It’s important to learn that it is possible for you to live alone and not be lonely. As a single, it is easy to lose track of yourself because you have those moments where you drift back into being alone and being lonely. Often married couples feel lonely too – even when they are with their partner. When you really love yourself, those moments happen less frequently. When you can be alone and not be lonely, that’s when love will find you.
“Start today – right now – the practice of living alone within yourself. If you persist with this kind of watchfulness, then one day the word ‘alone’ won’t frighten you anymore, and here’s why: there will be no more dark thoughts left within your psychic system to talk to you about how lonely you feel.” ~ Guy Finley
Loneliness is a reality of choice.
Our reality of choice is created by our intentions and what we think and do with our intentions. Each moment you choose the intentions that will shape your future experience. What we pay attention to, we get more of. We are only lonely because we allow ourselves to feel that way. It’s a state of mind. One that is nearly impossible to overcome as long as you continue to concentrate upon it.
Loneliness often comes from being bored with being with ourselves. There is nothing wrong with feeling lonely unless we allow ourselves to feel that way most of the time. It is a very real feeling. If we continue to always feel that way, then we need to work on being comfortable with being with the one we are with. . . ourselves!
Almost everyone feels lonely on occasion, however most people, given the choice, would much rather not feel that way. When you can be alone and not be lonely, then you can move on to what’s next.
All you have is choice. It is your greatest gift!
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Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
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