I said, “power” couple, not powerful couple! There is a difference. Powerful couples would be Melinda and Bill Gates, Superman and Wonder Woman or Hillary and Bill Clinton.
To me a power couple are people who are willing to totally put aside their differences and have a commitment to do “whatever it takes” to make their relationship something they can both be excited to be in. Here are a few ideas – a short list – that you can plug into your relationship to help you move toward being a power couple. Here is what power couples do:
• They create a safe place to talk about difficult things.
• They are aware of and respect the “needs” of their partner.
• They consistently do things together that helps revitalize their relationship.
• They look for creative ways to express love to each other.
• In difficult times they take “time outs” to think before they come together again to find mutually agreeable solutions. They bite their tongues rather than say something they will regret later. They resist raising their voices and see no need to be harsh with one another.
• They innovate to be prepared for what comes next.
* They walk hand-in-hand and often kiss in public.
• They keep romance alive by sending love notes and romantic greeting cards for no reason other than they love each other.
• They help each other with household chores and often volunteer to do things for their partner they know their partner doesn’t like to do.
• They make time for a date night at least once each week and take turns planning something romantic.
• Before they take on the morning, they take a few moments to express love, kiss goodbye and wish each other a productive day.
• They practice random acts of romance.
• They study relationships by sharing great relationship books and attend relationship seminars together. They hire a relationship coach when things get sideways.
• They make love often, sometimes when one partner would rather not. Their creativity in the bedroom relights the fire each time they come together.
• They muster courage to talk about things that matter that they know might ruffle some feathers and do it in a loving way.
• They fight fair and avoid total blowouts.
• They redefine their relationship to keep it fresh and exciting, knowing that any change can be positive if you find the tools and skills you need. They know that it takes two!
• They talk “nice” to each other and never talk down to each other of call each other names! NEVER!
• They avoid the fatality of inaction and agree to do what needs to be done when it needs to be done.
The real romance exists in making each other better human beings for each other. They also know that there is power in working together in every way. It’s no coincidence that these people find solace in one another. It takes lot of love to be a power couple. You must be committed to each other. You both must have the determination to be together no matter what. You each have to be willing to give up being right and work together with the thought that you are better together as a couple than you would be alone. They each enhance the happiness of the other.
They share a long-term vision of the future, shared dreams, and plans that represent a commitment to one another They are not only great lovers… they are each others best friend!
Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
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