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Sunday, June 5, 2011

Choice. . . Your Greatest Power!

Filed under: Choice,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Change is always possible in our relationship because it is only and always a choice.

“When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.” ~ William James

We-heart-choiceTaking responsibility for our choices leads to a profound sense of freedom and inner peace. We often cannot see that we have choice. No matter what happens we always have choice.

The hurt we experience sometimes keeps us at a distance from responsible choices. We can move through the pain of a changing relationship much more rapidly when we remember that we are never without choice. Never!

The most difficult part of making a choice is doing it. Some choices are easy. The first and most important choice you can make is to chose to love yourself. Know that you can choose to be yourself and still be accepted.

Most everyone will make a conscious choice to make their partner feel loved, accepted, significant, respected, and a top priority. The choices you make at the beginning of your relationship will affect the way it develops. Always choose to be honest about your feelings for your partner. Express those “feel-good” feelings with your partner often.

choiceWhen a relationship has fallen apart at the seams and there is no hope of a healthy turn-around, making the choice to leave is not always that easy. No one can be certain if you have made some bad choices in relationships until you see its ending.

Relationships last long because two brave people made a choice – to keep it, fight for it, and to work for it. Other relationships fail not because they’re destined to fail. They fail because one of the two, or both, made the choice – to set each other free.

A healthy person will realize that all life is simply a series of choices and our place in our life today is a result of choices we made yesterday. The choices we made yesterday provide the relationship we experience today.

If you make a poor choice and choose not to rectify it, you need to own it. Forgive yourself for past bad choices and begin again by making quality, thoughtful choices.

Imagine finding love, joy, peace, acceptance, happiness and forgiveness. Just imagine! You can have this and so much more!. All you have to do is choose!

Choice is your greatest power! Use it wisely.

BONUS Articles: What to Do? What to Do? Thoughts on the Dilemma of Choice! – Part 1Larry’s NOTE: This is a lengthy, 3-part article. If the title of the article stimulates your thinking in the tiniest way, AND you stop in your busy day long enough to actually read it “all the way through” – then it might be worth it to do so. I find – that in my own experience – it was usually exactly what I needed to know at that moment in time!

Also read: How to Take Your Power Back

ChooseLoveCLoveLOGOCopyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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