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Monday, July 9, 2012

Count Your Change

Filed under: Change — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Relationships never move in straight lines. They wander. And create opportunities you’d never expect. Evaluate your progress. Embrace change. Do not resist it. The secret to embracing change is focusing on what you CAN do. The word can’t does not exist in change. ChANge!

happyoldercoupleThe smallest pebble in your shoe will irritate you until you do something about it. Be excited about the changes that occur in your relationship. Learn from them.

If you think you do not have a choice in managing change, think again. The choices you have made in the past have caused the change that brought you to this moment in time.

embracechange“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” ~ Mary Engelbreit

Do your relationship differently. Your partner may take a while to notice and perhaps even longer to respond. Be patient. Notice small steps in the right direction. Praise improvement. It gives rise to inspiration and encourages them to continue.

Life (and your relationship) is not a snapshot! It’s a moving picture. Notice what changes you are experiencing. Share them with your partner.

Often a change in attitude toward your partner will bring about an attitude of change from your partner. Some partners only change when they feel the heat. Others, when they see the light. The latter is preferable.

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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