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Thursday, August 4, 2011

Stay Engaged!

Filed under: Communication,Relationships,Romantic Tips! — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Stay fully engaged in your relationship with yourself! You must take care of you FIRST!

Stay fully engaged in a conscious way in your relationship! Seek to have a secure attachment or emotional connection with one another or that of being emotionally present or connected. Ultimately attachment is about feeling confident in your partner’s ability to be “there for you” when you need them. In other words, it’s being committed to the relationship in such a way that being with each other is a safe harbour; a place where you feel supported and can share your most secret desires without the fear of rejection from your partner.

connected“While there will be moments of conflict and disconnect, when you are engaged with each other these moments are easily resolved and working through them can create deeper levels of connection and trust.” ~ Esther Boykin

“When you are engaged in relationship, the truth of your relationship is reflected in your interactions, whether you are conscious of it or not. No matter what words you use and how you choose to communicate consciously, there is an underlying energetic current that gives your words their true meaning.” ~ Lana Pritzker

Stay fully engaged in open and unending conversation with those you say you love! We don’t always treat our partner as we treat our friends. Your partner is supposed to be your “best” friend. Talk. Discuss. Have no undelivered communication. Undelivered communication pretty much speaks for itself. It’s the kind of communication that leaves your partner wondering what is “really” going on. Be committed to talk about anything and everything – that is relevant to your relationship – all the time.

connected2In other words, be involved! The essence of romance is to stay connected. It is important that you evaluate your engagement in your relationship from time to time. Pay attention to it! Evaluate how you express your love to your partner and how often. You have to put effort into a relationship or you will survive – but only as roomies. Staying engaged will help you become more passionate, connected and full of possibility.

BONUS Article: For Men Only – Have No Undelivered Communication!
The Truth About Relationship Expectations

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning, non-denominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will ever find anywhere.

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