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Monday, February 18, 2013

Another Idea to Defuse a Fight

Filed under: Arguments — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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When you get into arguments having good communication already established is the most effective way to end the argument. If you find that you’re having a difficult time talking about the subject with your partner face-to-face, try doing it another way.

shoutingSome couples have a very hard time with verbal disagreements because they turn into heated fights very quickly. If this is your situation, try sending e-mail to each other. When you write an e-mail you are able to compose things to say exactly what you want to say to your partner, without rehashing things that should be left in the past. Remember to always “re-read” the things that you have written a few times before hitting the send button. Be certain what you have written is exactly what you want to say.

Do not type in all CAPS! All CAPS indicates shouting on the Internet. Sending a well-written e-mail can sometime defuse the anger and allow the conversation to begin again in a more healthy way. It can open up the lines of communication and can give you both time to cool down before you meet for that face-to-face discussion, and for the best part of any argument: the makeup portion.

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  1. Love this idea, Larry. Emailing is a wonderful tool for helping couples stop and really think about what they want to say. It gives them the opportunity to say things in more loving and thoughtful way than they would in the heat of the moment.

    Comment by Lisa Shield — Friday, February 22, 2013 @ 7:49 am | Reply

  2. The great thing about sending an e-mail is that you can save it as a draft and edit it when you feel a little calmer.

    Comment by Rosemary / RomanticMarriage.Org — Thursday, February 21, 2013 @ 10:28 am | Reply

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