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Friday, September 9, 2011

I Will Not Ask Others to Become Different for Me!

Filed under: Affirmation,Change,Romantic Tips! — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Say it aloud again. . . “I Will Not Ask Others to Become Different for Me!”

This is a great affirmation to repeat if you are having issues with a partner who will not change. Difficult situation? Yes! Impossible? No!

Change begins with you.

bethechangeLet your Vibrational Escrow percolate, and you do your best to give it your undivided attention so that you become a Vibrational Match to it. And then, when the Law of Attraction brings all of it together and brings you, because you’re a match, together with it – then there aren’t any bugs to work out. Don’t ask the person, or people, that helped you to define what you want to become what you want so that you can have what you want. (Oh, that was so good.) Instead, let them be the Step One part of it (the asking part). Use your willpower and your decision to focus upon what you want – and then the Universe will bring you what you want. ~ Abraham

Please stop. Go back and read the above quote by Abraham again. Let it sink in this time!

In other words, when YOU change, it will have an affect on others around you. Change is always possible in our relationship because it is only and always a choice. Taking responsibility for our choices leads to a profound sense of freedom and inner peace.

What you resist, persists. The more you hold on to being right about your position, the more you get to grapple with your own inner thoughts about doing what’s right vs. doing what’s wrong. It’s an energy drain.

When you finally understand that it is “not” unfashionable to negotiate situations rather than standing firm and allowing the past to rule your present, relationships become relationships you can live with.

couple-happyWhat you think about and speak about, you bring about. Want more of the problem? Keep thinking about it instead of seeking mutually beneficial solutions to it and refuse to change “YOUR” behavior. Rather than looking outside for the source of your problems, look inside for the source of your solutions.

Obviously if you have a partner who is willing to work with you to get your relationship back on track. . . that’s ideal. But what do you do when your partner doesn’t acknowledge that there is a problem?

You must decide to focus your attention on working on you; getting back in touch with who you are. With a major behavior and attitude adjustment, you will begin to feel better about yourself and stop blaming your partner for the problem.

Remember, changing how you feel about your relationship, begins with changing how you think about it!

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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