A lot of the problems that couples have can be fixed when both people work on changing the things that they focus on in their partner. Rather than focusing on what your partner does that annoys you, remind yourself of the things that you enjoy about him or her and let them know. So many people look for negatives even when surrounded by positives.
It is highly important that you focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong. This virtually eliminates nitpicking, nagging or criticizing. If something’s bothering you, it’s time to take a break and talk about it in the most loving way you can.
Begin and end each day with your partner hearing those three little words from you, “I love you!” And give each other a long, warm hug when you arrive home in the evening, and find time each day to share something positive that has happened to you. It’s the little things that make partners feel happy to be together.
“If there is one key to happiness in love and life and possibly even success it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, ‘Just Listen’ and be more interested than interesting, more fascinated than fascinating and more adoring than adorable.” ~ Mark Goulston, M.D.
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something as well. It all depends on what you want to look for. Learn to respond constructively to your partner’s positive declarations. Look for opportunities to express your interest, support and enthusiasm.
Always look for the good in your partner. Catch ’em doing something right, demonstrate your appreciation and you’ll both appreciate each other much more. Remember, you create a loving environment when you actively look for ways to make each other happy followed with an acknowledgement. Look for opportunities to thank your partner for the thoughtful and loving things they do to make you smile. This tactic can boost the love you have for one another and will help to strengthen the connection you have.
Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s relationship seminars and books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
Click for Archives! ~ Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com
NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.
Add Larry James as a “friend” to your Facebook page: http://www.Facebook.com/larry.james
Follow Larry’s Tweets at: http://www.Twitter.com/larryjames
Follow Larry’s “Wedding BLOG” at: http://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com
Follow Larry’s “Networking BLOG” at: http://NetworkingHQ.wordpress.com
Visit Larry’s Relationship Pin Board on Pintrest @ http://www.pinterest.com/larryjames2012/relationships-blog/