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Saturday, June 26, 2010

Beware of Dancing Hormones! – For Singles Only

Filed under: For Singles Only,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:00 am

You must learn to be alone and happy before you can be together with someone else and be happy. Your happiness only and always depends upon how you feel when you are alone, never how you think you will feel when you are with someone else.

Healthy love relationships require that you be strong enough to resist rushing to your next relationship before all the hurts of the past are healed. Healing takes time. Doing healing alone or with the assistance of a skilled professional, will always get you where you want to go much quicker.

Be alone in the short term for the extraordinary long term benefits. Learn what it takes to be in a healthy relationship with yourself. When you get comfortable with being alone; when the feeling that you must be in a relationship to feel complete disappears, most likely you will be ready for another relationship.

The path to a healthy love relationship becomes more clear when you put your own well being ahead of having to be in a relationship to feel good about yourself.

Beware of dancing hormones! They often mask a multitude of stuff. You know what I mean. It’s that time when both of your antennas go up! You’re tuned in to each other. Your body tells you things you didn’t know about yourself. Your heart is dancing! Is it your heart or your hormones? To some, that is the fun part; a time for romance; the time when you are deep in thought. . . “Is this the one?”

While it’s true that this part of a relationship feels good, perhaps you should follow your heart instead of your hormones on this one. The hormones will scream words like: ‘forget all that stuff about healthy love relationships, live fast, love hard and get this one before he or she gets away!’ or ‘carve another notch, this one’s the same as in bed!’ or whatever the hormones moan.

Your heart will whisper words like: ‘take it easy!’ – ‘one step at a time!’ – ‘get to know each other’ – ‘tell each other the relevant truth’ – ‘make sure it’s love and not just sex!’ or whatever the heart could say that would be words of love and encouragement.

Only and always listen to your heart!

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Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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1 Comment »

  1. You and I think alike, I truly believe one must be happy themselves in order to invite another into their lives, good stuff.

    Comment by arnell johnson — Tuesday, June 29, 2010 @ 7:15 pm | Reply


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