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Thursday, February 18, 2010

Need Some Lip Lessons?

Filed under: Kissing,Romantic Kiss,Romantic Tips! — Larry James @ 6:00 am
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It’s never too late to learn how to kiss. I mean. . . really kiss. Enduring a terrible kiss can be more than just unpleasant. It can add tension to intimate moments, or worse, end a great romance before it even starts. Any day is a good excuse for pucker practice.

Have you ever stopped to think what a kiss really does? A warm and tender kiss triggers endorphins and melts away tension. It brings us back into the moment. It also restores energy, cultivates profound closeness and contributes to a fulfilling, loving relationship. Kissing is meant to be fun.

kissA kiss has been described as the height of voluptuousness. It has a lovely, luscious and lusty legacy. Two pairs of lips are for kissing. It is an essential element for communicating love and affection in your relationship.

I would venture to say that everyone has been guilty of kissing with only a very small awareness of the moment. A snappy, routine peck doesn’t cut it. It conveys the message that this is all the time I have for you right now. Is that anyway to nurture a healthy relationship?

kissykissyA quick puckering up for a fast smooch suggests that you have a predetermined few seconds for a kiss instead of letting it evolve into a meaningful moment. Remember this: Kissing should be more than a prelude to intimacy. Make it a romantic kiss. Open your lips… but only slightly. Let the kiss develop itself, don’t force it.

A kiss speaks many different meanings to its lover; when it is missing, many interpretations as to the reasons for its absence surface. These interpretations can become invisible wedges that prevent love from expressing.

When love is present, kissing is an important part of expressing that love. Pay attention to it. Breathe. Relax. Slow down. Concentrate and engage the electricity in your body.

Check your breath. If you are intending to kiss someone for the first time then avoid strong foods like onion, garlic or strong flavors, unless of course your partner has been indulging in the same foods. Brush your teeth and use mouthwash. If in doubt about your breath, suck a breath mint. But remember to have swallowed it before you start kissing, or your partner will be very surprised, particularly if they don’t like mint.

If your lips are cracked and dry, they won’t feel nice to kiss. Try using lip balm regularly, and lick your lips to make them a little moist just before, as this will make the kiss easier.

kissing school bookIn her book, “Kissing School: Seven Lessons on love, Lips and Life Force,” Cherie Byrd says, “Surprise your partner with a slow, luxuriant kiss. Place your hands on his/her face, and gently turn it toward you. Look into his/her eyes and take two deep breaths – as though you are drinking in the essence of your partner. Continue to look into each others eyes as you draw his/her face closer. Feel your connection to each other throughout your whole body. Don’t kiss yet – instead, revel in your partner’s nearness and enjoy the tease and the hunger that precede the actual kiss. Finally, gently embrace your partner’s lips by wrapping both your lips around on his/hers. Keep breathing as you let your whole body sense the tenderness between you.” NOTE: Visit Cherie’s Website!

Sound good? It sure does to me. When you are kissing, notice any urge to sigh, murmur or even moan. Let go. Make a little noise. Match your partner’s breathing. This can create a deep sense of connection.

Byrd says, “As kissing continues, use your lips and tongue to invite your beloved’s tongue to come and play. Kisses, like your breath, your touch and your connection, become more fully and deeply engaged s you share your energy back and forth.”

didyouknowHere are 7 factoids about kissing I bet you didn’t know:

1. Kissing stimulates over 30 facial muscles which smooths out skin and increase blood circulation to the face. It burns 12 calories per five-second episode and three passionate kisses a day will help you lose one pound!

2. The longest kiss in movie history was between Jane Wyman and Regis Tommey in the 1941 film, You’re in the Army Now. It lasted 3 minutes and 5 seconds.

3. Did you know that the average person spends 336 hours of their life puckering up?

4. Kissing is good for what ails you. Research shows that the act of smooching improves our skin, helps circulation, prevents tooth decay, and can even relieve headaches.

5. Kissing stabilizes cardiovascular activity, decreases high blood pressure, and lowers cholesterol.

6. Kissing prevents cavities and plaque build-up by stimulating saliva production while preventing gingivitis through the calcium present in saliva.

7. Kissing does its part to vaccinate people from new germs. Saliva contains bacteria, 80% of them are common to all people with 20% unique to each person. By sharing saliva with a partner, you are stimulating your immune system to respond to the different bacteria you are being exposed to. The result is that your immune system creates certain anti-bodies to these new bacteria, which in effect vaccinates you against these germs. This process is called cross-immunotherapy.

The next time you want to give your sweetheart the perfect gift, may I suggest that you use your lips to speak to your sweetheart instead of your wallet. Actions speak louder than words!

Kiss someone you love today!

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I kiss you

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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