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Friday, January 26, 2018

What Legacy Will You Leave Your Grandchildren?

Filed under: Legacy,Life Lessons,Relationships — Larry James @ 10:30 am
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The sun is setting on a warm summer day, and a cowboy in his mid-fifties is leaning on a fence post with his dusty work gloves tucked away in his back pocket. He watches the colors of the sky change as the sun melts into a cool, dark night. It’s a majestic finale and his reward for persevering through a hard day’s work to provide a good life for his family.

That man was my Granddad Joe, and that’s the scene I imagine when I think of him. The vision is symbolic of a life well lived and the legacy that he left within our family and among those who had the privilege of knowing him.

Granddad Joe grew up during the Dust Bowl doing whatever he could to survive on the farm. His work ethic came from a necessity of working 14-hour days, laboring through the heat in the summer and the bitter cold of winter blizzards. Granddad Joe went to be with the Lord last year, but his work ethic was inherited by my father who, in turn, passed it on to me.

This is what comes to my mind when I think of a legacy. I often ask myself, What kind of a legacy do I want to leave? How do I want to be remembered when I’m gone? For me, I know that I want a legacy that my children, grandchildren and many generations after that can be proud of – just like my father and my grandfather.

It’s never too late to consider your impact on the world. Following are some ideas to consider as you develop a vision for your legacy.

Know what you stand for.

Which qualities are most important to you? Let these traits be the guideposts for how you see the world, how you spend your time, where you spend your money, and how you make decisions. Look to your role models, and identify the qualities that impacted your life in a positive way.

Live your values.

What we do is more important than what we say. Values mean nothing if they are not put into practice every day. And I do mean practice. Don’t beat yourself up when you fail on occasion. We all aspire to perfectly embody our values, but being human, we will fall short. It’s all part of living and learning.

Talk about things that matter.

One day, when I was growing up, I went out with my dad to feed the cows. I decided to run up a hill instead of riding in the truck with my dad. As I approached the top of the hill, I got tired, gave up, and hopped back in the truck. After a few minutes of silence, my dad said, “That’s the difference between you, your brother, and me. We would have crawled up the last 50 feet before quitting.” His words stung but he meant them with love and affection, and it’s a lesson that has pushed me to persevere through hard times. If he’d have kept quiet, I wouldn’t have learned.

Encourage yourself and others with slogans.

When I was in high school, I asked my dad why he kept his head down and always worked hard. His response was, “One day it will all pay off.” That slogan has always stuck with me. Simple phrases like that are easy to recall, and they can help you uphold your values when the going gets tough. Here are some other examples. Choose your own slogans, write them down, say them often, and share them with others, especially children.

• Anything worth doing is worth doing well.
• Do good and good will come to you.
• Treat others as you would like to be treated.
• Always assume positive intent.
• Those who deserve love least need it most.

Proverbs 13:22 says, “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children.” This verse isn’t necessarily about a financial inheritance, but can also be interpreted as the life lessons we gain from our role models and the legacy we will one day pass on to our children. Together, generation-by-generation, we’re making our home, our community, and the world an even better place.

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Saturday, November 7, 2015

21 Rules For Living to a Healthy Old Age

Oussama Zinedine, Guest Author

Some of us have reached our golden years, and some of us have not. But these suggestions should be read by everyone. They have been collected from many a senior, each with his or her own piece of advice. Some you know, some may surprise you, and some will remind you of what’s important. So read well, share with your loved ones, and have a great day and a great life!

REL-OldAge11. It’s time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard earned capital. Warning: This is also a bad time for an investment, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries and this is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and don’t feel bad spending your money on yourself. You’ve taken care of them for many years, and you’ve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.

3. Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor, get tested even when you’re feeling well. Stay informed.

4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together.

5. Don’t stress over the little things. You’ve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don’t let the past drag you down and don’t let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: “A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection.”

7. Be proud, both inside and out. Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.

REL-OldAge48. Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There’s nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.

9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You’ll be surprised which old friends you’ll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday’s wisdom that still applies today.

REL-AgingWell211. Never use the phrase: “In my time.” Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time. You may have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.

13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If you’ve lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.

14. Don’t abandon your hobbies. If you don’t have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

15. Even if you don’t feel like it, try to accept invitations. Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But don’t get upset when you’re not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.

16. Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. That’s a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but don’t go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.

REL-OldAge17. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we’re all going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

18. If you’ve been offended by someone – forgive them. If you’ve offended someone – apologize. Don’t drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn’t matter who was right. Someone once said: “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Don’t take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.

SkinnyDipping19. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But don’t waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

20. Laugh. Laugh A LOT. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life. But you did. So what’s not to laugh about? Find the humor in your situation.

21. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved. Let them talk and don’t worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you’ve lived so far. There’s still much to be written, so get busy writing and don’t waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at rest, at peace and as happy as you can be!

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Monday, January 19, 2015

The Best Sermons are Lived, Not Preached

Filed under: Life Lessons,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Twelve real life stories that can be your teachers.

1. Today, I interviewed my grandmother for part of a research paper I’m working on for my Psychology class. When I asked her to define success in her own words, she said, “Success is when you look back at your life and the memories make you smile.”

2. Today, I asked my mentor – a very successful business man in his 70s- what his top 3 tips are for success. He smiled and said, “Read something no one else is reading, think something no one else is thinking, and do something no one else is doing.”

MemoriesMakeUSMILE3. Today, after a 72 hour shift at the fire station, a woman ran up to me at the grocery store and gave me a hug. When I tensed up, she realized I didn’t recognize her. She let go with tears of joy in her eyes and the most sincere smile and said, “On 9-11-2001, you carried me out of the World Trade Center.”

4. Today, after I watched my dog get run over by a car, I sat on the side of the road holding him and crying. And just before he died, he licked the tears off my face.

5. Today at 7AM, I woke up feeling ill, but decided I needed the money, so I went into work. At 3 p.m. I got laid off. On my
drive home I got a flat tire. When I went into the trunk for the spare, it was flat too. A man in a BMW pulled over, gave me a ride, we chatted, and then he offered me a job. I start tomorrow.

6. Today, as my father, three brothers, and two sisters stood around my mother’s hospital bed, my mother uttered her last coherent words before she died. She simply said, “I feel so loved right now. We should have gotten together like this more often.”

7. Today, I kissed my dad on the forehead as he passed away in a small hospital bed. About 5 seconds after he passed, I realized it was the first time I had given him a kiss since I was a little boy.

8. Today, in the cutest voice, my 8-year-old daughter asked me to start recycling. I chuckled and asked, “Why?” She replied, “So you can help me save the planet.” I chuckled again and asked, “And why do you want to save the planet?” Because that’s where I keep all my stuff,” she said.

9. Today, when I witnessed a 27-year-old breast cancer patient laughing hysterically at her 2-year-old daughter’s antics, I suddenly realized that I need to stop complaining about my life and start celebrating it again.

10. Today, a boy in a wheelchair saw me desperately struggling on crutches with my broken leg and offered to carry my backpack and books for me. He helped me all the way across campus to my class and as he was leaving he said, “I hope you feel better
soon.”

11. Today, I was feeling down because the results of a biopsy came back malignant. When I got home, I opened an e-mail that said, “Thinking of you today. If you need me, I’m a phone call away.” It was from a high school friend I hadn’t seen in 10 years.

12. Today, I was traveling with a friend in Kenya and we met a refugee from Zimbabwe. He said he hadn’t eaten anything in over 3 days and looked extremely skinny and unhealthy. Then my friend offered him the rest of the sandwich he was eating. The first thing the man said was, “We can share it.

Life lessons are everywhere! Listen for them and learn! The best sermons are lived, not preached!

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