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Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Jazz Up Your Relationship!

Filed under: Relationships — Larry James @ 6:00 am
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musicnotesTeach your friend or lover to love jazz or to understand the concept of jazz and you’ll have a friend for life.

Jazz is one of the highest levels of communication from the Infinite to man. Jazz is free expression. It can enhance your relationship.

When a jazz musician plays jazz, although he may not consciously know what the next note will be, he trusts his intuition enough to fearlessly play it.

Good jazz players trust their intuition. The music goes directly from soul to horn, guitar, piano, etc., with unbridled power and flawless technique. Mediocre jazz players do not get this. They never seem to get “in the groove.”

Composers create three minutes of music in whatever time it takes, anywhere from three hours to three years. Jazz improvisers create three minutes of music in three minutes. Period. Jazz musicianship – as can relationships – can be nurtured and developed.

When you can learn to fearlessly communicate with your partner at a level of jazz you create a whole new possibility for relationship to show up. One that is spontaneous, fun, exciting and more.

Jazz teaches us to trust our intuition. What makes relationships work? Trust. This is the foundation for any successful collaboration.

John Birks “Dizzy” Gillespie once said, “Communication is important, after all you make your profession jazz because first, you love it, and secondly as a means of your livelihood. So, if there is no direct communication with the audience for which you are playing, there goes your livelihood.” The same goes for your relationship. What you take for granted. . . disappears!

milesdavisWhen you begin to relate to how jazz gets created, you begin learning how you know that the next note is the right note.

“When you hit a wrong note, it’s the next note that makes it good or bad.” – Miles Davis

It’s what you do after you make a mistake in a relationship that makes the difference! Avoid any discord when you can. Your motives or your agenda can emphasize the rhythm of the relationship.

If it is true that “intuition is the voice of God,” and I believe it is, your intuition can never be wrong.

Perhaps one of the most important keys to having a healthy and successful relationship is to learn to listen to and trust your intuition without question.

Trust yourself to write your own relationship music. Play what “is” right, not what feels right. Play the next notes fearlessly.

Communicating with your partner at a level of jazz is being willing to risk no undelivered communication relevant to your relationship with no expectations.

When the Infinite communicates, there can be no withholds.

Knowing this does not make a difference. Doing something about it does.

Whoever fails to try what his heart would have him do – because his mind tells him, “This you cannot do” – fails to hear the ever-present Voice of Reality forever shouting to all those who would dare: “No sincere effort ever goes without being rewarded.” – Guy Finley

A well crafted piece of music becomes a container that can hold and make meaning, even beauty, of paradox. A well crafted, loving and soulful relationship can do the same thing.

Go into the world and make beautiful music. . . together!


Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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1 Comment »

  1. I love jazz. Jazz is the language of love.

    Comment by Jeremiah — Thursday, April 8, 2010 @ 2:13 am | Reply

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