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Friday, July 13, 2012

BE Happy and Feel Good (about yourself)!

Filed under: Choice,Personal Growth — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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How do you BE happy? I believe that it helps to make happiness a top priority in your life. A decision to pursue happiness keeps you focused. It’s a mindful choice – a choice you make on purpose. You DO have the power to choose. Don’t let it’s potential go unrealized.

BEhappyIt’s easy to be happy when everything seems to be going your way, but in that moment when things begin to go in the opposite direction most of us tend to drift the way the event leads us. In that moment, is happiness really still a choice? Of course it is. Our greatest power is choice. It’s not always easy but changing your mind about how you feel really is a possibility.

Happiness is seldom ever an accident. While there may be unexpected things that happen that cause you to choose happiness, always remember that no one can make you unhappy unless you let them. You always have the choice to be happy.

Some people have become so bogged down with the unhappiness of their choosing that they rarely can see how their life can change. I realize that if you’re broke and living on the street that choosing happiness can be a challenge – to say the least. They often blame others for their unhappiness. That will never bring on the happiness they wish they had.

BEhappyWhat it you could Love yourself enough to create a life you will love living? I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you can, provided you believe you can and make a serious decision to pursue happiness. The bad news is that rarely few people can reach the true happiness they desire if they have a low self-image and have not learned to truly love themselves.

Love is the answer. Love for yourself is a better answer. It’s easy to love yourself if you love what you do.

Roger Fransecky, Founder/CEO, The Apogee Group, suggests you ask yourself, “What brings vitality to my life? When do I feel most alive? What is my proudest achievement? What is my greatest gift? My legacy? For what are you most grateful? These questions invite you to ponder the symphony of your experience, the missed notes, the flourishes and the coda. I don’t deny that life can be rough, that you can (and will) experience mistakes, excesses, lies and lessons, and on occasional loss, grief and sadness.”

Mistakes, at least, indicate that you are making an effort!

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Breaking out of a miserable funk to get to happiness is seldom easy however, believe me, it is possible. We get so deep in the funk that we forget how to be happy. Regardless of how bad something may seem, it’s always possible to embrace it with a positive outlook. The first step is to count your blessings. What do you have to be thankful for? Make a list. At least making a list will get your mind off your troubles and headed in the right directions.

Stuff happens, however you made the conscious choice to focus on the bad parts – you made the choice to be miserable. Wanna be happy? Time to make some new choices. How fast you bounce back makes all the difference in the world.

“We create our own reality and existence. If we say we’re miserable and focus on the bad then, we’re miserable. Conversely, if we focus on the good in our life and proclaim joy then, we become that too.” ~ Nathan Hale Williams

Every hear of Nick Vujicic? Think you’ve got it bad? If this doesn’t, boost your perspective about happiness to an entirely different level, you are probably dead and they haven’t buried you yet. 😉

Nick makes it painfully obvious that we really do have control of our happiness regardless of the adversity in our lives.

Happiness IS a choice! Making that choice helps you feel better about yourself.

How long has it been since you chose what you wanted to feel?

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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