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Monday, November 20, 2017

Why Do Happy People Cheat?

Filed under: affairs,Cheating — Larry James @ 10:30 am
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Rebuilding a relationship after trust has been shattered, begins with understanding why the affair happened. Most people would say, “Surely, there was something wrong in the relationship. Something must have been broken.”

If only it was that simple.

An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood.

• What are we to make of this time-honored taboo — universally forbidden yet universally practiced?
•Why do people cheat — even those in happy marriages?
*Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean?
*Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal?
*Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage?
*Is it possible to love more than one person at once?
*Can an affair ever help a marriage?

Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book.

It’s easy to blame it on the partners in the relationship – the betrayed wasn’t fulfilling the needs of their spouse, or the betrayer was just selfish and narcissistic. While sometimes that is the case, sometimes it’s not.

There are people who care about their spouse or partner, have a good relationship, and also have an affair. Esther Perel, psychotherapist and best-selling author, explores this reality in her new book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.

As a preview of the book, read Esther’s article in The Atlantic, “Why Happy People Cheat.”

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