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Sunday, December 14, 2014

The Best Gift for Your Holiday Honey

Holi-DateBob Hollander, JD, LCSW-C and Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, Guest Authors

Are you wondering, what is the best gift for your honey this holiday season?

Relationships and marriages become stressed around the holidays. Too much to do and not enough time. What tends to fall to the bottom of our lists is making time to connect with our partners.

It doesn’t have to be this way. With just a little thoughtfulness, your relationship can flourish during the holidays. Several years ago Bob and I wrote about what we call “Holi-Dates.”

Holi-Date – A short, sweet date with your partner in December designed to revitalize you, your mate and your connection.

We believe Holi-Dates are the best gift for your “holiday honey.” Finding pockets of time or longer to share with each other can reduce stress, deepen your feelings of connection and turn the to-do list into something fun.

Our “Holi-Date” video will explain further. We hope it inspires you to do more connecting with your honey this season!

Some of our past favorite Holi-Dates:

• Day trip to NYC – the Rockettes at Radio City Music Hall, skating at Rockefeller Center and FAO Schwartz toy store
• Ice skating and hot chocolate
• Symphony of Lights in Columbia
• The Chanukah House in Baltimore
• Hampden’s Miracle on 34th Street and cherry pie at Café Hon
• Barnes & Nobles – gift buying, and dessert and coffee at Starbucks
• Watching old Christmas movies at home

BONUS Articles: Rx for the Holiday Blues!
A Gift of the Heart
This Man Is Dating Someone Although He’s Married. Sounds Disgusting, AND I’m On His Side.
10 Ideas for a Date Night In
Date Night – No Less Than Once Each Week – No Excuses!

Copyright © 2014 by Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD. Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, is a licensed counselor and co-founder of Relationships Work, an innovative therapy practice and online resource center. Together with her husband, Bob, they encourage couples to consciously co-create their relationships in order to achieve a deeper, more intimate connection. You can visit Relationships Work online at: http://www.RelationshipsWork.com. Follow them on Facebook.

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CLoveLOGOLarry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Seasons Greetings from the “Valley of the Sun,” Scottsdale, AZ!

In the desert, we do Christmas differently. The winter grass is growing, the palms are swaying in the breeze. We decorate our houses and the cacti in our desert yards with chile pepper lights while wearing our t-shirts and shorts. We also drive around town looking at the Christmas lights in our convertibles with the top down.

HappyHolidays3White Christmas? It’s rare, at least in Scottsdale. Snow is something we don’t see much of around here. During December the temperature will seldom dip below 35 degrees. The average temperature on Christmas day is 65 degrees.

We experienced a 15 minute snow storm, with the wind blowing hard, about 8 years ago, however it melted as soon as it hit the ground. Some say that was the first heavy snowfall in nearly 30 years. If we must have snow, we can drive two 1/2 hours north to Flagstaff and go skiing. I love this place!

snowballheartThere couldn’t be a better time to tell you how very much you are Loved.

During this Holiday Season, our thoughts turn gratefully to those who have made our progress possible. It is in this spirit we say . . . Thank you for your continued support of our work in the relationships and wedding ceremonies areas.

We wish you a Happy Holiday Season and a New Year full of great relationships, health, happiness, prosperity and other good stuff!

May the Christmas Spirit of Love, forgiveness, prosperity and generosity be with you through this holiday season. My prayers and hopes for you in the coming years are that you will draw closer to God’s Divine Light and that His Love and His Grace will be evident in and through your life.

As part of my Holiday gift to you, please enjoy a heartwarming story called, “The Selfish Giant,” read by Og Mandino.

I wish you a blessed Christmas or a Happy Holiday. . . your choice, to people of all faiths and Spiritual persuasions! And. . . have a very Prosperous New Year!

Now. . . go give someone you love a big “Holiday Hug!” Or. . . kiss someone under the mistletoe! Or both!

More about Christmas! Read, “Rx for the “Holiday Blues.”

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Thursday, November 28, 2013

Be Grateful for Everything!

Filed under: Holidays,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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We set aside November as a special time to be grateful and to be thankful for all our blessings! I’m thinking that it might be a great idea to pause for a few seconds every day to think about something for which we are grateful. Gratitude inspires kindness and connection.

I am most grateful for the power of choice. Every day we make thousands of choices about our thoughts, our feelings and our actions. Each choice brings with it it’s own consequences. Some are good and some not so good. I am grateful for the wisdom to make the right choices.

Happy-Thanksgiving4No matter what happens today, choose gratitude. If everything goes your way, choose gratitude. If everything looks as though it is falling apart, choose gratitude. Gratitude is the most powerful choice that you can make. Gratitude changes us so that we more deeply realize the abundance that is available to us.

Albert Schweitzer called gratitude “The secret to life.” He said, “The greatest thing is to give thanks for everything. He who has learned this knows what it means to live. He has penetrated the whole master of life: giving thanks for everything.”

Wouldn’t this be a better world and wouldn’t our relationships all be better if we could train our minds to be grateful for our blessings instead of focusing on our disappointments?

Resolve to make gratitude a daily habit. Gratitude is a muscle that needs to be exercised everyday, so give yourself a personal workout challenge. Experts say that it takes at least 21 days to form a new habit. Let’s all form the habit of gratitude by going 21 days without criticizing, condemning or complaining. It may be tough, and you CAN do it if you truly put your mind to it.

MaxineThanksgivingThis Thanksgiving, may you celebrate in your own personal way and create a holiday you can be grateful for in the years to come. May you be grateful for all the ups and downs that shape who you are and who you are becoming.

It is my hope that you will start a tradition of meaningful celebration, whether it is an intimate dinner for two, a lively and spirited gathering of the whole family, a day of celebrating yourself, or a time to serve others.

Right now, think of something or someone you are grateful for. Take a moment to recognize what you can appreciate, speaking your gratitude out loud, letting the people you care about know how you feel. Send them an e-mail or better yet, give them a call.

My friend, Wes Hopper, publishes a complimentary “Gratitude Newsletter” each month. Check it out at: http://www.DailyGratitude.com.

Read “A Prayer of Thanksgiving!”

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2007 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Thursday, July 4, 2013

Happy Birthday, America!

GodBlessAmericaHope you have a S A F E and Happy Independence Day!

Independence Day which is commonly known as the Fourth of July in the United States, is a federal holiday which commemorates the adoption of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776. Thus it is that auspicious day when United States declared itself independent from the Kingdom of Great Britain.

Since then until the present day, July 4th has been celebrated as the birth of American independence, with the celebration taking grandeur look which is well complemented with parades, fireworks, carnivals, fairs, picnics, concerts, family reunions, barbecues and political gatherings and speeches.

Be patriotic and hoist the colors! Repeat the “Pledge of Allegiance” to the Flag!

Since then until the present day, July 4th has been celebrated as the birth of American independence, with the celebration taking grandeur look which is well complemented with parades, fireworks, carnivals, fairs, picnics, concerts, family reunions, barbecues and political gatherings and speeches.
Read more at http://www.theholidayspot.com/july4/index.htm#JSGCxZZEoIza3wgH.99

When you say the Pledge of Allegiance, you must never forget the sacrifice and courage that thousands of Americans have made to build our nation and promote freedom around the world.

July4thFor links that will provide you with information about this grrreat country of ours, click here then click on the links below!

The History of America’s Flag Day

America’s Pledge of Allegiance History

The Pledge of Allegiance

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Help create and sustain the American Spirit!

“I love you, America!” – Larry James

BONUS Articles: Facts About US History
25 Fascinating Facts About America

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Thursday, November 22, 2012

A Prayer of Thanksgiving

Filed under: Gratitude,Holidays,Prayer,Spirituality — Larry James @ 8:30 am

Be thankful for your relationships.

All of them.

PrayerThanksgivingSeems to me that there may be only two prayers worthy of praying. One prayer is to know God better. The other prayer is a prayer of thanksgiving.

Pray a prayer of self-discovery and one of gratitude, and know God is listening.

It is useless and wastes God’s time — and our mental energy — to pray for things. God has given us the ability to choose. Our greatest power is choice. To use this power to choose to pray for things that God has already given us the power to create may not be an effective use of our time.

I can imagine God being amused. I can hear him saying, “Why don’t they get it? I have given them everything and yet they insist upon asking me for the same things, over and over again.”

childprayingIt may not seem logical that you should only pray a prayer of thanksgiving. If you are someone who has always used your prayers for asking, this may sound strange to you. This, to some, may appear to be an arrogant way to speak to God. Hardly.

“If the only prayer you ever said was, ‘Thank you.’ that would be enough.” – Meister Eckhart

God will view your prayers with greater reverence when you acknowledge that you have already been given the power to choose. Stop asking God to give you a great relationship. Instead, choose to thank God for a love relationship that transcends your own imagination, then do whatever you can to help it turn out that way.

It’s up to you to do. Take whatever steps are necessary to accomplish what you want. Do at least one thing everyday towards accomplishing what you have thanked God for. Make a call, attend a seminar; do whatever it takes.

“Gratitude unlocks the fulness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. Gratitude makes sense of the past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie, author, “Codependent No More

Thank God every day for guidance. Listen to the still small voice within. When you respond to what you “hear,” the rewards are often more than you ever expected. Listen to your heart. It always tells you the truth.

In the past we have asked for a great relationship, never received it, and never bothered to do anything differently and wondered why God didn’t answer our prayer. Hopefully, we have learned that lesson by now. That’s like asking God for a great job and never going to look for one. Excuse me! I don’t believe that’s what God had in mind. We must be thankful and do something.

Being thankful for the relationships you already have is one of the keys to attracting the relationships you want. Cultivate the practice of affirmative prayer. An attitude of gratitude is faith in action. It is a very satisfying feeling to know that what you are thankful for, you will experience. What you focus on, manifests.

A grateful prayer begins the creation process. Let go of the “wanting” of it and focus on what it feels like to have what you desire.

Someone once said, “Pray without ceasing.” God hears your quiet thoughts too. Another good reason for keeping your thoughts focused on what you desire. Thinking positive is a good thing. Caution: Negative prayer (or thought) works too.

“I pray every night and I don’t ask for much.  I just say, ‘Thank you.'” ~ Prince. American Musician, 1958 – 2016

Saying a prayer of thanksgiving has you focus on the good things that are happening to you and the good things that are about to happen to you. That alone may be a good enough reason to only pray a prayer of thanksgiving. It creates a thirst for more of the good that God says is already yours. Think about it. You get what you really believe.

Is it true that when something bad happens we tend to not want to take responsibility that the bad we see is what we created? Not taking responsibility means we try to find someone outside of ourselves to blame. When we ask God for things and the things don’t come, who do we blame? When we blame God for not answering prayer, our love for God becomes conditional. There is no room for blame in an unconditional love relationship.

gratitude“Gratitude unlocks the fulness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. Gratitude makes sense of the past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie, author, “Codependent No More

How can we justify loving Him conditionally when we, in our self-serving arrogance, resist believing that our misfortune is our own fault?

God always answers prayer. Always. It may not be the answer you want but he always answers.

Can we look at ourselves in the mirror, take complete responsibility for our relationships and all areas of our lives, and know that we do have choice and we do create our own reality? As within, so without. Consider saying ‘yes’ to prayers of self-discovery and thanksgiving and experience the miracle of good that God has already given to you. Then get busy and do something different. Change your thinking and your behavior and you will change your life!

“Gratitude is a wonderful way to experience this world through peace, freedom, and joy. When we recognize the limitless good contained in every moment, we begin to know the grace that flows through life. Acknowledging all experiences as being helpful in some way, does immeasurable good to correcting wayward thoughts and feelings. Thankfulness helps release our hold upon old energy that limits and binds us.” ~ Harold W. Becker

Pray to know God. Thank Him for being there for you. Be grateful for the gift of constant and faithful devotion He has given to help you get to know Him better. Pray to thank God for His abundance. Let Him know how grateful you are for the relationships in your life. Offer thanks for your present circumstance, regardless of what you think or feel about it. Thank Him for the lessons of good you learn from the things you often call bad. Thank Him for the tears of joy and the tears of sadness.

Be grateful for your abiltity to create an attitude of receptivity. Thank Him for more love, courage and understanding. Express gratitude for the everyday miracles that occur that you often take for granted. Be grateful for the power of choice. Thank God for creating the possibility of unconditional love and for the self-discipline to stay on that path. Thank Him for the opportunity to express gratitude. Be thankful for all that God has freely given.

Now. . . receive it!

Whatever you want in your relationships. . . wants you! Thank God for that, too!

“To say that “prayer changes things” is not as close to the truth as saying, “Prayer changes me and then I change things.” God has established things so that prayer, on the basis of redemption, changes the way a person looks at things. Prayer is not a matter of changing things externally, but one of working miracles in a person’s inner nature. We are in danger of forgetting that we cannot do what God does, and that God will not do what we can do.” – Oswald Chambers

Read a special thought and prayer about gratitude from Rev. Richard Rogers.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Your thoughts?

GratefulHeartCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2007, 2012 & 2014 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Thursday, November 26, 2009

Your Thanksgiving Inventory

What are you thankful for?

Be thankful for your relationships.

All of them.

thankscopiaSeems to me that there may be only two prayers worthy of praying. One prayer is to know God better. The other prayer is a prayer of thanksgiving.

Pray a prayer of self-discovery and one of gratitude, and know God is listening.

It is useless and wastes God’s time — and our mental energy — to pray for things. God has given us the ability to choose. Our greatest power is choice. To use this power to choose to pray for things that God has already given us the power to create may not be an effective use of our time.

I can imagine God being amused. I can hear him saying, “Why don’t they get it? I have given them everything and yet they insist upon asking me for the same things, over and over again.”

It may not seem logical that you should only pray a prayer of thanksgiving. If you are someone who has always used your prayers for asking, this may sound strange to you. This, to some, may appear to be an arrogant way to speak to God. Hardly.

“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is, ‘Thank you,’ it would be enough.” – Meister Eckhart

God will view your prayers with greater reverence when you acknowledge that you have already been given the power to choose. Stop asking God to give you a great relationship. Instead, choose to thank God for a love relationship that transcends your own imagination, then do whatever you can to help it turn out that way.

It’s up to you to do. Take whatever steps are necessary to accomplish what you want. Do at least one thing everyday towards accomplishing what you have thanked God for. Make a call, attend a seminar; do whatever it takes.

Thank God every day for guidance. Listen to the still small voice within. When you respond to what you “hear,” the rewards are often more than you ever expected. Listen to your heart. It always tells you the truth.

In the past we have asked for a great relationship, never received it, and never bothered to do anything differently and wondered why God didn’t answer our prayer. Hopefully, we have learned that lesson by now. That’s like asking God for a great job and never going to look for one. Excuse me! I don’t believe that’s what God had in mind. We must be thankful and do something.

Being thankful for the relationships you already have is one of the keys to attracting the relationships you want. Cultivate the practice of affirmative prayer. An attitude of gratitude is faith in action. It is a very satisfying feeling to know that what you are thankful for, you will experience. What you focus on, manifests.

“Stay in a state of gratitude and awe. You can’t feel stressed and appreciative at the same time.” – Dr Wayne Dyer

A grateful prayer begins the creation process. Let go of the “wanting” of it and focus on what it feels like to have what you desire.

Someone once said, “Pray without ceasing.” God hears your quiet thoughts too. Another good reason for keeping your thoughts focused on what you desire. Thinking positive is a good thing. Caution: Negative prayer (or thought) works too.

Saying a prayer of thanksgiving has you focus on the good things that are happening to you and the good things that are about to happen to you. That alone may be a good enough reason to only pray a prayer of thanksgiving. It creates a thirst for more of the good that God says is already yours. Think about it. You get what you really believe.

Is it true that when something bad happens we tend to not want to take responsibility that the bad we see is what we created? Not taking responsibility means we try to find someone outside of ourselves to blame. When we ask God for things and the things don’t come, who do we blame? When we blame God for not answering prayer, our love for God becomes conditional. There is no room for blame in an unconditional love relationship.

“Gratitude unlocks the fulness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. Gratitude makes sense of the past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie, author, “Codependent No More

How can we justify loving Him conditionally when we, in our self-serving arrogance, resist believing that our misfortune is our own fault?

God always answers prayer. Always. It may not be the answer you want but he always answers.

Can we look at ourselves in the mirror, take complete responsibility for our relationships and all areas of our lives, and know that we do have choice and we do create our own reality? As within, so without. Consider saying ‘yes’ to prayers of self-discovery and thanksgiving and experience the miracle of good that God has already given to you. Then get busy and do something different. Change your thinking and your behavior and you will change your life!

Pray to know God. Thank Him for being there for you. Be grateful for the gift of constant and faithful devotion He has given to help you get to know Him better. Pray to thank God for His abundance. Let Him know how grateful you are for the relationships in your life. Offer thanks for your present circumstance, regardless of what you think or feel about it. Thank Him for the lessons of good you learn from the things you often call bad. Thank Him for the tears of joy and the tears of sadness.

Be grateful for your abiltity to create an attitude of receptivity. Thank Him for more love, courage and understanding. Express gratitude for the everyday miracles that occur that you often take for granted. Be grateful for the power of choice. Thank God for creating the possibility of unconditional love and for the self-discipline to stay on that path. Thank Him for the opportunity to express gratitude. Be thankful for all that God has freely given.

Now. . . receive it!

Whatever you want in your relationships. . . wants you! Thank God for that, too!

“To say that “prayer changes things” is not as close to the truth as saying, “Prayer changes me and then I change things.” God has established things so that prayer, on the basis of redemption, changes the way a person looks at things. Prayer is not a matter of changing things externally, but one of working miracles in a person’s inner nature. We are in danger of forgetting that we cannot do what God does, and that God will not do what we can do.” – Oswald Chambers

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Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” There are more than 750 pages of great relationship information on Larry’s Website. Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Monday, May 25, 2009

It’s Memorial Day!

Filed under: Holidays — Larry James @ 12:01 am
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MemorialDayMemorial Day is much more than a three-day weekend that marks the beginning of summer. To many people, especially the nation’s thousands of combat veterans, this day, which has a history stretching back all the way to the Civil War, is an important reminder of those who died in the service of their country.

More about Memorial Day!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

commentSubscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Saturday, December 20, 2008

Have a Happy Holiday & a Prosperous New Year!

Filed under: Holidays,Relationships — Larry James @ 12:01 am

During this season of celebration, are you are experiencing a dip in your mood just when it’s the season to celebrate thankfulness and to be jolly? The hustle and bustle got you down? Are you overwhelmed with the busyness of the season?

Are you dreading the holidays? Feeling behind before you even begin preparations? Wish you could hibernate until the season’s over? Avoiding tree-trimmings and office parties? Is your attitude, “Bah-humbug!?” For your own well being, don’t boycott the holidays.

Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanza, Ramadan, New Years eve – whatever you celebrate this season, being single doesn’t suck as much as you think. You have a choice between sitting home and wallowing in your own self pity and crying into a warm beer watching reruns of “It’s a Wonderful Life” or creating a very special holiday just for you. Embrace your situation. There is hope.

Nostalgia is often characterized as depression.

Nostalgia is a disorder of the imagination, where the mind is dwelling upon past memories and loses interest in the present situation: a mood disorder. It is a longing for pleasures, experiences, or events belonging to the past. Those memories are often brought on by an aroma, a song, an old movie, a picture, and can send you back many, many years.

Although nostalgia is not depression, it can lead to depression. For nostalgia to be normal, it must contain a depressive component that is related to the recognition that the past is irrevocable. In its pathological form, the mood contains only the elated aspects without the acceptance of loss, or what could be described as bittersweet sentiment.

Homesickness deals with the nagging thought that perhaps you made a terrible mistake in leaving the comforts of your old life, which may bring a temporary phase of loneliness and depression.

There is never any benefit in longing for what once was, but rather much joy in exploring what is. Focus on the present and think positively. This approach can help reduce some of your frustration and unhappiness as well as build your confidence to live in the spirit of the holiday season.

To really enjoy it during the holidays, you’ll first need to temper your expectations. Forget about what’s “supposed” to happen. Remember that lots of people out there are doing what’s expected, and probably running themselves a little ragged.

Read more about this and get 56 suggestions to help you dodge the perils of solitude and radiate holiday cheer. Go to: http://www.CelebrateLove.com/holidayblues.htm

Copyright © 2008 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Author Larry James presents seminars nationally for singles and couples. Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com

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Monday, December 17, 2007

Holiday Quotes

Filed under: Holidays,Relationships — Larry James @ 2:47 pm

“Christmas is not a time nor a season but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas.” – Calvin Coolidge

“Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love!” – Hamilton Wright Mabie

 

“There are two ways of spreading light: To be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.” – Edith Wharton

 

“Have a wonderful Holiday with family and friends and a Prosperous New Year!”  –  Larry James

 

Saturday, November 25, 2006

A Gift of the Heart

Filed under: Holidays,Relationships — Larry James @ 2:32 am

Want to know how to avoid a gift-giving blunder? To help you develop gift-giving savvy, when you give a gift during the holiday season or on any other occasion, make it a gift of the heart.

A gift of the heart is a gift we give to our friends and relatives that they want and need. A gift is defined as something freely given from one heart to another with no strings attached. A gift with strings is a gift of the ego.

The value of the gift itself is not as important as its presentation and the thoughtfulness behind the giving. Giving gifts that will benefit the recipient is a meaningful gesture. Good gifts move the recipient because they have been chosen with a thoughtful heart.

Giving gifts, while fun and enjoyable in theory, offers endless potential for frustration; thronging crowds, ransacked stores, confusion, indecision, cash depletion and, finally, the belated knowledge that you bought the wrong thing. The task of giving the right gift can be made much easier with a little bit of pre-thought.

Begin now to think and plan ahead. Listen for clues. Comments like, “Wow! That would be great in the family room!” or “It sure would be nice to not have to (fill in the blank)!” or “Oh, I love that, but it’s a little more than I want to pay!” That’s your cue to make a mental note and add it to your gift list.

When you give gifts people want and need, whether it is money, time, talent, advice, Love or other tangible gifts, you will begin to receive back to you what you want. Your friends and relatives will kiss the “returns counter” good-bye and reduce return trips to the mall. The last-minute, rush to the store to find a gift tells a story about you.

A gift given with the thought, “What will I get in return for this,” is a gift of the ego. Why bother? It’s a gift we give because we want to give it rather than a gift that fulfills a need or want. Gifts given from ego are seldom appreciated.

Giving a gift of the heart anticipates desire; what you are offering is wanted and is appropriate. Simple, well chosen gifts unite the recipient and the giver, are appreciated and are often treasured the most. Gifts of the heart light up our friends and relatives with happiness and joy beyond our wildest imaginings.

Thoughtless, inappropriate gifts cause more attention to be given to the giver. Desire for attention is better requested, in a direct way, not with gifts. A gift given of the heart is for giving attention, not requesting it.

What to give?

We can learn everyday a little more about gift-giving by “being” with the people we love so that we know what they want and need. Proper thought, feeling and inquiry must go into the gift selection. A certain quality of attention is often absent in gift-giving. Brief consideration does not create a considerate gift. Gift must be real and given from the heart to be appreciated.

Gifts should be a symbol of being related rather than a bid for reassurance that we are loved.

“The manner in which it is given is worth more than the gift.” – Lynn Johnston

Copyright © 2007 – Larry James. Adapted from the book, “How to Really Love the One You’re With.” Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE.

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