If you want someone to love you, you must love yourself first, only then will you be able to be lovable!
Love is expressed as an action and experienced as a feeling. Give love freely and unconditionally. Work on giving as much as you take. True giving is when you give without expectation. When you give love freely, all that you give out comes back to you. It might not come back in the way you expect it, but you will truly feel it in your heart. When you reach out to those that you love without a thought of the outcome or an attachment to the consequences, then you will know that you are doing the best thing for everyone concerned.
The secret to feeling loved by someone else is loving yourself. As the love within you grows, so does the love you feel from others. Loving yourself is a process. It’s not like you do it once, check it off the list and you’re good to go. It’s a lifestyle that you adopt and commit to forever. When you love yourself first, then everything else will fall into place.
“If you have problems loving yourself, then work hard to build yourself up. Work on your self confidence by accepting your past and moving forward. You may feel that things you did in the past will make you unlovable, or that you have too many problems to be lovable. Untrue. Accept the things that happened to you, forgive yourself, and move on.” ~ WikiHow
Spend time with your loved ones. There’s nothing that can put things in perspective and distract you from worrying about work like spending quality time with friends and family. Dedicate time to the people you love in order to live a balanced life.
We waste so much time looking for the perfect lover. Instead we should take all the time necessary to create a perfect love for ourselves within ourselves.
So… If you really want to be in a relationship, first, you must work on you to prepare yourself for a relationship. Love yourself as much as you want to be loved. Spend some time being okay with being single. Live alone for a while. Just work on you. When it “feels” right, put yourself in a position to meet lots of people. Don’t zero in on any one person right away. Take your time. Love yourself from the inside out. Don’t force love and don’t try to speed it up. The people you attract are the reflection of who you are. Be careful not to make the same mistakes you have made in the past. Allow yourself to “be” yourself. Let yourself be vulnerable with others. Be a good friend. Remember: “Friends, first!” It has been my experience that when you can be alone and not be lonely, love will usually find you when you least expect it.
“Looking for love is hell. The way out of hell is not to seek for love but to see how you are blocking love. You begin by examining what is causing you to seek for love in the first place. First, you must cast off all the loveless images of yourself that you have made. Looking for love, in its truest sense, isn’t about finding someone else; it’s about finding yourself again.” ~ Robert Holden, PhD., author of “Loveability: Knowing How to Love and Be Loved“
All the happiness, health, and abundance you experience in life comes from your ability to love and be loved. One day, every society on our planet will honor and celebrate the importance of love. Take some time now and check in with your heart. Do your part. Make a choice to Love… BE Love… Be Loveable & Be Loved!
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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
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