Guy Finley, Guest Author
Key Lesson: Uncertainty is unwanted because it feels so unpleasant each time it appears in our lives. But, can we be awake enough to see its positively bright side? For as surely as darkness must come before the break of a new day, so it’s true: before the new light of higher understanding can have its gentle dawn in us — we must see that we have come to the end of what we know.
Giving Yourself Up Is Lifting Yourself Up
The gradual realization that you need never again try to find yourself in your thoughts about yourself is like one day happily realizing that hitting yourself over the head was the cause and not the cure for your daily headaches. To your grateful amazement, you discover that the inner-pounding you so wished would go away finally came to a stop when you stopped pounding.
This startling realization brings you to a crucial moment in your quest for self-newness. And you must be resolute. As you begin to suspend your habitual involvement with yourself — which you know you must do in order to let something new happen — you begin to notice an altogether different kind of disturbing feeling starting to rise up within you.
You would never have believed it, but there it is right in front of your inner-eyes. You are actually beginning to worry about what is going to happen to you without your worry. Nothing doing! You instantly catch and drop this fake feeling along with the rest of the inner-impostors. They want you to believe that there might not be life without suffering. And yet, even with all of this clear to your inner-eyes, you are still tempted for a moment to drop your inner-vigilance. Anything seems better than this increasing self-uncertainty. Don’t mistake these feelings of fear for friends. Listen instead to what the Truth is trying to tell you.
Have no concern whatsoever over where these feelings of unknowing will lead you. The seemingly intelligent self-concern over your rising feelings of vulnerability is nothing but another false identity. Suspend it as well. Deny its re-entrance into your life. This total suspension of self allows the present moment to flood in unfiltered and uncolored. Something genuinely new is happening and you know it. This newness is your true home. Within it you are safe and out of the reach and grip of familiar but fierce self-creating thoughts and feelings. Persist with this higher kind of self-suspension for as long as it takes until slowly, but surely, you feel the weighted drag of your habitual self less and less.
As you grow lighter in spirit, you will see that this Newness you have fought for is who you really are. Here lies your True Nature. It was there all along — like the strong, unshakable shelter of a deep mountainside cave that you were at first afraid to enter when caught off guard by a fierce storm. To your everlasting delight, you find within this special kind of newness true refuge. In its strength yours is renewed. All is well. The storms can no longer reach you.
Here is a special exercise that can help you to start letting go of yourself. Every time you catch yourself just about to take a swim in the old habitual river of thoughts and feelings, practice self-suspension. Here’s how. Don’t let the current of the past dictate the direction of the present moment. Have your own life right now. You are not your thoughts and feelings. Dare to live without each painful identity that calls for you to embrace it and to do its bidding.
Let something new happen each moment by letting these old, habitual sensations go their way unobstructed. Stay out of them. Work at this special self-suspension and inner-alertness until the day you find this newness you once had to struggle to endure is now something you could not endure living without!
This article is excerpted from Guy’s book, The Secret of Letting Go (pages 126-127.).
Copyright © 2014 – Guy Finley. Guy Finley is the acclaimed author of “The Secret of Letting Go” and more than 35 other books and audio programs that have sold over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. Guy Finley’s encouraging and accessible message is one of the true bright lights in our world today. His ideas cut straight to the heart of our most important personal and social issues — relationships, success, addiction, stress, peace, happiness, freedom — and lead the way to a higher life. Visit Guy’s Website at: http://www.GuyFinley.com. Want more “Key Lessons?” Click here!
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