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Friday, January 29, 2010

Got Hugs?

Filed under: Relationships — Larry James @ 6:00 am
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There is power in a hug. It’s a great gift and one size fits all.

Hugs bring people together. It can be given for any occasion and it’s easy to exchange. This expression of human touch can silently speak forgiveness, sensitivity, acceptance, caring, healing and love.

A hug-a-day pays dividends beyond your wildest imaginings. AND. . . it feels good to be touched by the one you love. A hug is a handshake from the heart.

A hug is a form of physical intimacy, not necessarily sexual, that usually involves closing or holding the arms around another person. The hug is one of the most common human signs of love and affection. Hugs may also be exchanged as a sign of support and comfort. There’s something in a simple hug that always warms the heart.

A hug is like a boomerang – you get it back right away. – Bil Keane, “Family Circus”

Married couples who give each other back rubs or touch each other affectionately in other ways for at least 30 minutes three times a week have 34% lower levels of stress, according to Julianne Holt-Lunstad, PhD. She adds that researchers found that being affectionate releases the hormone oxytocin, which may protect against stress-related illnesses.

Catch some Z’s in each others arms. Zero in on being close. Touching feels good. Enhance your enjoyment by listening to your partner’s breathing cycle and to their heartbeat. Inhale and exhale together. Become as one.

Getting close does not only just count in horseshoes! There is power in a warm embrace. It is the perfect way to show the love we’re feeling but can’t find the words to say.

Tender moments of togetherness are necessary for a love relationship to grow. They must be tempered with the balance that the benefits of separateness also promote. The balance between closeness and separateness must be respected.

This heart-to-heart communication requires an emotional atmosphere of caring, safety and trust. Intimate partners do not have to say words to be understood.

The “heart-to-heart” hug works this way. Your partner’s head is always over your left shoulder. That way you are hugging heart-to-heart.

There is Divine healing in a silent, close embrace. It’s the shortest distance between close friends.

How long has it been since you offered your partner a hug? Or asked for one?

Just for fun. . . click here to put your own name in a cute, little story about hugs!


Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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1 Comment »

  1. I like to believe that some magic energy interchange happens during a hug. You get his vibes, he gets yours – in the end you both feel stronger and recharged.

    Comment by marriage problems blog — Tuesday, February 9, 2010 @ 11:18 am | Reply

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