Quality time? What is that?
The “quality” time part means no cell phones, no computers, no TV remotes, no kids, no distractions… it means making your partner the center of your attention!
Make sure to spend some quality time with your partner. Sometimes we get so caught up in the insignificant daily chores that love seems to take a back seat. It’s important to take conscious and consistent action to prevent that from happening. Find at least one weekend a month so the two of you could be together.
Better yet, plan a “date-night” once each week, free from the children – a time when you focus on each other. It can be dress up or not. An extravagant dinner or an hour together at your favorite fast food place. The point is to “plan” to be together.
“Don’t put so much effort into raising your kids that you neglect your relationship with your spouse. Raising kids is the most important thing you will ever do in your life and you owe them your best, but there will come a time when the kids will be grown and will hopefully go away and you will be left looking at the person you are married to. Make sure that person hasn’t become a stranger.” ~ Larry Winget
Spontaneity comes after you make the plan to be together. In other words, don’t do the same things all the time – that can get boring really fast. Be creative. Take one evening each month to come up with some ideas that appeal to both of you. Have fun. Revive the chemistry you had in the beginning. Make sure you are on the same wavelength.
Make an effort to be playful. Playfulness means that you are fun to be with, consequently triggering feelings of attraction to each other. Whispering sweet “somethings” in her ear. Find something special to pass along as a compliment. Enjoy the time that you are together. Hold hands. Make the time that you are together memorable. Laugh. Laughter can break down many barriers, ease the tension and reduce a lot of the stress of living with each other.
Guys: Give her the TV remote for a week!
Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
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