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Sunday, July 4, 2010

Set Off Some Fireworks!

Filed under: Relationships — Larry James @ 7:00 am

4julyRemember how it was when you first met?

Think about it for a moment. Sparks were flying! Your hormones were dancing together in unison. You were in love and on fire!

What happened?

fireworksYou can make all the excuses you want but if you are not having the close, intimate sessions you once had and desire to have again, perhaps it is best to begin again. There is no shame in beginning again as long as you both can put the past behind you – all the ups and downs and the pressures of married life that have caused your love to become stagnant.

Building a successful relationship is a never ending process. Work most on the first reality of your relationship – you. Your own personal growth contributes to the deepening and strengthening of the relationship you have with another.

The second reality is your love partner. The relationship they have with themselves is only and always their responsibility.

The third reality of a successful relationship is the ‘us’ of it. The joining of two whole people – complete in themselves – to do the work of a forever relationship is a worthy pursuit; one that is the most challenging and beautiful of all human experiences.

It’s time to learn how to light the fire AND keep it burning red hot! It doesn’t hurt to flirt with your partner! It adds excitement! Flirting sends natural amphetamines and endorphins surging through the body, stimulating an instant emotional “high” not unlike the big “O.”

Camp out in your back yard with lot of blankets for padding and a cooler with your favorite beverage. Make out on a pile of leaves under the moonlight.

fire-writingheartGive your lover a deep rub, full-body massage. Touch every inch. Treat them to an assortment of massage creams and oils; something with a relaxing, sensuous, and alluring scent.

Discover a road less traveled. Take a drive in the country. Turn off on a dirt road, park under a tree and. . . well, use your imagination.

Write a sexy message on the bathroom mirror with lipstick. Draw a heart around your words.

Write a sexy make-out message with an invitation for close intimacy and put it in a small bottle. Draw your lover a warm bubble bath. Leave the bottle floating for him/her to find hidden among the bubbles.

fireworksheartcoupleIt is okay to play with fire in the bedroom! Making love is an honest expression of how you feel toward each other.

Joyfully say goodbye to the same old same old. Be creative in your lovemaking. Be adventurous and eager to try new ideas. Consider lovemaking an important activity. Waiting until it’s convenient is a mistake. Put it at the top of your priorities.

Unwaveringly do the things that brought you together in the first place. Frequently say, “I love you,” aloud.

There is a direct correlation between the number of times you make love and the number of disagreements or arguments you have over the same time period.

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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