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Sunday, April 10, 2011

The BIG “Oops!”

Filed under: "I'm sorry!",Resolving Conflict,Trust — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Saying, “My bad!” or “I’m sorry” over and over again when you make a big “Oops!” is kinda like the story of the little boy who cried, “Wolf.” After a while your partner will get the idea that change is not in the picture.

my-badWhen you make a misstep. . . acknowledge it and promise not to do it again. . . and KEEP YOUR WORD! “I was wrong and I am sorry,” works once or possibly twice. Those seven words will help make your perceptions clearer, your judgments sounder, your relationship and your life work better and you will be closer to your heart’s desire; a healthy love relationship and marriage.

oopsSaying “I’m sorry” over and over for the same mistake doesn’t work! Not making the same mistake again does. It demonstrates your sincerity and respect for your partner and makes a significant contribution to your relationship.

Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right?

Get a grip! Stop saying, “I’m sorry” and do it right the next time.

You can’t take back words in anger, and you can only say I’m sorry a couple of times for the same thing. Then, those words aren’t even a Band-Aid; the apology just plain doesn’t work.” When you are upset or angry because of a “oops,” allow a cooling off period.

Toothpaste once squeezed, cannot be put back into the tube. Feathers scattered in the wind cannot be collected. You cannot un-ring a bell. Hurtful words once spoken, cannot be taken back.

sorryBy the way, saying “I’m sorry” is okay as long as the behavior stops. Again, too many “I’m sorrys” is like crying, “Wolf!”

Speak unto others as you would have them speak unto you. Think twice before you say something that may hurt someone else!

Make an effort to make sure the last words to your partner each morning and each night are loving, positive and encouraging.

Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. There can be no trust without conversation; no genuine intimacy without trust.

One of the secrets to having healthy love relationships is to never be afraid to openly and honestly discuss whatever is relevant to the success of the relationship. Making mistakes is part of having a relationship. Those kind of issues are not to break us, but to make us stronger as a team.

Sometimes saying you are sorry doesn’t always mean you did anything wrong. When your lover is experiencing difficulties, “I’m sorry” can be an expression of understanding; it demonstrates an attitude of caring and empathy.

Disagreements will occur. When they do, bounce back quickly. If an “I’m sorry” is appropriate, muster the courage and say it. Don’t waste time wallowing in the stuff of the quarrel.

Someone has to be first to break the silence. Let it be you.

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Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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