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Sunday, January 17, 2010

Dazzle Your Partner Unexpectedly

Filed under: Relationships — Larry James @ 6:00 am
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Predictability breeds boredom. Be spontaneous.

Do something completely out of character. Send a mushy greeting card for no reason.

Suddenly stop beside the road, pick a wild flower, hand it to your partner through her car window, say, “I love you!” and be on your way.

If you are annoyed because your partner spends too much time watching football, surprise him and watch the game with him. Pop some popcorn and bring his favorite beverage on a tray.

If you hate to go grocery shopping, make the list together and surprise each other by sharing in that responsibility. Just don’t go while you’re hungry! ūüėČ

Surprising your spouse with flowers or a romantic dinner reminds your partner that you still are in love with him/her.

Light some candles in the bathroom and treat her to a warm bubble bath followed by a 20-minute foot message. Use your imagination. If you decide to run a bath for your partner because she had a bad day, it shows that you are thinking specifically about what would please her, and that thoughtfulness is far more important than even the action itself.

The happiest couples touch a lot. Try a slight squeeze on the shoulder at breakfast or a hug before you run off to work or go to bed. Do lots of cuddling. Do spoons.

Make a date. Make time for special nights together several times a month. Making the effort to dress up and go outside the home together reinforces your “coupleness” and adds vitality to a relationship.

Romantically impaired? Read, “1001 Ways to Be Romantic” by my friend, Greg Godek.

Copyright ¬© 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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1 Comment »

  1. Larry you are of course absolutely right, doing something nice and unexpected for your loved one refreshes the relationship. It’s a random gesture that shows we care, and are interested.
    In our busy stressful lives we may not say the loving things our partner would like to hear often enough. A simple heartfelt act, when not expected goes a long way!


    Comment by Ray — Monday, January 18, 2010 @ 4:58 am | Reply

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