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Saturday, March 5, 2011

Some Women Can’t Commit

Filed under: Commitment,For Women Only,Guest Authors — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Bob Bryce, Guest Author

It’s a fact of life for the modern woman, committing to someone is far more difficult than it used to be. Commitment means compromise.

Women complain that there are no eligible men anymore and that they have trouble finding anyone who matches up to their most basic requirements. It’s not very often that you would hear a man saying that there aren’t enough eligible women out there. They could say women are too picky though. Men used to be perceived as being afraid of commitment, now it’s some women.

prettygirlThere are lots of eligible men out there. Young, unmarried, good looking, single, with good careers, lifestyles, fit and healthy and looking for a serious relationship. In fact many men are monogamists!

The fact is, there are many talented men out there ready to commit, but they are really struggling to find partners. Its important to note that there is no great difference in the number of single, available men and women and so there’s isn’t an imbalance.

There’s been social change as important roles have opened up for women in the workplace. Salaries for women have increased in many sectors and financial liberation has allowed women to purchase their own apartments and cars and live a whole self-sufficient lifestyle. Women are able to conceive later and they have a sexual liberty similar to what men have always had.

Marriage has become a subject that is no longer quite as important as it once was. The average of age for marriage among western woman has now increased from the early twenties to the early thirties. Women instead have replaced early marriage with career and self -fulfillrelationship boundaries, life experiencesment. Women don’t want to jeopardize this success and comfort.

commitment1It is clear that relationships boundaries have changed. Many women will not compromise their jobs for the sake of a relationship. With career comes financial independence and like it or not, many women struggle to understand that men were brought up to feel like the dominant breadwinner. However, as many women excel in their given careers, so the man has to come to terms with the fact that he may not be the primary breadwinner any more. Indeed he may even stay at home and look after the children.

Women’s lives have become more complicated and more dynamic than they once were. Men are slow to react and understand this change. As women evolve their own independence during their twenties, they become more sophisticated consumers. Far more so than some men. This in turn means that they know what they are looking for when looking for a man. The sophisticated new woman will often see any committed relationship as perhaps having to give something up. Women say that they are seeking a man who will compliment their lives and add to their life experiences.

Children can change the equation because however successful and confident the modern woman is, her biological clock is ticking. Its important to stress that some women are now happy admitting they they don’t want children or don’t want to marry. But for those seeking children in their thirties, they have more options than merely seeking a stable semi-permanent relationship. The man’s role isn’t quite as important as it was as they can be replaced by a test tube.

A man used to call all the shots, now he must listen carefully so its not he who ends up being left on the shelf. It may not be that women can’t commit, it may simply be that they don’t have to anymore. This is evolution and we’ll all get used to it. Relationships between a man and a woman are still incredibly important and there’s still nothing like a great relationship but it no longer is the only way you can have a happy life.


Copyright © 2011 – Bob Bryce. Reprinted with permission. Bob Bryce is an internet marketer specializing in dating and matchmaking. Visit his Website:

Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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1 Comment »

  1. it is more of the women of today that do not want to COMMIT to us men, there are many of us serious men out there looking to meet a GOOD WOMAN NOW, but so many of these women out there now have such AN ATTITUDE PROBLEM and are so very difficult to start a CONVERSATION WITH. too much nasty women today, and many of them now certainly need to be MUCH BETTER EDUCATED. i am very tired of going out, and dealing with this garbage as it is. i just hope that i can meet a GOOD WOMAN for me, if they still EXIST.

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