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Friday, August 9, 2013

A Total Eclipse of the Heart…

Filed under: Relationships,Video,Vulnerability — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Adjective. Exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally: “we were in a vulnerable position”. (of a partnership or relationship)

vulnerabilityTo me, “a total eclipse of the heart” could mean that you are not willing to allow your partner to see who you really are; to become vulnerable; to come alive to your own authentic self. Perhaps it would mean that you are not yet to the point where you feel you can be completely open to receive the love your partner has to give.

Are you willing to really open up YOUR heart? To be seen by your partner; your heart open and exposed? The courage to be vulnerable begins with showing up and letting ourselves truly be seen.

“…and that visibility which makes us most vulnerable is that which also is the source of our greatest strength.” ~ Audre Lorde

We must all learn to embrace vulnerability. It’s important to truly be connected to your partner. Be who you really are for your partner. Never try to be someone you aren’t. Be real. Open up a bit more than usual to the one you love. The way to move past your vulnerability is to embrace it. Yeah, I know. Vulnerability is scary and it’s also a powerful and authentic way to live in your relationship.

“What makes you vulernable makes you beautiful.” ~ Brené Brown

One of my favorite TED talks is by Brené Brown on the “Power of Vulnerability.” The premise is that connection is why we’re here, and in order for genuine connection to happen in our relationships, we have to allow ourselves to be seen; to be vulnerable. Please take 20:20 minutes to watch this video.

Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share with your friends and to think about.

BONUS Article: 3 Myths About Vulnerability
Vulnerability: The Secret To Intimacy

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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