Isn’t it interesting? We have good intentions, yet, somehow we often never seem to get around to doing everything we know must be done to stimulate healthy love relationships.
“Green lights and straight ahead” sounds like a great idea, however, without declaring good intentions nothing ever changes… it may change but you have no power over it. There is great power with intention when coupled with an act that one consciously wills. Good intentions without affirmative action get you nowhere. Your intentions are states of being and must be your authentic desires.
“Setting intention, at least according to Buddhist teachings, is quite different than goal making. It is not oriented toward a future outcome. Instead, it is a path or practice that is focused on how you are “being” in the present moment. Your attention is on the ever-present “now” in the constantly changing flow of life. You set your intentions based on understanding what matters most to you and make a commitment to align your worldly actions with your inner values.” ~ Phillip Moffitt
Our intentions are good and we take left turns. We intend to be on the right path and we get distracted or we don’t have time. Or, “If he or she would only change!” Or, anything to keep from taking responsibility for the direction we really want to go in the relationship.
When you set an intention and then act on it to demonstrate your commitment, amazing things occur in your relationship. Intention is choice with commitment. That’s the only way it works. Your attention must consistently be on your relationship intention. Every single thing humanity has created began first as an intention. Inherent in every intention and desire for a great relationship is the mechanics for its fulfillment. Stay on the path. Avoid all distractions. Focus.
It is stupid not to do something different, when what you are doing isn’t working!
Begin with intentions! That will get you to the source of what you truly want from your relationship. Your intentions will assist you in taking greater control of your life and your relationships. It is also important to hold yourself accountable for doing whatever must be done to fulfill your intentions.
“You can hire a coach, join a mastermind group or create a success/accountability partnership with a friend. Having someone or a group of people you make commitments to and whom you empower to hold you accountable will make all the difference in the world.” ~ Mike Robbins
Relationships are worth nearly any price it takes to have them be great. Not in the sense of doing anything to have a relationship, but in the sense of each of you always doing the best you can, all the time, to have the relationship be good and healthy. It doesn’t get any better than that!
Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
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