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Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Unleash Your Romantic Fervor!

Filed under: Relationships,Romance — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Fer·vor/ˈfərvər/ – Noun: Intense and passionate feeling.

Your ROI (return on investment) in your relationship will manifest itself in ways you cannot imagine when you unleash your romantic fervor. If your relationship has a hazy outlook, you can accelerate your recovery by focusing on improving your expertise in the relationship arena. If you think you are romantically inept – you get to be right. Romance is such an important part of any relationship.

chivalrykisshandWhen romance occurs in your relationship, you can’t help but feel the overwhelming sensation of floating on air and being mesmerized by the intoxicating aroma of love all around you. One thing that most people want, male and female, is to feel special and to feel loved. It is a feeling worthy of pursuit.

Romantic love is a passionate – spiritual – emotional – sexual attachment between two people that reflects a high regard for the value of each person. Fascination, attraction, and passion may be born “at first sight.” Love is not. Love requires knowledge, time and consciously, directed awareness. ~ Dr. Nathaniel Branden

Be intentional with your romantic fervor. Allow your creative juices to flow. My experience as a relationship coach suggests that being romantic on a whim usually means you want something. Don’t try to get anything out of being romantic. The most important part about being romantic with your partner is to do it without any expectations. Do it because you love them. Love and Romance never go out of style.

As you navigate the “ups and downs” of a relationship be sure you are always spending some of your time learning more about being romantic. The best times to be romantic are on days when it’s least expected. Your romantic attempts must become habitual. And since it takes 21 to 30 days to develop a new habit you have your work cut out for you. Consider the possibilities.

flowersurpriseRomantic overtures may seem to come easily to some people, however that is only because they have learned this fine technique, and practice how to be romantic on a regular basis. Some people feel loved when they hear those sweet words whispered, “I love You,” others feel love, by being touched, and others feel love by simple everyday kindnesses. Random hugs are soooo good! Flowers or a romantic card – for no special reason work too. An unexpected foot massage feels mighty special.

Being romantic isn’t as difficult as you think. Collaborate with your partner with confidence. Leverage the power of two. It just makes sense. While doing so you will continually learn more about your partner’s likes and dislikes. A romantic person is one that is in tune with what motivates that special person in their life. The results have a tremendous payoff.

sunsetBe full of surprises. Unleash the unexpected. Be creative. Flirt. Be playful. Surprises are a good thing and never fail to make your partner happy. Surprises are considered very romantic – it’s like expressing all romance, sweetness, thoughtfulness and excitement all in one single activity. Be someone who looks only for the good in your partner. Surprises are magical.

How long has it been since you took your partner by the hand and said, “Let’s go someplace special this evening and watch the sunset!”

You are only limited by your own imagination and the desire to make romance happen. Put your partner at the top of our “To-Do List.” Are you and your partner a team or are the two of you disconnected partners? Romantic fervor is a great re-connector!

No excuses! Get busy!

BONUS articles:

• “Need Some Romantic Ideas?”
Get Your Flirt On!
The ABC’s of Celebrating Love!
The Essence of Romance
Kidding Around With Romance


Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.

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