships. Yet sometimes we forget the most basic “to dos.” A healthy love relationship must be based on the belief that both partners are equal, that the power and control in the relationship are equally shared. Some of the characteristics of a healthy relationship include:

CoupleLove, kindness, respect, devotion, change, gratitude, listening, mindfulness, affection, interaction, boundaries, integrity, trust, support, encouragement, shared responsibility, sexual intimacy, laugh together, accountability, effective communication, friendship, a sense of humor, a shared vision of your relationship, shared decision making, etc. These are great relationship builders. They draw you closer to each other.

As you focus on getting better together. . . remember not to be so serious. Ease up a bit. Relax, take a deep breath and be silly with one another. Gave a giggle or two. Life is too short to be serious.

Happy couple embracing and laughingBe spontaneous. Lighten up and have some fun. Loosen up. Be funny and flirty. Smile! Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere. Look at your relationship with fresh eyes. Be each others best friend.

The simple response of laughing will increase your well-being, decrease stress, and can actually increase your natural life. A lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind isn’t filled to the brim with negative emotions. When you are more light-hearted and relaxed then the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement. Have a look at “Let There Be Light” for more on this topic.

“No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.” ~ Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby

Embrace love! Follow some of these ideas and you will be amazed how the dynamic of your relationship will change for the better. Being happy and having fun in a relationship can take some work, but if you’re in it for the long haul, the results are well worth it.

BFFCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Thursday, January 21, 2010

Let There Be Light

Filed under: Lighten Up,Relationships — Larry James @ 3:37 am
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Don’t take life or yourself so seriously. Lighten up!

REL-LetThereBeLightThere will be screw-ups and breakdowns. Roll with the punches.

Leave work at work. Don’t bring it home. Surprise yourself with a massage on the way home.

Whistle a happy tune. Learn a really funny joke and tell it to at least 10 people in one day. Be brave. Tell a joke to someone you don’t know in an elevator. (I did that once and booked a speaking engagement as a result).

If you make a mistake, don’t let it get you down. Acknowledge the mistake, take corrective action and continue moving forward.

Stop being so rules focused. It’s okay to break a few rules now and then on your way to being in a happy state. Do something together that tickles your funny bone. Kiss yourself in the mirror.

Poke fun at yourself, but never at your partner. That’s their job. Are you taking life too seriously all the time? Don’t. Be frivolous. Surround yourself with people that make you feel comfortable just being yourself.

When was the last time you laughed? I mean. . . a real belly-laugh! Stop that serious pose and let some of the laugh lines win for a change. Go to a local comedy club. Let your hair down. Why humor? Reduce stress through positive emotions and laughter. Why not?

Smile often. Research has shown that the mere physical act of smiling, without actually feeling like it, triggers internal biological reactions that stimulate emotions and contribute to a better mood – in you and others.

Lighten up, people!

Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves for they shall never cease to be amused.

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Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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