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Friday, October 8, 2010

So. . . How Do You Really Feel About Your Partner?

Filed under: Relationships,Romance — Larry James @ 7:00 am

There is a line in my “romantic” wedding ceremony that says, “Always remember to say ‘I love you’ (outloud) at least once each day!” While the gift of a rose, a box of chocolates (unless they are on a diet) or a special greeting card is an expression of love, it is important for your love partner to HEAR the words, “I love you” at least once (or more) each day.

This is good advice and there are many other ways to express your love for your partner. Love is eaten away by routine. Be playful and creative.

Write a brief love note on the “sticky side” of a Post It® note with a red pen. Cut it in the shape of a heart and attach it to the bottom of your loved one’s drinking glass. When they get to the bottom of their glass or when they look through the clear liquid, and will see the note.

aurghRecently my partner fixed a sandwich for her lunch the next day and placed it in a brown paper bag and put it in the refrigerator. I happened to see it later that night and wrote her a quick LoveNote and placed it in the bottom of the bag.

A brief “text” message on your partner’s cell phone is a nice surprise.

My partner carries around a little notepad in her purse for reminders of what she has to do. She left if on the counter at home so I added my own little love note on one of the pages.

Select a special day each week to compliment your mate in some special way. Be sure the compliment is personal and handmade; send an e-mail, a card or love poster, or a handwritten sweet note.

I once spotted some wild flowers by the side of the road. I pulled over and stopped the car. She asked why I was stopping and I told her it was a surprise. I got out of the car and made a “spur-of-the-moment” bouquet of freshly picked wild flowers and spontaneously presented them to my partner through her side of the car window.

Send your partner a special note to their office telling them that tonight you are offering a full-body massage, with candlelight and favorite beverage. Let your fingers do the talking. It’s a great way to express your love for your partner. Or, hire a masseuse to give your partner a professional massage at home.

heartcarvedintreeCarve a heart and your partner’s initials (yours too) on a tree, then plan a surprise picnic under the tree. Let your sweetheart discover the surprise.

At the beach? Find a stick and write your names in the sand and draw a heart around it.

Women: Do something WITH him that he wouldn’t expect you to do. Tickets to a sporting event; plan a fishing trip. If you hate sports, go anyway and allow yourself to have fun just being with him. Show interest in his hobby, interests and pastimes.

Leave “Post-It®” notes with special messages hidden all over the house for your lover to find when they least expect it. Hide them in a pair of pants they have in the closet, inside every pair of shoes, under things, inside books they read, inside folded towels they will use, in the car, taped inside the fridge, on the telephone, in the sugar bowl, etc. It may take them days to find them all and they will love every one.

Make a copy of your wedding photo, put it in a special frame and write the words, “I love you more today than yesterday,” and sign your name.

Buy some children’s sidewalk chalk. Draw a large heart on the driveway with red chalk and write, “I love you” in the middle.

THINK AHEAD. Plan a romantic weekend get-away, away from the phone, the children, TV, etc. Just BE together. Take time away from your usual environment and routine to go somewhere different and create quality time together. It is a wonderful way to keep romance alive.

Surprise your sweetheart when they least expect it. Show up at work, school, on their lunch-break, etc., just to give them a rose, a kiss, a hug or a special card and tell them you love them.

Long Distant Relationship? Write a very special love message on the back of a small jigsaw puzzle, then take the puzzle apart so he or she has to put it together to read the message. Mail the puzzle all at once or several pieces at a time.

Have twin t-shirts made with special “love” messages on the front and back.

Here is a “dare” to you guys: Give your sweetheart a “Love” coupon that says, “I’ll do all the household chores for the next week!”

Shameless Plug: Buy your sweetheart a copy of “How to Really Love the One You’re With” and read it together. Write something special for your partner on the inside. You use a yellow (yellow) highlighter and give your partner a pale blue highlighter and mark all the thoughts and ideas that are important to you. If you both happen to mark the same thing, blue and yellow (yellow) make green. You know where you are on target and where to focus on what your lover considers important to the relationship. (If you will call me, I will sign it to your partner and send it to you – 480-998-9411)

thinkhappyWrite a love letter out of candy bar titles. Get a piece of brightly colored poster board and a bunch of your favorite candy bars. Write your love letter on the board in a contrasting colored pen. Replace key words with candy bars wrappers taped onto the poster board.

BONUS Article: Read: “Kidding Around With Romance

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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