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Monday, August 3, 2015


I was taking some personal alone time recently – just sitting there – and noticed that I was suddenly aware that I was thinking. I know that may sound strange, because when we are not speaking, we are thinking.

SIDEBAR: Some of us need to be sure to “think” before we speak.

REL-THINKThe point is: I noticed that I was thinking and what I was thinking about, etc.

Thoughts began to bump into each other as they seemed to be clamoring to be the main thought I was thinking. I began to play with my thoughts. Ever do that?

Me neither.

I’d purposely let a thought be first, then suddenly decide to be distracted by another random thought. On purpose, not allowing the previous thought to interrupt my thinking. This was kind of fun. I began to think that I was in control of my thoughts. That’s good to know. And then my train of thought was totally dis-tracted (get it?) as another thought came to me. How weird. That’s what I thought… how weird. Then, I began to think about that, and so on, and so on.

We all think… and, how often do you think about what you are thinking? Have you considered that some of those clamoring thoughts might be the ones that are keeping you from being the best you can be? On guard! Don’t let those thoughts be thought about. We all have good thoughts and some not-so-good thoughts.

The exciting thought for me is that you can learn which thoughts to let jump out in front and which ones to store in the attic of your mind, or better yet, choose to put them totally out of your thinking space and promise yourself to never think about them again. If they pop up again, you remember your promise and change your thinking to something good. To do that you must consciously examine your thoughts, not just when you think about it, do it all the time. Be aware of where your thoughts lead you and know that you alone are responsible for what you think. Sound simple? Not so fast.

Stop. Please re-read the above two paragraphs, beginning with, “We all think…” It’s important that you do this. I’ll wait. (Pause)

Now, let it soak in. You are in control. What do you think about that?

No more excuses!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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