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Thursday, September 30, 2010

4th 100 Tweets from Larry James’ Relationship Twitter!

I have posted the 4th 100 Tweets (400 Relationship Tweets in all) on my once daily “Relationship Twitter” and thought you might enjoy reading all of them 140 characters at a time. All are adapted from my book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

LoveNotes for Lovers is a collection of meditations, affirmations and reflections on love. A valued relationship is something you work on all the time, not only when its broken and needs to be fixed. LoveNotes for Lovers assists in that process.

lovenotesEvery LoveNote is but one more piece of the relationship puzzle. The design of LoveNotes for Lovers is to help people fit the pieces of the relationship puzzle together in a healthy way. Each one is a mini-lesson in love.

You will also see an occasional link that references an article I have written about that key word. Each link opens in a new window so you won’t lose your place.

You are welcome to use these “LoveNotes” as quotes provided you credit the author as per below:

LoveNote. . . Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of forgiveness, appreciation, understanding & Love. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

You can read the 1st 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/2nd-100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

TwitterYou can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

Follow my once daily “Relationship Tweets” at: http://Twitter.com/LarryJames – Enjoy!

When asked, say, “This is one of our best days!” Positive words build positive momentum in your love relationship. Do what needs to be done.

Do things that promote positive momentum in your relationship. Always be moving forward. It will help you have “one of your best days!”

If you are always looking for the good that makes life better, you will surely always find it. Do more of that for each other & be loving.

There is nothing wrong with putting your best foot forward unless you are only being nice to get what you want. That’s a really BIG “no-no!”

Be yourself. Right now! How sad to try to be someone you think someone else thinks you should be. Be the real you all the time starting now.

Can you imagine? BOTH partners working on the relationship they have with each other & supporting each other in their own personal growth!

Relationships become a struggle when someone is not pulling their fair share of the load. Get involved with your partner. Stay focused!

Be challenged by engaging in meaningful conversation. Talk about things that are important to your relationship. Don’t leave anything out.

Have you reached a point where it is pointless to complain because you now know that relationships are what you make of them?

When true love is present, commitments arise naturally. They expand our capacity to love. They are nurtured by compassion & understanding.

Giving compliments is an excellent way of catching your partner doing something right. They develop better communication and build trust.

When you understand that time spent justifying your position that is not working is futile, you can then move forward. It’s an energy drain.

Relationship problems are shared problems. To manage the complexity of a stormy relationship you must accept responsibility for your share.

Love partners can spot a fake compliment a mile away. Flattery is usually received with negativity & is often perceived as manipulative.

Genuine compliments given freely by your partner reach a special place inside of you. They are a warm reminder of how very special you are.

Thoughtless words spoken by a stranger do not have nearly the impact as the same words spoken by someone you trust or someone you love.

What you resist, persists. The more you hold on to being right about your position, the more you get to grapple with your own inner thoughts

Love cannot exist in the presence of fear. It is impossible for opposites to co-exist. They cannot occupy the same space at the same time.

Instead of always pointing fingers & calling attention to the mistakes of your partner, focus on the good. Catch them doing something right!

Think about it: Relationships never end. Death, divorce or separation only changes them. As long as you have memory, you will be related.

Want a change in the intimacy area? Intimacy demands trust. There can be no trust without conversation; no genuine intimacy without trust.

Whatever you choose to say, say it like you mean it. If your voice isn’t congruent with the power of your compliment, it’s false praise.

Compliments help partners feel good about themselves. It causes them to feel appreciated & respected. It brings out the best in your lover.

Letting go can be the 1st is a series of positive actions that can liberate you from your negative past. Experience the joy of release.

If you have a tendency to put your partner down (even in jest) or invalidate their feelings, make a choice to change that behavior TODAY!

What if you knew this would be the last day you would spend with your partner; the last time you would ever talk to them? What would you say

We often cannot see that we have choice. No matter what happens we always have choice. Think before choice. Not making a choice is a choice.

Relationship off track? The cost of complacency is substantial. Waiting for your partner to “come around,” may prove futile. Go first.

Feel like lashing out? Put your hands over your mouth. Count to 10 or 20. Toothpaste once squeezed, cannot be put back into the tube.

There is no future in the past. Being stuck in the past serves no worthy purpose. It takes energy to remain confused. Live in the moment.

If you do not cherish the companionship you find with yourself then you can never find it with someone else. Be your own best friend.

Trust introduces you to a new freedom, the freedom to think & feel & really be with the one you love. Trust opens the door to possibilities.

The hurt we experience sometimes keeps us at a distance from responsible choices. Move through the pain knowing we are never without choice.

In reality, anger is a derivative of and an expression of fear. To transcend or master fear, we must turn our back on it; exercise courage.

Promise to always openly communicate affection and commitment. Do it in very loving ways. It gives your future together more of a chance.

In a healthy love relationship, things are easiest when both love partners take responsibility for the whole, not just their halves.

I see upsets in my relationship not only as an exterior circumstance to be remedied but as an interior condition to be understood & healed.

Mature lovers who love unconditionally, develop a knack for side- stepping resentment & focusing on the good they see in one another.

Never use your children as an excuse to not work on you or your relationship. Putting them first & you last has your priorities backwards.

To experience the kind of relationship you want & Love, both love partners must have clearly developed, open channels of communication.

The energy required for the self-discipline of honesty is far less than the energy required for withholding what is in your heart.

When your relationship needs help… ask for it. Don’t delay. The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be to move past “stuck!”

Affirmation ~ My love partner and I share similar spiritual values. Higher spiritual values give meaning and purpose to our relationship.

Ask yourself: “Would I want to be in a relationship with me?” & “Am I someone who I would want to be with forever?” Answer honestly.

Committed love partners know it is wise to plan their time together. Go on a date. Talk about it. Plan it in advance. Look forward to it.

When we run from our feelings, they follow us… everywhere! Feelings must be expressed. To stuff your feelings is to stay stuck with them.

Affirmation ~ When I am hurting, I ask my lover for a warm & tender hug. There is Divine healing in a silent, close embrace. It really works

Being vulnerable promotes unity by creating a common bond of sharing that helps each other be the best they can be for the relationship.

Resist being afraid to reveal your limitations to your partner. It’s scary. Working together on strengthening limitations develops character

Forgiveness is a mental attitude. Once convinced of its own idea, forgiveness is complete; freedom follows. Ah. . . what a relief!

Forgiveness is for your benefit. It gives you the freedom to move forward. It releases you from all personal suffering & feelings of loss.

Mutually solving problems brings love partners closer together. It allows for negotiation & compromise. It promotes positive momentum.

The goal of resolving conflict in a relationship is not victory or defeat. It is reaching a mutual understanding through open discussions.

Mature love partners permit each other the freedom to pursue their individual interests and friends without restriction. Enter… TRUST!

Hey guys! Always remember, foreplay begins with taking out the garbage “without being asked!” Do things for her. Willingly. Don’t grumble.

The great thing about authenticity is that it releases you from the requirement to be perfect. No one is perfect. Be you own good self.

Being authentic is the key to truly happy, healthy relationships. It is not possible to be happy without being true to yourself.

Never repress the things that happen that make the relationship not so great. Learn to talk about them & decide to do things differently.

If you are always looking for the good that makes your relationship better, you will surely always find it. What makes life great together?

To neglect our own responsibilities in the relationship in favor of our love partner’s responsibility in the relationship is codependency.

Need relationship help? Ask for it. Your relationship is too precious to ignore. Sometimes constant bickering is the calm before the storm!

Being attentive to your partner’s needs, regardless of the importance you may place on them, will support things in & out of the bedroom.

Women can often tell a man’s interest in them by the length of his attention span. Genuine listening is an act of love. Pay attention!

Where is it written that a man should have only one job & a woman have two? Housework is not just the woman’s responsibility! Offer to help.

Guys: Leave a note on the toilet seat (after you’ve put it down) that says “I put the seat down because I love you, not because I should.”

If you want to keep your significant other happy and content – do things for her… “willingly.” Run errands. Switch roles. Gas the car.

Discover new ways of expressing your love for each other. Hire a skywriter. Put a message on a billboard. Buy a radio spot to say I love you

When you become more than you are, you accomplish the personal rewards that come with doing the best you can & from which others can model.

Are you proud of YOU as an accomplishment? Are you proud of the example you are for others to become? Let your light shine for others to see

As we understand our equal share in creating problems, blame, self-doubt, & discord gives way to personal responsibility, & mutual respect.

Commitment to complete the journey together, come what may, nurtures the love needed to arrive there together. Love answers to all questions

Healthy couples identify problems, talk openly and honestly about their differences and choose workable solutions wisely & quickly.

Couples need to go through the ups and downs, experience the traumas and revel in the successes of their relationship in order to grow.

Your relationship with your partner must be an equal partnership; one that mutually supports each other in their dreams and visions.

Be courageous enough to not always take yourselves so seriously; to laugh, play & be playful & to experience whatever is exciting to both.

Paying attention to the “little things” is not always easy. Practice. It’s the little things that count in a healthy love relationship.

Give up your expectations. Focus on what you need from your relationship. Then proceed with confidence. Mutually discuss your needs.

Become dedicated to mutual pleasure for both you & your love partner. Communicate openly & honestly. Sex is fun & pleasure is good for you!

Spend “quality” time together. Make a promise to have a date with your mate no less than once each week. No excuses, please!

Breath new life into your relationship each day by consistently focusing on new ideas that keeps the fire of love burning. It’s energizing.

The energy we give to our troubles by dwelling on them, saps us of the energy we need to find solutions for them. Redirect your energy.

Mature love partners have learned not to expect perfection in each other. They know that acceptance, love & understanding is its own reward.

Do unto your partner, as you would have your partner do unto you! That’s a really great rule to live your relationship by. Try it. It works

In a healthy love relationship, things are easiest when both love partners take responsibility for the whole, not just their halves.

You are the architect of your own discomfort. The key is to never wallow in the suffering any longer than is necessary to learn the lesson.

Never say things you do not mean. In anger we often say things that we later say we really didn’t mean. Be wise. You cannot un-ring a bell.

Be happy now! It’s a choice you know. There is no future in the past. There is only right now! Focus on the present. Live it to its fullest

You can say, “I’m sorry,” once and you may be forgiven. If you continue to say bad things they can drive a wedge between you & your partner.

Make having a relationship with you your number one priority. The one you are with is you! Put yourself 1st. Spend time working on you.

Saying bad things to your partner that you wouldn’t say to a close friend can be & usually is the beginning of the end of the relationship.

If you’re in a relationship for the long haul, be wise & treat your partner with respect & demonstrate your love in thoughtful ways.

When two people work together, they can always accomplish more. Communicate! Connect in loving ways. Say, “I love you” often.

You give of yourself to the other. You never give up yourself to the other. When you are both #1 no one ever has to worry about competition.

Without trust there can be no effective communication; without effective communication there can be no genuine intimacy. Honesty always wins

Develop a mutual incentive that will assist you in motivating each other to be the best you can be. Be inventive & creative. Share ideas.

Healthy couples identify problems, talk openly and honestly about their differences and choose workable solutions as quickly as possible.

The words you speak determines what shows up in your relationship. Things go well because you both say so & because of what each of you do.

You make the choice. Intimacy or separation. It’s in your hands. Talk or be silent & wait for the inevitable; the ultimate separation.

Never argue with your love partner’s feelings. Learn to appreciate & respect your lover’s different point of view. Only seek to understand!

To have found someone you can share your love and life with is one of life’s greatest treasures and most exciting romantic adventures.

You can read the 1st 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/07/25/100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/2nd-100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

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Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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NOTE: You are welcome to use any of the above “Tweets” as quotes as long as you give credit. Example:

LoveNote. . . Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of forgiveness, appreciation, understanding & Love. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

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  1. […] It allows for negotiation & compromise. It promotes positive momentum. The goal of resolving conflict in a relationship is not victory or defeat. It is reaching a mutual understanding through open discussions. …. NOTE: You are welcome to use any of the above “Tweets” as quotes as long as you give credit. Example: LoveNote. . . Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of forgiveness, appreciation, understanding & Love. …Go to Source […]

    Pingback by 4th 100 Tweets from Larry James' Relationship Twitter! « Larry … — Thursday, September 30, 2010 @ 5:03 pm | Reply

  2. […] LoveNotes for Lovers is a collection of meditations, affirmations and reflections on love. A valued relationship is something you work on all the time, not only when its broken and needs to be fixed. LoveNotes for Lovers assists in that … Letting go can be the 1st is a series of positive actions that can liberate you from your negative past. Experience the joy of release. If you have a tendency to put your partner down (even in jest) or invalidate their feelings, …Go to Source […]

    Pingback by 4th 100 Tweets from Larry James' Relationship Twitter! « Larry … — Thursday, September 30, 2010 @ 7:48 am | Reply


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