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Sunday, September 22, 2013

Baseball Players = Team

Filed under: Commitment,Communication,Relationships — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Do baseball players play for the money? No. I don’t think so. They Love the sport and the money comes from doing what they love to do.

Not only do they love the sport, as a team they love each other. That was obvious to me when I listened to a player talk about his teammate, Paul Goldschmidt of the Arizona Diamondbacks after he hit a recent walk-off home run to win the game. They have great relationships with everyone on the team as well as coaches, managers, etc.

silentsignalsI appreciate baseball players because their specific intention is to always get better. Those are the kind of people we should all hang around with. They know that they cannot win every game but that never stops them. They have each other to assist them out of a slump. They know they are getting better if they win more this year than they did last year. Life is too short to stagnate with our crazy (and I mean, crazy) friends.

Team communication is consistently named as a key skill for success. Baseball players have many kinds of ways to communicate most of which are only signals from the catcher, base coaches, team manager, etc.

“Anyone who watches a sport’s franchise realizes that it takes time to build a dynasty. Work begins slowly with the fundamentals and builds one strength upon another. With team effort marriage can yield high levels of comfort, support and satisfaction.” ~ Mark Hirschmann, PhD

I say all that to say this: When you love someone, you are part of their support system. You send signals many of which are silent. You stop communicating. You become angry – sometimes over the silliest things. When you and your partner come together in your relationship a team is exactly what you are. If we would look at our relationships in the same way… WoW! Do you think that might make it all better? You bet! Relationship is the highest level of collaboration. So… what’s stopping you from making a few changes, behavioral and otherwise.

PlayTogether“Most people have either been on a team or watched a movie about a team and understand what is needed to make a team successful. The “one for all and all for one”, mentality that works in helping a team become successful, helps in making a relationship successful.” ~ Cathy Goulet

Skills: Keep learning new ways to relate. Keep growing together by doing whatever it takes to make your relationship one that you are proud to be in.

Strategy: Read good relationship books. Read relationship articles online. Put to use what you read.

Comradery: Comradery is the spirit of friendship and team, like the comradery of baseball players who keep each other upbeat despite the difficulty of their circumstances. Comradery is a feeling of trust, a bond created by a shared goal or experience. That’s what someone who is on a team (in a relationship) does!

Implementation: Never be afraid to step into the unknown and do something different. Be the initiator. Trust is the solid foundation of a healthy love relationship. Encourage togetherness. Work together toward your mutually beneficial goals.

“He that won’t be counseled can’t be helped.” – Benjamin Franklin

If you need assistance, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Daring to commit to relationship coaching is better than trying to hold on to a relationship that is falling apart.

Problems that seem insurmountable appear smaller when you are working together with the one you love. Always remember, marriage is a team effort. Just beginning to think of your relationship as a team supports a whole new type of relationship health and growth. It’s a good couples team that works closely and very well “together.” Open and honest communication makes for the best relationships because it lead to trust and faith in one another, however, it’s important to remember that at the end of the day it’s not what you say or what you do, but how you cause your partner to feel that matters the most.

A relationship is a team sport! Be a team… together!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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