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Friday, May 15, 2015

Don’t Let Fear Shut You Down… Use it to Wake You Up!

Filed under: Fear,Intuition,Love,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am

It is only and always fear talking when we hear a voice telling us not to get our hopes up because we will only be disappointed.

Relationships can drown in negative emotions. It kills more dreams than failure ever will.

REL-FearWakeUPFeelings of fear are created in our own mind. The moment fear appears; you give up your power. When fear presents itself, it’s time to pay attention. It’s time to wake up.

Feeling fearful is only an expression of a lack of love working in our relationship. Fear only surfaces when we call it up by temporarily letting go of Love.

Fear can be awesome if you can embrace it and not let it throw you for a loop or shut you down completely. It’s the fear of fear itself that we tend to dwell on and in doing so it corals our thinking and makes it difficult to break out. Fear immobilizes us. It freezes us in our tracks.

Fear is a powerful thing. And we make it up! Fear doesn’t come from out there. It comes from us… from within. Sometimes we would rather make up something that keeps fear in place than to boldly step forward, with the first step firmly smashing our fear.

Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be lived and learned. Walk the path that makes you feel alive. Everything you long for is on the other side of fear. Running from fear is a race you’ll never win. In fact, what you’re afraid of dealing with is what will set you free.

Write the following on an index card, or Post Its, put it in your reminders on your smartphone so you see it and say it “aloud” every time fear shows its ugly head: “I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me!”

The self-illumination that occurs when connecting with our true inner-Self, liberates us or disconnects us from the fear that keeps us in the shadows; it flips the switch that turns on the lights! The promise of self-discovery is liberation. It always delivers on its promise.

Keep this in mind: forgiveness is the key to happiness. It dissolves fear. The absence of fear allows you to truly experience Love’s presence – for yourself and others. Fear cannot exist in the presence of Love. Putting the decision off to let go of fear only comes from fear.

There is only one way to step on your fear. Just step on it! You have to lift your foot and step on it! You have to do something… while you are still afraid.

The only thing certain about fear is that it will always compromise you. When it comes to who you really are, there is no compromise.

You’ll be safe if you follow your intuition. It’s always right. Listen to it. Trust your heart to know what it wants that which is best for you. The heart never lies. Fear is the liar! Desires of the heart are important because they indicate the urging from the spirit of God that is attempting to move you forward.

When your heart speaks, you know it’s not you speaking. You normally don’t talk like that. The heart speaks only possibilities. The mind often goes back and forth. That part of you – your heart – that speaks like you don’t, could be called many things. One possibility is: you could call it God.

When you do the thing you fear to do the most, the death of fear is certain.

Be fearless.

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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