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Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Discover Your Partner’s Hot Buttons!

Filed under: Intimacy,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:00 am

HotButtonPush them spontaneously. I’m not talking about the ones you’ve been pushing to get even or to piss off your partner, but the ones you should push. Like turn-ons.

Remember the few first months of your relationship? The butterflies, long kisses, romantic nights and gazes of enduring love? The great sex? Ahh. . . sweet memories! That was then. This is now! Time to make some new memories!

Know what makes your partner happy, excited and blissful. You must pay attention to do this. Make notes if you must to help you remember. Anyone can keep the love alive in a relationship ‚Äď it just takes a little planning and a lot of imagination. Often what your mate needs is only a warm and tender hug, a kiss on the neck or an unexpected full-body massage.

erogenouszonesMen can be so clueless as to what turns women on. Women love it when you guys are a bit subtle. Push her hair to the side and run a finger down the middle of the back or neck all the way down her spine. Now kiss her neck as your arms circle her. Allow her to know that you really do care about the way that she feels.

What about the guys? Subtle things – ones that are just enough to get his imagination going – are often what arouse men the most whether it’s a mildly suggestive phrase or an “accidental” touch. Sometimes just running your fingers through his hair can do it. Giving him a coy compliment lets him know that you’re interested.

steamyPushing your partner’s hot buttons can turn things warm and romantic or hot and steamy.

Perhaps a private study of erogenous zones might help. ūüėČ

“The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change until we notice how our failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.” – R. D. Laing, Scottish Psychiatrist

Pay attention!

Copyright ¬© 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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  3. Hot buttons are awesome and they keep things fresh.

    Comment by Stephanie — Wednesday, January 19, 2011 @ 11:12 am | Reply

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