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Friday, October 7, 2011

Put the “Fun” in Relationship Fundamentals!

Filed under: Having FUN,Lighten Up — Larry James @ 8:00 am

Most everyone knows the fundamentals of successful relationships. Yet sometimes we forget the most basic “to dos.” A healthy love relationship must be based on the belief that both partners are equal, that the power and control in the relationship are equally shared. Some of the characteristics of a healthy relationship include:

CoupleLove, kindness, respect, devotion, change, gratitude, listening, mindfulness, affection, interaction, boundaries, integrity, trust, support, encouragement, shared responsibility, sexual intimacy, laugh together, accountability, effective communication, friendship, a sense of humor, a shared vision of your relationship, shared decision making, etc. These are great relationship builders. They draw you closer to each other.

As you focus on getting better together. . . remember not to be so serious. Ease up a bit. Relax, take a deep breath and be silly with one another. Gave a giggle or two. Life is too short to be serious.

Happy couple embracing and laughingBe spontaneous. Lighten up and have some fun. Loosen up. Be funny and flirty. Smile! Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere. Look at your relationship with fresh eyes. Be each others best friend.

The simple response of laughing will increase your well-being, decrease stress, and can actually increase your natural life. A lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind isn’t filled to the brim with negative emotions. When you are more light-hearted and relaxed then the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement. Have a look at “Let There Be Light” for more on this topic.

“No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.” ~ Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby

Embrace love! Follow some of these ideas and you will be amazed how the dynamic of your relationship will change for the better. Being happy and having fun in a relationship can take some work, but if you’re in it for the long haul, the results are well worth it.

BFFCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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