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Monday, February 8, 2016

Romantic Ideas You Can Use at Home

Filed under: Having FUN,Love,Romance — Larry James @ 11:53 am

Romantic ideas you can do at home by Terrys Fabrics
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Saturday, November 7, 2015

21 Rules For Living to a Healthy Old Age

Oussama Zinedine, Guest Author

Some of us have reached our golden years, and some of us have not. But these suggestions should be read by everyone. They have been collected from many a senior, each with his or her own piece of advice. Some you know, some may surprise you, and some will remind you of what’s important. So read well, share with your loved ones, and have a great day and a great life!

REL-OldAge11. It’s time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard earned capital. Warning: This is also a bad time for an investment, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries and this is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and don’t feel bad spending your money on yourself. You’ve taken care of them for many years, and you’ve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.

3. Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor, get tested even when you’re feeling well. Stay informed.

4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together.

5. Don’t stress over the little things. You’ve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don’t let the past drag you down and don’t let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: “A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection.”

7. Be proud, both inside and out. Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.

REL-OldAge48. Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There’s nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.

9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You’ll be surprised which old friends you’ll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday’s wisdom that still applies today.

REL-AgingWell211. Never use the phrase: “In my time.” Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time. You may have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.

13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If you’ve lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.

14. Don’t abandon your hobbies. If you don’t have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

15. Even if you don’t feel like it, try to accept invitations. Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But don’t get upset when you’re not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.

16. Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. That’s a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but don’t go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.

REL-OldAge17. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we’re all going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

18. If you’ve been offended by someone – forgive them. If you’ve offended someone – apologize. Don’t drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn’t matter who was right. Someone once said: “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Don’t take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.

SkinnyDipping19. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But don’t waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

20. Laugh. Laugh A LOT. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life. But you did. So what’s not to laugh about? Find the humor in your situation.

21. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved. Let them talk and don’t worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you’ve lived so far. There’s still much to be written, so get busy writing and don’t waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at rest, at peace and as happy as you can be!

BONUS Article: Make Everyday a FUNday!
Romance in a Jar…
Ways to Relight the Flame of Love

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Sunday, July 28, 2013

“Hey! I’m Ready When You Are!”

You can’t always drop what you are doing and be at the beck and call to your partner, however, if you have the inclination and intention to do so, you are more likely to generate that feeling of being really close together than not. No intention. Not much can come from that. Does that make sense?

beck 1 (bk) n. – A gesture of beckoning or summons.
Idiom: at (someone’s) beck and call. Ready to comply with any wish or command. To be at someone’s beck and call is to be entirely subservient to them; to be responsive to their slightest request.

HavingFUN3Hmmm. Not “quite” like that. The word summons, to me, is like a “have to.” Summons can take away the choice. Not a beckoning that demands, but a beckoning that lovingly invites.

I’m talking about really being ready to have fun with your partner if and when one or the other of you feels fun coming on or in other words, when the invitation for fun comes. Spontaneity is a good thing.

You can tell, can’t you? You kinda know that having fun together is fun but often you hold back and for one reason or another you temporarily block the fun you could have had if you would have just said, “Hey! I’m ready when you are!” – and mean it!

You actually have the opportunity to choose to feel one way or the other. Right? You know it’s true.

I favor that anticipatory feeling that something really good could come from a slight shift in attitude. It’s a feeling of anticipation and that feeling genuinely comes alive!

Life should be fun. Find your smile. Put it on. Your relationship should be fun too. It really doesn’t have to be so hard. You both have to decide that you will always work together to make your relationship fun to be in.

So for me, it’s gonna be, “Hey! I’m ready when you are!”

Having said that, I’m thinking that there may be some times when I won’t be ready, and probably you too, but we won’t let that get in the way of genuinely having fun together, will we?

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Saturday, July 20, 2013

Need a Distraction From the Day-to-day?

Filed under: Having FUN,Relationships — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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I don’t know about you but sometimes I get so busy I forget about anything but work. And you?

I guess it’s obvious that I love what I do. However, I’m learning to not let what I do be my total focus. Sometimes I just need a distraction to help me find the balance I know I need.

Distractions like those listed below will help you de-stress and temporarily get your mind off of those things that we think we must do. If you are facing struggles at home or work… it might just give you a long enough pause to whisk you away to a better place – temporarily, at least – and once you’ve had your distraction, deliver you back with a fresh attitude to face whatever challenges that come next.

distractionTaking your mind off things makes for a great get-away. Distraction can take our minds off a troubling problem, and that can often lead to our minds working on the problem in the background, in our subconscious. It can also lead to inspiration. It’s important that you do something that you do not ordinarily do. Make sure your distraction is something, especially an amusement, that totally distracts. Part of the value of distraction is that our minds need an occasional break. Make time for a self-serving interlude.

• Take a one-day vacation ~ Do what YOU wanna do!
• Get in touch with your silly side
• Wear “Mickey” ears to the grocery store
• Tell someone something you’ve never told anyone
• Go overnight camping in the living room
• For six (6) hours give up Facebook. Use a timer.
• Eat some S’mores
chocolate• Use the Internet, Facebook, etc., to look up a friend you haven’t seen for years
• Engage in hilarity
• Make a banana split
• Quietly pray the Lord’s Prayer slow and out loud
• Indulge in raucous laughter
• Treat yourself to a pedicure (you too, guys!)
• Go fishing. Don’t like fishing? Go anyway!
• Eat a yogurt. See how long you can make it last. Dip the spoon & lick the spoon.
• Paint something (besides your nails)
• Stay in your jammies all day long
• Be kooky – whatever that means to you 😉
• Write a 12-line poem (prose) about something or someone you love
• Hug someone unexpectedly ~ make it last a little longer than usual.
• Wait till after lunch to check your e-mail
• Dump your “to do” list for a day
• Stand in front of a mirror and hug yourself for no less than 3 minutes
• Open a window and just look outside for 5 minutes. Make a list of what you observe.
• Give up caffeinated drinks for one day
• Eat some chocolate!
hugyourself• Take a full day without answering your phone or connecting to the internet.
• Spend 30 minutes each day for one week working on a picture puzzle
• Visit a casino. Take a $20 bill and see how long you can play the nickel slots
• Challenge someone to a water-gun duel
• Take a one-mile walk. Don’t rush. Count your steps
• Wear a fake tattoo for a whole day
• Call someone you haven’t talk to for at least six months
• Sing (out loud) several times a day. Use a Post-It® to remind you.
• Read a good book ~ How to Really Love the One You’re With is a good one! 😉
• Clean out a messy, junk drawer
• Light several candles just before you go to bed. Choose one of them to watch. Think about something you are grateful for.
• Write yourself an “I love you because…” letter. Put it in a self-addressed envelope and give it to a friend to mail to you 3 months later. It will most likely arrive the time you most need to read it!
• Give up something that you know is not good for you. Use a Post-It® to remind you to keep your promise.
• Take a quiet 30-minute nap at a time that you would not normally do so.
• Eat some more chocolate! 😉

Okay. Now it’s your turn. Either be distracted by putting some of the above ideas to use or make up a few of your own.

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Sunday, August 26, 2012

Romance in a Jar…

Filed under: Have FUN Together,Having FUN,Relationships,Romantic Tips! — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Here is an idea that will keep your relationship from becoming stale and boring. So many couples that call me for relationship coaching have gotten away from doing the things that brought them together in the first place. Many claim that the romance has faded; that there just isn’t the excitement there once was.

coupleasleepOften as a relationship matures, some couples tend to trade that intense feeling of first being together for contentment and security. The utter sameness of the day-in, day-out togetherness can sometimes make you want to run for the hills. You come home from work, eat dinner and watch TV (sometimes falling asleep on the couch), go to bed, wake up and start all over again. Somehow it becomes a habit. Nothing new happening, just the same old thing over and over. Is this the marital bliss you were seeking? How exciting is that?

Some couples become unhappy and start fantasizing about new relationships that might have more to offer. Bad idea! Scratch that thought!

If your relationship isn’t working quite like you would like it to it can be a tremendous drain. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you can get back. If your relationship is stuck in peaceful coexistence, but not much else going on and you’re not truly relating to each other and working together – it’s time to do something different.

Part of the fun of being together is about doing fun things together; being a little daring and being spontaneous like you were when you first met. Just because you’ve been together a long time doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun being in the relationship. How can you make sure your relationship continues to thrive?

FUNjarIf the sparkle has dimmed or if you are lacking in the romance department here is a great idea. First, find a jar. You and your partner sit down some evening and each come up with at least 15 romantic and fun things to do together. Write each one on a separate note and put them all in a jar. Make it a point to add fun things to the jar whenever you come up with a new idea.

One couple I know called it their “Relationship TIP Jar.” They described it as the “anticipation of the unexpected.” It helps add that element of “new” to your life together.

When you are looking for something to do together, open the jar and randomly select one of the notes and immediately make plans to do it. If you had a great time doing it, put the note back into the jar and shake the jar to keep your next selection new and exciting each time. It’s fun to discover new and exciting things to do together.

OR… begin each year with an empty jar and fill it with notes about good things that you did together in the past. It then becomes a visible time-capsule of fun things that you can do when you need something to do. You can add fun things to do together that didn’t originally come from the jar as you discover new stuff to do. That’s one way to keep the fun and excitement in your relationship.

couplemassageYou could even start a jar of your own that helps you remember to do special things for your partner, like popping into her office to take her out for lunch or just stop by to say hello. You can come up with some of your own ideas and occasionally drop them into the jar.

The novelty of this idea helps you and your partner create new memories and feel more like a team as you try something new. It will help you stay involved with each other. Trying new things with your partner can help prevent boredom, make you feel closer to your partner, happier with your relationship, and more satisfied with life in general. Happy and healthy relationships take a lot of work. You must continue to come up with new things to do that deepen the connection you have with each other.

These are just a few great ideas for making your relationship more special, more loving and more fun.

Now that you’ve found that special someone, always continue searching for something new to converse about and keep that initial feeling alive for the years ahead. This search will continue to revitalize your love and your life together will look a little brighter.

If you are truly committed to making your relationship strong and healthy, with a bit of creativity and effort on the part of both partners, romance can become second nature to both of you.

BONUS Articles: Several articles about having fun together! Several more articles about fun!

heartCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Monday, April 16, 2012

Touch for Two

Filed under: Having FUN,Intimacy,Massage,Physical Intimacy — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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“Phew! Glad that day is over.” Have you ever felt like that?

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Even monkeys do it!

You can tame your tension with a partner massage. When you’ve had a rough day, take some time to rest and take turns giving each other a gentle, loving massage. A romantic massage for two works wonders. The skin is the largest sensory organ in the body. This is why a massage can be a very personal way to show affection for your partner. At the end of the day take time out to relax each other with a sensual full body massage.

Everyone likes getting a massage. And even more so if it’s done by a person whom they trust, since a massage can be a very intimate thing. Massage is a great way to relieve stress and channel positive energy through to your partner.

Set the mood. Before you begin, take a few moments to relax your body and your mind. Create a comfy environment by lighting some candles and playing soft music. Customized your massage for two with champagne, chocolate covered strawberries, and rose petals. This is a great massage to do in the bedroom, after a relaxing hot bath or shower. Wait! That’s another great idea! Shower or take a hot bath together.

hotbathAn experience that does so much good deserves to be shared. Massage oil is used for decreasing friction on the skin, and for the warming effect. Use a light vegetable or seed oil to nourish the skin warming it between your hands before massaging. The purpose of the oils is two-fold. They smell good and they reduce the friction between your hands and your partner’s skin. Have towels close by to wipe off excess massage oil. It is also important to cover the areas that you have already massaged so that the body heat you will have generated won’t escape and give your partner a chill.

Build momentum. Use relaxing strokes. Start by using gentle warming strokes, gradually adding more pressure. Work one area at a time. Rather than relying on just arm or hand strength, use your body weight to work out tension areas.

couple-massageIt’s not enough just to light a scented candle; make sure your environment is clean and uncluttered. Be prepared. Privacy is important. Lock the doors. Decide on a place where you can be sure of your privacy and will not have peeping toms or kids to worry about. Dim the lights. Make it romantic by replacing lights with candles. Turn off your phones. Keep everything you need close to you. Once you begin the massage you do not want to be distracted. Continually starting and stopping the massage will ruin the moment. Make sure you’ve set up the room just how you want it. Don’t worry about a perfect massage. Think about your partner and let your fingers do the loving.

Beyond the obvious physical relaxation benefits it can cause you to feel closer. A good massage also increases blood circulation and the flow of feel-good hormones. Alternate massaging each other from the neck and shoulders down to the legs and toes.

Have something to drink close by, as people tend to be thirsty after a good rubdown. Take the time to discuss the great moment the two of you just shared. It’s called “afterglow” and should always be a part of a good massage. The communication will not only make the massage feel great, but will strengthen your bond. Enjoy this special moment by talking or seeing where your soothed mood takes you.

BONUS Article: 5 Things You Should Never Do When Massaging

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Monday, February 20, 2012

Focus on Spending “Quality” Time Together

Filed under: Having FUN,Romantic Tips! — Larry James @ 8:00 am

Quality time? What is that?

DancingThe “quality” time part means no cell phones, no computers, no TV remotes, no kids, no distractions… it means making your partner the center of your attention!

Make sure to spend some quality time with your partner. Sometimes we get so caught up in the insignificant daily chores that love seems to take a back seat. It’s important to take conscious and consistent action to prevent that from happening. Find at least one weekend a month so the two of you could be together.

Better yet, plan a “date-night” once each week, free from the children – a time when you focus on each other. It can be dress up or not. An extravagant dinner or an hour together at your favorite fast food place. The point is to “plan” to be together.

couplehavingfun“Don’t put so much effort into raising your kids that you neglect your relationship with your spouse. Raising kids is the most important thing you will ever do in your life and you owe them your best, but there will come a time when the kids will be grown and will hopefully go away and you will be left looking at the person you are married to. Make sure that person hasn’t become a stranger.” ~ Larry Winget

Spontaneity comes after you make the plan to be together. In other words, don’t do the same things all the time – that can get boring really fast. Be creative. Take one evening each month to come up with some ideas that appeal to both of you. Have fun. Revive the chemistry you had in the beginning. Make sure you are on the same wavelength.

Make an effort to be playful. Playfulness means that you are fun to be with, consequently triggering feelings of attraction to each other. Whispering sweet “somethings” in her ear. Find something special to pass along as a compliment. Enjoy the time that you are together. Hold hands. Make the time that you are together memorable. Laugh. Laughter can break down many barriers, ease the tension and reduce a lot of the stress of living with each other.

Guys: Give her the TV remote for a week!

Bonus articles: Several more articles about having fun and spending quality time together!

heartsunsetCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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Monday, December 26, 2011

Run! Play! Laugh! Dance! Jump! Love!

Filed under: Having FUN,Health & Wellness — Larry James @ 8:00 am

Never stop having fun with life! Tell some zany jokes. Talk. Listen. Dance to the music. Be passionate. Take a walk – hop or skip part of the way. Be silly for 2 minutes. Read a magazine at a picnic table. Take a bike ride. Don’t have a bike? Rent or borrow one. Engage in a pillow fight.

playingfetchKeep your body in motion. Do it alone or with someone. Pretend you are a child again. Play some kid games. Let go. Hug a tree. Lose yourself in play. Play hide and seek with a friend. Have water fight with water pistols, then switch to buckets!

See how fast you can walk around the shopping mall – time yourself (take someone with you). Wrap yourself in a blanket and roll down a hill. Go roller skating.

Borrow a dog if you don’t have one and take it for a walk and play fetch. Exercise in the park. Go bowling and don’t worry about getting a low score. Go for a swim. LOL (laugh out loud) for no reason at all. See how far or how high you can jump. Climb the monkey bars on a playground. Play catch with a basketball. Borrow a church hymnal, choose a song and sing it to your partner. Run around the block in “slow motion.” 😉 (I wanna watch that one).

OlderCouple“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” ~ George Bernard Shaw

Having fun at play should be an important activity in the lives of everyone! Play is important because it helps us grow strong and healthy and gives us something more to think about than work, work, work. Use your imagination to make up some of your own stuff to do. Be active.

And did I mention that you it’s best to do these fun things with someone you love? Never grow up enough to stop playing and having fun.

After all that… I’m exhausted! Run! Play! Laugh! Dance! Jump! Love! Especially Love!

healthyheartCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Friday, October 7, 2011

Put the “Fun” in Relationship Fundamentals!

Filed under: Having FUN,Lighten Up — Larry James @ 8:00 am

Most everyone knows the fundamentals of successful relationships. Yet sometimes we forget the most basic “to dos.” A healthy love relationship must be based on the belief that both partners are equal, that the power and control in the relationship are equally shared. Some of the characteristics of a healthy relationship include:

CoupleLove, kindness, respect, devotion, change, gratitude, listening, mindfulness, affection, interaction, boundaries, integrity, trust, support, encouragement, shared responsibility, sexual intimacy, laugh together, accountability, effective communication, friendship, a sense of humor, a shared vision of your relationship, shared decision making, etc. These are great relationship builders. They draw you closer to each other.

As you focus on getting better together. . . remember not to be so serious. Ease up a bit. Relax, take a deep breath and be silly with one another. Gave a giggle or two. Life is too short to be serious.

Happy couple embracing and laughingBe spontaneous. Lighten up and have some fun. Loosen up. Be funny and flirty. Smile! Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere. Look at your relationship with fresh eyes. Be each others best friend.

The simple response of laughing will increase your well-being, decrease stress, and can actually increase your natural life. A lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind isn’t filled to the brim with negative emotions. When you are more light-hearted and relaxed then the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement. Have a look at “Let There Be Light” for more on this topic.

“No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.” ~ Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby

Embrace love! Follow some of these ideas and you will be amazed how the dynamic of your relationship will change for the better. Being happy and having fun in a relationship can take some work, but if you’re in it for the long haul, the results are well worth it.

BFFCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Saturday, June 25, 2011

Remember FUN?

Filed under: Dating,Having FUN,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Relationships should be fun! Remember when you were first together? You both had fun with your relationship as you were getting to know each other. Has the work of a romantic relationship caused your “fun button” to stop working?

There is a line in the “romantic” wedding ceremony I preform that goes like this: “Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place!” You DO remember back that far, don’t you? 😉

couplepillowfightIn the beginning relationships are fun, exciting, and healthy, and they make you feel good. The fun things you did initially in a new relationship after a while can be taken for granted or simply fall by the wayside and you stop creating the fun and joy.

What you take for granted disappears! Relationships flounder when partners take each other for granted. Taking someone for granted, breeds disrespect, resentment and becomes a wedge between two lovers. Then comes the drifting apart you once feared.

Falling in love is easy. For some, it’s the relationship that is hard. It doesn’t have to be that way if you remember the that relationships are something that must be worked on all the time, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed. Having a good relationship requires effort. I have never heard of a relationship that hasn’t had a few bumps in the road. If your relationship is faltering – especially in the fun department – you would be wise to take some immediate action to fix it. If you want to reclaim that sense of wonder, adventure and trust, call a relationship coach.

What happens when your relationship isn’t “fun” anymore? I’m sure you would like an honest answer to that question so here goes: it is often the beginning of the end. Boring can set in. It is often that way because couples haven’t intentionally figured out what would be something fun to do. You want to avoid becoming bored at all costs. You can avoid boredom by intentionally planning some new fun things do do together. If you’re not able to chill and have fun with your partner, perhaps it may be time to start looking deeper into the relationship and question whether there is something bigger going on.

“Not only do our thoughts and feelings affect the way we act, but the way we act affects our thoughts and feelings.” ~ William James

My experience as a relationship coach has shown that time and time again, is that couples – for a multitude of reasons – have stopped having fun together. If you stop having fun together, you will eventually stop wanting to be together. Healthy love relationships should be fun for both partners.

beachfrolicBeing in a committed relationship shouldn’t mean that you forget about having fun. Relationships should be fun not hard work. Collaborate to have a healthy ratio of fun to go with all the other responsibilities of a healthy relationship.

Want a healthy love relationship? Prioritize fun! Put it high on your list. Play together. Be a kid again. Frolic together. Romantic adventures can be something that help us grow closer together. Just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean that you stop playing. Spontaneity for adventures together or just cuddling and lightening up can be fun for couples.

Go back to the beginning of your relationship and make some new promises about beginning again and this time… keep your promises about having fun together. Fun is one of the key ingredients to making and maintaining great, long-lasting relationships.

Sometime soon, sit down with your partner and ask, “What can we do for fun?” Each of you should make a list of 15 or more things that you might consider to add some fun to your relationship. Next, go about adding some of these fun things to your romantic repertoire. If something on your partner’s list is something you never would have tried before, the rule is: don’t complain, just do it and have fun together. When you get to the end of the list, make a new list of things to do that are genuinely fun. Resist the temptation to fill your fun time with conversation about work, bills, or to-do lists. Use the time wisely. Use it to enjoy your partner.

There is always a need for spontaneity, fun, and enjoyment in a relationship. It’s up to you to make it happen.

Schedule a time for fun. You may have to “make time” for fun. Fun brings enjoyment to the relationship. All good relationships have some element of fun. Fun enhances and strengthens your relationships. Have at least one night each week for a date night. Let nothing prevent your weekly get together. If you have children, loan them to a trusted friend for the night. Mark this date on your calendar and protect that time slot. This commitment demands an honest and purposeful decision to have fun together on a specific day. Make having fun a priority. The depth of meaning, understanding and appreciation that follows is worth it.

Laughter is also good for creating a positive mood for fun. Maintaining a sense of humor helps too!

Let the fun begin!

BONUS Articles: Kidding Around With Romance
Need Some Romantic Ideas?
Get Your Flirt On!
The ABC’s of Celebrating Love
The Essence of Romance

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Add Larry James as a “friend” to your Facebook page: http://www.Facebook.com/larry.james
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