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Monday, April 24, 2017

Touchy, Feely is a Good Thing!

Filed under: holding hands,Relationships,Romance — Larry James @ 10:00 am
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There’s a reason you reach for your child’s hand in scary moments or interlace fingers with your partner when you’re feeling flirty.

The simple palm-to-palm actions triggers a whole cascade of biological changes! Blood pressure and heart rates drop, which helps calm you, while oxytocin – the cuddle or bonding hormone – is released, says Matthew Hertenstein, Ph.D., director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University in Greencastle, IN.

Reaching for your partner’s hand is a big deal. Taking someone’s hand is a sign of wanting to be close to your partner in a nonsexual way. This simple touch conveys an intimacy that is one of the first steps towards forming an intimate relationship.

Remember that horrible scene in the last horror movie you saw that made you want to jump out of your chair? Luckily, your darling was with you to hold your hand and make you feel safe. The human brain responds to sudden stimulation using adrenaline; this stimulation gets our blood pumping and releases high levels of cortisol throughout our body. During these moments, our natural reaction is to hold hands with someone we trust.

Holding hands releases feelings that improve your health, reduce stress, and you can do it anywhere. Holding hands in public is the best (and least nauseating) way of letting people know that you’re proud of the person you’re with. Plus, it doesn’t matter if you get caught!

Do you enjoy the comforting sensation of holding hands? Been too long for you to remember? Perhaps it’s time that you take your partner’s hands and just hold them for a moment or two to see how that feels.

Touchy, feely is a good thing!

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