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Thursday, July 7, 2011

Best Foot Forward, Please!

Filed under: Communication,Dating,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Putting your best foot forward generally means that you are doing everything you can to make the best impression you can. In some cases is may mean that you are showing a side of you that may or may not be your best but you want everyone to think it is.

put-your-best-foot-forwardWe often do this when we first meet someone. If you are a guy, you show up as Mr. Clean; shoes shined, clean shaven, a dash of cologne and looking sharp. Most people are attracted to someone who is well groomed however, there is more to it than that. What do you communicate from your heart? Do you say what you feel needs to be said in a loving way?

You make good eye contact. This shows you are paying attention. It also suggests someone who is self-confident. Men whose eyes drift are, right or wrong, thought to be uncertain of themselves. To a woman, this is a red flag.

If you want to “get off on the right foot” when meeting someone for the first time, it’s best to be as transparent as possible. Dare to reveal yourself. Become transparent, not invisible. . . transparent. Let your lover see through you to the real you.

Relationships are a bit of a puzzle for most everyone. When you pretend to be someone you are not. . . listen carefully: The glaring differences show up pretty quick unless you both have been true to yourself and have been a glowing demonstration of the real you to each other from the beginning.

A lack of sharing builds a lack of respect. Taking someone for granted, builds disrespect and becomes a wedge between two lovers. What you take for granted. . . disappears! They may stay for awhile, but most eventually move on.

Sharing your true self with someone you love adds a spiritual dimension that is missing in many relationships. Being in touch with who you really are is a spiritual experience. The depth of connection that comes from intimacy, when you openly communicate, comes with bringing on the experience of love, most desired, yet difficult when you are inclined to withhold because of fear.

The depth of connection that comes from genuine intimacy is unimaginable and worth it! I suppose the bottom line is this – be authentic!

Partners need to “put their foot down” and promise each other that they will always be who they really are, not someone who someone thinks they should be.

So. . . when you put your best foot forward, make sure it is connected to the real you!

BONUS Article: Putting Your Best Foot Forward

couple+heartCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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