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Sunday, April 8, 2012

Date Night – No Less Than Once Each Week – No Excuses!

Filed under: Date Night,Dating,Romance — Larry James @ 8:00 am

Is there anything greater than date night with someone you love? Date night is such an exciting event and something to truly look forward to. Renew your taste for adventure! When jobs, kids, activities, housework and all the pressures of life compete for time and energy, when do couples actually have time to date each other? The ones who really love each other know that they must “make” time for date nights. Never be too busy to date each other.

Never put your partner at the end of your “to do” list. They belong at the top.

theChildrenThe most important part of date night is the time to relax and reconnect – to take a “time out” for yourself and your relationship. Put all the stuff of the relationship aside for that night. Try really hard not to talk about the kids, work, etc., just you as a couple. This is in bad form on date night.

Marital bliss is not something that just magically happens after you say, “I do.” It’s a relationship where both parties need to communicate about what’s going on in your life. There is a line in my “romantic” wedding ceremony that says, “Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place.”

Perhaps it would be wise for you both to work on a list of things you like to do with each other or things you haven’t yet done with each other. Next, take turns planning at least one date night each week. If you have children, never use them as an excuse not to be together. Hire a sitter or make a deal with a close friend to take turns watching each others children on your date nights. Have a trusted friend watch them at their house and enjoy a night in your own home without the kids.

Kimberly Linton says: “My view is that date night can have tremendous health benefits we all can agree on:”

• Improves a healthy sex life
• Reduces stress – reduced blood pressure
• People live longer in good satisfying relationships
• Improves mood and decreases depression
• Keeps couples feeling young and vibrant

Date nights can vary from dinner, movies, hiking, long walks, free concerts in the park, or just laying in our hammock. It’s so exciting planning and getting ready for the date and knowing it’s really all about making each other feel good. It’s great to have something to look forward to do together.

feet-in-tub-mdThe options for a date night are endless. Here are a few Hot Date Night ideas:

Don’t go to a kid-friendly restaurant is the first rule of date night.

Although drive-in movies are pretty much disappearing. . . if you have one near you, perhaps a drive-in make-out session might be in order.

Your ROI (return on investment) in your relationship will manifest itself in ways you cannot imagine when you make a promise to your partner to create a once-a-week, “date night!” AND, keep your word. Let nothing prevent your weekly get together.

Be romantic. Cuddle. Flirt. Express your love aloud. Once in awhile pretend it’s your very first date. Rent a “romantic” movie and snuggle while you watch it together. Spending time together strengthens your bond. Building a successful relationship is a never ending process. Date night will relight the fire and keep it burning red hot. What is important is that you actually “plan” ahead to have a weekly date night. No excuses.

“Boredom is a leading of cause of divorce. Regular date nights keep the boredom at bay and are the antidote to the mind-numbing fatigue that comes with everyday life. They keep the flame of attraction burning bright and give you a toehold out of the delivery-pizza-and-Netflix rut that too many couples slip into.” ~ Shela Camenisch Dean

If you don’t plan date nights, you’re making a BIG mistake. Your relationship is a thing that must be nourished. Take the one you love away for a few hours and really listen to each other. It’s really okay to hold hands and make gaga eyes at each other all night long. The measure of a successful date is usually the good-night kiss.

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datenightCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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