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Sunday, November 17, 2013

Write! ~ “Right!”

Filed under: Journaling — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Have you ever written in a journal? It’s a great way to put your private and personal feelings on paper.

It is important to get your thoughts “out of your head” and make them tangible by putting them in writing.

writing-in-a-journalOften the thoughts you have about your relationship are disconnected from the real issue. Your mind skips from one thought to the next so rapidly you have no time to focus on thinking about what really matters.

Journaling is for women AND men. Men have feelings too. Here’s a short list of great men from history who kept journals:

• Theodore Roosevelt
• Thomas Jefferson
• Charles Darwin
• Benjamin Franklin
• Lewis and Clark
• Andrew Carnegie
• Ralph Waldo Emerson

Here’s the good part: When you can see your thoughts on paper it helps you to more effectively deal with the situation. Looking back at old journal entries can help you rediscover the kind of changes you need to make to get your life back on track.

Finally, simply writing about your feelings and frustrations helps you focus on what’s really going on in your life and in your head, so that you can come up with a solution to your problems. It’s great therapy. Starting a journal is easy enough. Sticking to it on a daily basis is more difficult. If you want to make it a habit, just pick a time in your day for journal writing and make it a non-negotiable in your life.

A journal is not a diary. In a diary, you keep a list of the things you do daily; a daily record of events and experiences. In a journal, you make notes about how you are “feeling” about what is going on in your life on a daily basis. Don’t confuse the two.

Many years ago, during a relationship break-up, I began journaling. I learned so much about myself during that time of my life. I am grateful that I did this because later I could look back and see how far I had come personally. When I re-read some of the entries, I couldn’t believe that I had felt that way. This self-reflection was a God-send. It truly helped me move past that time in my life.

Your task today is to begin a journal. Some people prefer to write in a book. I prefer to have a file in my computer. Select what works best for you. Journals help you have a better connection with your values, emotions, and goals. They improve mental clarity and help you solve problems and improve your overall focus. If you already have a journal, but haven’t written in it in awhile, write an entry today. If not, start one today!

For a more in depth look at journaling, be sure to read: “For Your Eyes Only“.

BONUS Article: 101 Reasons to Write a Journal

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Saturday, December 11, 2010

For YOUR Eyes Only

Filed under: Journaling,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Have you ever sat down, discouraged and out of steam, stuck and with a sense of hopelessness about your relationship? Have you ever felt like you needed to express what you felt? Have you ever taken the opportunity to write some notes to yourself about how you are feeling, even the feelings you feel uncomfortable sharing with anyone? Do you feel a lack of freedom to fully express yourself?

I recommend writing a “for your eyes only” journal. Journaling creates a sense of freedom of expression. It is an excellent way to document your innermost thoughts and feelings of the moment.

Writing“Why would I want to do that?”

LoveNote. . . The worst prison would be a closed heart. ~ Pope John Paul II

One of the best ways to expedite release and healing is by keeping a daily journal. There are many other exciting possibilities to look forward to by journaling. It can truly be an adventure in self-discovery.

Buy a journal or hardbound notebook. They are available at most book stores or card and party shops. It is a book with blank pages. Another idea would be to open up a special file in your computer and call it “My Journal.” You may want to hide it deep within your hard disk so only you know where it is or put a special name on the file that only you know.

Then, begin to write. Write what happened, what you did, what your love partner did, how you felt and how you are feeling now, what you think, what your assessment of the situation is, what would have to happen for things to get better, and whatever comes into your mind. Write anything and everything.

I am not talking about a diary, I’m talking about a journal where you write what happened and how you “feel” about what happened. A journal will capture and summarize your daily experiences, issues, thoughts, and feelings.

Journaling is an opportunity to get down and dirty. Tell the truth from your perspective. And be clear that what you write is only your opinion of what happened. From where your love partner stands, there is always another opinion. Get it all out on paper where you can see it.

LoveNote. . . It is not necessary to love everything about yourself to like who you are! ~ Karin Owen

No one need read your journal but you. However, it could come in handy if you choose to enroll in therapy. To assist you best, your therapist needs to know everything relevant to why you chose therapy, what your issues are and more. A journal can be your ready reference about how you felt and how you are feeling now.

It is a time for self-honesty. Expressing your deepest feelings, in writing and in your own words, is good therapy. Journaling will help you get your thoughts and feelings out of your head so you can deal with them with your heart. It helps to make your thoughts tangible; it makes them more easily accessible to you for closer scrutiny. It is easier to deal with something you can see and touch.

I often review what I have written five or six months previously and discover that I no longer feel that way or I may think, “I can’t believe I had such a hard time with that situation.”

girl-journalingJournaling helps you keep track of your progress. It reveals hot spots, the areas in your relationship that need healing.

Give up writing to make yourself look good. Quit worrying about writing the right thing. Write whatever pops into your head and write it however it expresses itself on paper.

Remember, it is a time for self-honesty. Keep your integrity intact. You must keep your word with yourself before you can trust yourself to keep your word with someone else.

Sometimes the truth is ugly. If the truth hurts, maybe you should be grateful. At least it got your attention.

I have often found that what hurts the most or what I want to look at the least, is what I most need to handle first. I have learned that what you resist, persists.

When we run from our feelings, they follow us. . . everywhere!

Never use time as an excuse. This is important. Take time!

Keeping a daily journal contributes to you! Carry your journal with you. When a thought that you feel the need to express hits you, take a moment and write it down. You can always expound on it later.

Journaling is a healthy way of expressing yourself so you can get to know you better.

LoveNote. . . Love becomes the ultimate answer to the ultimate human question. ~ Archibald Macleish

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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