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Monday, July 11, 2011

In the Beginning. . . Everything Was Terrific!

Filed under: Communication — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Remember how great it was when the two of you first met?

When you were first together, every moment was pure joy. When you were apart, you couldn’t wait to be together again. Romance was in full bloom. The hormones were dancing. Occasional giddiness surfaced. When you were feeling down, your partner could usually make things better. You were both intoxicated with the attraction you had to each other. You talked and talked about your hopes and dreams, and you actually listened to each other.

You must work everyday to keep your relationship in shape. You cannot stop. Relationships are something that you must bet worked on all the time, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed.

Has the “magic” worn off? If you don’t feel connected anymore; if you feel that your partner no longer truly hears you when you speak or knows how you really feel about the relationship. . . your emotional needs are probably not being met. That’s a danger sign.

bicyclingSTOP! Do something about it NOW. Some people wait until it’s too late. You cannot fix a problem that you cannot acknowledge. Blaming your partner for the problem doesn’t work. Where there are two people with a problem, it’s a shared problem. You both must take responsibility for the problem and promise to work together to do everything you can to get back on track.

It is possible to get back to the “lovey-doveyness” that once existed AND it may take some work. I would caution you to be patient. It took time for you to get to this point and it will also take time to get rid of the resentment, frustration or anger that can built up over time. Talk about your progress or lack of it and continue to work as a team.

Return with us now to those thrilling days of yesteryear! A trip down memory lane couldn’t hurt, right? As long as you are breathing… you can start all over again!

Sit down one evening with your favorite beverage, and with a few candles flickering, talk about the fun you had when you were first together. Make a list of some of the things you used to do and make them happen again.

“Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around. ~ Tom Cruise, from the movie, “Vanilla Sky”

BONUS Article: Remember Fun?

CLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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