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Monday, December 24, 2012

Can You Forgive and Forget?

Filed under: Forgiveness — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Forgive and forget… Easier said than done!

forgive-and-forgetForgive and forget is an impossibility!

Forgive? Yes! You forgive because it sets you free; the first step toward healing. It takes a person with character to forgive. Just because you forgive doesn’t mean what happened was okay. It also doesn’t mean that if your partner betrayed you that you must remain together.

Forget? No! You will remember. When you remember, you must also remember that you have already forgiven. In time the memory of what happened will fade provided that you have genuinely forgiven.

“Forgiving changes the perspectives. Forgetting looses the lesson.” ~ Paulo Coelho

defineFORGIVEHow do you forget if someone hurt you? You must put it behind you and not go back to it or go through it over and over again. It is a wise person who forgives even when the other party is not sorry.

Trust is a fragile issue. A breach of trust is never forgotten. Keep your word. Be careful of the words you speak in your relationship. They cannot be taken back. Each word will be burned into the memory of your love partner.

Speak only words of love. Words can come back to haunt you or they can become the way two lovers express sensitivity, warmth, understanding, acceptance and Love.

BONUS Article: Forgive and Forget??? You’re Kidding, Right?
Forgiveness… What’s it For?

woundedHeartCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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